Whats scary about a long term relationship

To guys? i want to understand so i can see where my boyfriend[for the whole story, see my thread 'someone please'] is coming from so i can act accordingly. thanks.

Some people just aren't ready for it, and some people don't like to be with the same people for a long period of time.

Some people just aren't ready for it, and some people don't like to be with the same people for a long period of time.

Some people just aren't ready for it, and some people don't like to be with the same people for a long period of time.

Some people just aren't ready for it, and some people don't like to be with the same people for a long period of time.

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The popular view seems to be that men are simply afraid of commitment. It might be true for some, but it's not right to assume that most of us would go into relationships prepared to spend only a certain amount of time with someone. Most of us don't plan it out. We go with our feelings...sorry did I say feelings? I meant guts XP The main reason we end up not wanting to commit too seriously is that we don't like the other person enough. If the relationship doesn't satisfy us, we would want to go looking for more/something else. Long term relationship is as scary to anyone as boredom.

^ Good stuff! congrats.

I'm not afraid of commitment either. I've known my gf now for almost 7 years and I wish I had spent all that time with her. Instead, we've been dating on and off - too many complications. We're making another run at it and I really hope we'll be able to stick together (until I have to be arranged into marriage...one of the complications haha...-_-). On the other hand, with 90% of the other girls I've been with, I didn't commit. The main factor is that I didn't like them enough. Can you imagine being in a long term relationship with someone you don't like that much? I think that would be scary...hehe...

I went through that with Amy (my gf) too. She was in Vancouver then she moved back to Toronto. How far are you from your gf? Wow...then it's even more respectable you're still together :D

Girls should just go out there and find guys like us XP haha...

They are just telling girls that they may look for other girls
they are jerks[most of them]

^Won't argue that...haha

It's not always guys with commitment issues though. There are girls that have that too.

Yeah it can be scarely that if things keep going well that you could be with them forever and no one else. But I don't think it's bad, the only part is the break up and that would be the hardest thing considering how long you were together.

Guys are just afraid of being stuck with someone who might turn into a bad girlfriend/wife. Or that's what I think. I have never been afraid of a long term relationship. That's actually exclusively what I look for.