Too young to marry???

What's everyone's opinion on marrying at a young age; like 18?

I personal think that it will be hard on the people getting married but if they're in love and just know that it's what they want to do, I say go for it.

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I think marrying young is the couples decision. You just got to be sure they are the one.

It all depends, whether or not your ready to be married. Its a couple's deicion and i think that if you are stable with money, family, and a place to live. Then go for it. I am 16 and my boyfriend and I have promised to try and being together for the rest of our lives. But then again we are only kids. I personally want to get out to see the world before i settle down and get married. I also want to finish school. If or when that happens i may or may not be a different person. He might as well. Only then will we decide if we want to be together forever.

I'm 18 now, and I honestly can't imagine having to make such a serious decision right now. There's so much time for things to change- feelings, people, circumstances. If you marry young then you could be setting yourself up for disaster.

This is how I see it: If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, then they will still be around 2, 3 or even 10 years later when you are settled in your life and ready to get married. And if they aren't around at that point, then -phew- lucky you, you really dodged a bullet there.

Well, I think that if you are really in love with each other and you have been together for a long time ( not a couple of months but years) then I think you should go for it!

im 16 now and I have a boyfriend for 2 years, who know what will happen later =) but I dont think I will marry at the age of 18,

18 not too young, if you and he both can take responsibilities that would be enough...of course you should love each other also

Hmmm, my best friend is getting married and she'll be 18, i know that they love each other alot, and i know that they can do it...it's just going to be hard. i personally would love to marry my boyfriend, we've been together a year and 4 months and i wanna marry him. we just agrred not too young becuase things change. who oyu are in high school is not who you are in college and even after that. i think that if you really do love each other then you can do it.

I wouldn't reccoment it . Personally, I don't want to get married (: But if I were to, I'd do it when I finish college . I'll be at least 28, due to my career choice, but after 25 is when you really have a strong hold on who you are and what you want from life . But it's the couple's personal choice (:

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My cousin married at 19. Now, I personally didn't think she had to jump into it, considering she hadn't finished her studies and she wanted to. Of course, there were some tough times when they first started off living with his mother, but now at 23 she's settled with a child in a home of their own. She always told me there were things she wished she'd done before her marriage; she wanted to tour the world and have a real career. Her choice to marry so soon pulled her back but she learned some valuable lessons.

She once told me: "If I had spent those holidays with mum in the kitchen I would've known how to cook decent Indian dishes. I dived into the marriage so fast I had no idea how much I still had to learn about being a wife and mum. You can't always rely on a cookbook and a 'How to deal with a toddler' guide".

And I agree with her. Marriage isn't about losing your social and working life. But there are obstacles and great responsibilities that one must be able to take under wing and surpass to succeed. She did it eventually and I'm proud of her :).

I personally wouldn't get married at such a young age and i'm 19. My parents did and they've been together for 33 yrs (still are). It could work.

I have so much that I want to do and there's so much I have to see before I settle down. I think I have time and if not... oh well. However it would be nice to see the world with my husband at a young age as well as at an old age.
It's complicated.

I believe that 18 is very young. why would you spend 18 years of you life finding yourself, and the rest...say 70 years dedicating urself to another person. that doesnt make sense..
because after-all....in the end..your all youve got.

Its been discussed before, if the couple really love each other then they should it down and think about it before making the decision, but age does not play a part in love so people could get married at 18

My parents would beat the shit out of me if I got married at 18 or even 21.

Im 17 and plannin on gettin married when im 18 ..next year...so id say if you both feel its right ..go for it x

Jodiie, I would say that in your case you are too young, or at least not ready. But to be fair, I just read your thread about the issues you and your boyfriend are having.

My rule is: You must live with that person for 2-5 years before marriage. It takes years of actually living together to realize if you're the right match. Why rush? There's no point. I've been with Jeff for two years, best friends before that. He is 19 and I am 18, but why the heck would I want to get married so young? Seriously, why? I want to live with him for a couple years because living together is a HUGE step from even seeing eachother every day. No joke. Huge step. Also, I want to finish my studies and make a decent amount of money before I get married...not only so that I can have a beautiful, lavish, memorable wedding (my dream wedding, how corny), but also so that I can settle down and enjoy a long, long honeymoon with my love instead of trying to rush bagging money and a home. Things take time and rushing never turns out well. That's my two cents :) I also don't want to rush in having kids, I'm thinking early 30s' will be perfect. I want to get some traveling and money in my napsack before settling down and raising 20+ years of children. Haha, children are a lot of work, even if they are so worth it in the end.

Jane, living together would be helpful, but what about those whose religions don't allow that? What if that's against people's morals/isn't culturally accepted? Then what?

Good point...and way to show Jane! Just kidding Jane!!!

It's sorta like that for me. I would be introduced/arranged for marriage, (Yes, I'm bring it up again :P) so I wouldn't be able to spend up to Jane's level of "adequate amount of time spent with potential spouse" I would have to make the choice on the engagement within a year (usually a coupla months).

Then the rule doesn't apply, and I wish those people luck in their marriages. Often, very intimately religious people hit it off together no matter what. They always have something to complain about, preach, teach, learn or debate about. Religion is a heavy subject. Also, there's no arguing on how the children should be brought up ;)

I'm atheist and pro sex before marriage!

Oh, one last thing...my time limit pertains to a long-term healthy, happy marriage. The less common "brand."

"Atheist and pro sex before marriage"
Having been friends with you nearly since I started my account on P&Q I already knew that...but it's wonderfully surprising to see you state that out in the open haha...you are full of surprises Jane :P

Well..i m getting married as soon as i m 18 or 19...if the relation is strong n both r ready to support each other through everything..i guess getting married at tht age is fine...but the thing is u need to be sure u are'nt jumping into relationship fast without giving it a thought...
"if u r getting married wen u r 18...u r either too brave or too stupid"..lol....tht's so true...

Marriage is a big step i belive it should be based on both time and love. if you've been and lived with that person for at least 2 years and u both feel that your relationship is stronger than ever than i'd agree its worth a try but i also think that many relationships rush into marriage because they need that feeling of security and committment and by getting married and having a big rock on your finger doesnt always promise that. i feel that myself ive been with my bf for 9 months and we've both talked about marriage and we want to spend the rest our live together and i personaly feel that if he proposes to me it will make me feel secure and committed so maybe the answer to the problem is if u feel like you are both ready to committ to each other get engaged but try to live together one on one for 2 years or more and get used to each others annoying habit and than get married.

Yes, i totally agree with the post above ^

Nat, hi 5! Preach it, sista.

Well i'm getting married in 2009. We're engaged and live together now and i'm 18 (19 in November) and he's 20 in October.

Age doesn't matter when it's true and you both want to be together forever. We're both very big on the fact that you only get married once and on the whole one true love thing. So yeah. It's right =)

I personally think that if the two partners have a steady, stable, and real relationship that 18,19,20 would be a good age to get married at =)... I know I'll probably get married around the time I'm 22 or 23 =)

So maybe some people divorce. My parents are divorced and my mom lives in South Africa while i'm in England, she's remarried with two other kids. So go figure that.

I'm not saying that it's right for everyone. But it's right for me and Marcus and we both know it. I'll come back in thirty years and update on how happy we are. =/