Confused

I have gone out with this one guy three times.. i have always been really close to him from the first time i met him... but the thing is when im goin out with him i want the freedoms of a single person.. but when im single i want to have someone to love me.. like a boyfriend thing...a relationship.. its not just this guy its any guy if im not with them i want to be and when i am i dont want to be ... i dnt know how to deal with it.. any help?

I THINK YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT THEM TIEING YOU DOWN. YOU ARE AFRAID OF THEM CHANGING WHO YOU ARE. THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN HOLD YOU DOWN OR CHANGE YOU IS YOU.

You're crying out for a relationship, but when you get one -- it's not what you want . I had that problem; I always ended up hurting the guy . This is telling you that you just aren't ready for a real relationship . Flirt your way around, go out on dates and everything . Just don't get into a real relationship until you meet a guy and HE'S the ONLY guy you want, cause "its not just this guy its any guy if im not with them" is screaming at you that this guy isn't Mr. Right Now (I don't believe in a Mr. Right) .
..__MiNDYY

I guess we can all go through that. I'm sorta like that. I love the chase...and almost as soon as the girl says yes, I lose the interest haha...-_-

I think my problem is that I'm not serious enough about them to begin with. I then make the mistake of going for them and even convincing them that I am serious...and end up hurting them in the process. I'm a jerk _-_ woh..I'm like Mindy...again...haha :P guess we're just jerks sometimes X_x

We all know, though, that it's about waiting for the right one. We also know that it's hard being lonely. Goodluck finding your balance.

Ive dated guys like that^ the key is to keep up the chase while dating. its a pain in the ass, and i hate playing those games. but ive done it, lol.

Ouch...

Though I suppose I deserved that haha. It usually doesn't work out in the end...even if you're putting up a chase. I guess it's just a little more fun for us :P and if we're any good...it'll almost be worth it for you (-questionable-).