IM IN LOVE BUT I NEED YOUR HELP

Ok i love my boyfriend but i dont know wat to do. he is so afraid of being hurt by another gurl and he keeps this shield around his heart and it pushes me away sometimes. he had a really bad child hood his mom was never there for him and she still isnt and it hurts him i know because he talks to me about it and i can see it in his eyes. every gurl in his life has hurt him and he wont let himself love me because of this. im tryin to be there for him and stick by his side to show him that all i wanna do is love him and never let him down but sometimes its gets to a point where i can feel so lonely in the relationship u know. like he can be layin right next to me at night and i will still feel lonely. how do i show him that wat he is lookin for is right in front of him. how do i show him that i will never hurt him. all i do is love him. do i stand by his side and continue to feel this painful feeling of loneliness in my heart because he is afraid to trust me. or do i not be selfish and juss wait it out and hope that one day he will see that im gonna be here regardless.................

There is nothing you can do to show him he can trust you but love him. he will trust you with time. so if you truly love him and have the patience, wait it out. how long have you been together anyways?

WE HAVE BEEN 2GETHER 5 MONTHS BUT BEFORE WE GOT TOGETHER WE DATED FOR ALMOST A YEAR BECAUSE HE WANTED TO SEE IF I COULD BE PATIENT I FELL IN LOVE WIT HIM 7 MONTHS AGO

It's mean but that makes me want to tell him to quit being a ****y. Excuse my lack of compassion, but I think he should suck it up and get over it. We all go through rough times. Why is he trying to create more of it for the two of you (and especially you)? It's a sign that you've got issues if there is a belief that your love needs to be tested...life would have its way of challenging it anyway. If it's that hard for him to trust...if it's impossible..why even bother?

I've been there. He sounds exactly like how I used to be. If he loves you then he won't be able to keep that metaphorical shield up and he'll let you in.

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but it is understandable for him to have that shield up, since he has been hurt before.

just tell him how you feel, tell him you feel lonely, tell him that it is hurting you...and if he truly loves you he will be able to trust you enough to bring that shield down, for you at least. Just be careful and try not to hurt him if he does bring that shield down (that is). -VALERIE

Is there love without trust? ask yourself that. I couldn't imagine a stable relationship without trust. So, he has been hurt a few times by women in his life that he cared about. He can't blame that on you though. Everyone faces trials in life. He just have to find a way to deal with his. I think that you should just sit down face to face and talk to him. Tell him how you really feel. Tell him that you love him and that you are there for him always. Make him believe it! You just have to tell him every emotion in your heart that you feel towards him. If not he will never no and things will not get better. I hope things work out for you though.