A friend

Okay,

I have a friend that's 16 and she's going out with a guy who is 31.

They've talked to eachother like 2 months before they started going out, so they really got to know eachother.

I'm totally fine with the age difference because I know that they are both mature enough to keep the relationship in a mannerly way, because she told me that she's waiting to turn 18 or clsoe to 18 before any sexual stuff starts to happen.

I just wanted to see if you guys think that this could truly work out?

And for the last time its MY FRIEND! NOT ME! I hate it when you guys get it mixed up saying its me when its really not!

It'll never work I can't even believe she's with this guy, where the hell are this girl's parents???

The age difference for me, is too much. She's still a child, and it'd be OKAY I guess, not for me, but for others, if he was in his 20's, but it just doesn't work out. And I agree, where ARE her parents? Surely they don't agree with this? AND, for a reason. She's a child, legally still theirs, and he's THIRTY ONE. He's a full grown adult, he should be responsible enough to know that this isn't right. My mum's friend's daughter was 18 and going out with a 40 something year old, now she's REALLY clever and bilingual and all, she's just stupid when it comes to love. All he did was live in her flat, and if she got any money off her mum, she'd spend it on him. He sucked her money out of her, and that's all.

It's too much of an age difference for this to be normal.

Her parents really don't mind because their 20 years apart.

And he doesnt suck money out of her.
Whenever they go on a date they split it, she'd pay her half and he'd pay hers. Or they'd switch on and off, he'd pay for the date then she'd pay for it.

She's really happy with him, she's not on drugs and shes not smoking nor drinking. She doesn't do binge drinking at partys. She's been alot better of with him because this is the first guy she ever had strong feelings about and that actually cares about her.

Uhh.. yeah.. in a month or two she'll be seriously regretting her decision to begin this relationship.

This is crazy! What kind of parents would be ok with some crap like this? How could you possibly think a 16 yr old is mature enough to handle a relationship esp with a 31 yr old?

And you say this is the 1st guy she had deep feelings for? Sorry but is she out of her mind? She's just a baby compared to this man.

If this continues to go on... he'll have complete control over her if he doesn't already. Cause the truth is... you don't really know exactly what's going on with them except what she says.

This is crazy! Good luck with that.

That was just an example. He's still TOO old and she's still TOO young. Times don't change just because they want to, it's still PAEDOPHILLIC.

Well im kinda gonna give u like da opposite answer 2 da rest of them, i think 31 is a little old but i belive as long as ur friend is in her right mind, (not under the influence of anything or mentaly disabled) the law says that she can date any1 she wants regardless of age because she is 16. i think it is good that she isnt hving sex with him yet and i also think that if her parents know and are ok with it then there's really not a problem. im 15 n my bf is 28 so far its working out except for my folks who dont approve. but like i said if they think theyre in love good luck and i hope it works out for them.
remember love dosent have age limits all you can do is make sure ur friend is happy and if it dosent work out be there for her to cry on im glad ur supporting ur friends decision and not trying to change her mind.
tell her congrat from me
kidaXOXO

They got to know each other really well in 2 months? Had they both read biographies about each other or something?

That is ridiculous. Your friend is ridiculous, and she may be getting herself into some serious trouble.

WOW... that is so nasty. something is wrong with him. seriously wrong with him.

Answers easy. It's genetic obviously. Look at her parents age difference, follow by example right? Hereditary maybe? Age a problem? In this case IT IS. My opinion neway.....

In our state, from what we've read in school, that the law is that you can start having no limits when you are 17 and then you can fully do whatever when your 18. She's turning 17 soon.

You all said in other posts that it's alright and age doesn't matter [well some of you have said that]. I have heard of people who are 15/16 dating 26 - 28 years olds. Yeah they are a few people on here that are doing that.

My friend had found this topic because I had showed her. She's not mad at me, she's just hurt that some of you say that this all can't work out, but in other posts in the past you've said that age doesnt play an exact factor in love.

And she thanks the one who didn't critize her for dating her boyfriend thats' 15 years older then her.

And when I said got to know eachother, I mean they started getting to know what eachother liked and all that.

I think it might work..but the chances are kind of low. the way i see it is they are at completely different stages in their lives so that causes some extra tension in the relationship. i do however have a friend who's with an older guy..but they only have about a 5 years age difference, she's 16 and he's 21. They are quite happy at the moment. But this couple seems to have way too much age difference. I'm not sure it'll last too long. if it does that's great for them..just make sure your friend is not forced into something she doesn't want to do (ie. sex).