Heartbreaker
17 years ago
Okay so me and one of my best friends started going out about a month ago when he confessed that he liked me. i was very happy because i liked him too. anyways, he is now with his dad in harrisburg (PA) for a month. i really do miss him but sometimes i find myself thinking about this other boy. now i don't like this other boy but when i think about him, i feel like i do. i really do like my boyfriend but i just don't know. any help? |
Dance Girlie
17 years ago
You're young...it's normal. |
limp
17 years ago
'it's okay to like two boys but only if you don't like one more than your boyfriend' |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
^ Not all of us function your way though. For some of us, we can like more than one person at a time. If you can focus on liking just one, good for you. Do keep in mind that that doesn't make it wrong for people to be interested in more than just one. Who's the decide what's acceptable and not in a relationship? As long as you and your partner(s) agree and it's safe and legal...why not? On the other hand, if it's anything bad that you don't want your bfs or gfs to know...then it's questionable whether what you're doing is right. |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
There be she...Britt...the almost always sensible one :D |
Heartbreaker
17 years ago
Ok. trust me i wont cheat. thats one thing i'll never do. well everyone, thanks for the advice. (; |
silvershoes
17 years ago
What are relationships about? Trust? Honesty? I'd say so. If you like someone else and feel that you have to hide your feelings from your boyfriend, or yes, if you like this other person MORE than your boyfriend...there is something wrong. Guilt goes into effect for a reason. |
limp
17 years ago
You say that some people function differently, those people aren't in true relationships. Open relationships usually don't work out for most people, and did she describe hers as an open relationship? If her boyfriend's gone for only a month and she's questioning thoughts about another boy, she's merely just not mature enough to handle a relationship to SEE that she has no need to be worried, she's obviously just not ready for that kind of relationship. |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
Please define true relationships... |
silvershoes
17 years ago
But so soon? I never had a single thought about another guy other than Jeff for at least a year and a half, maybe more...at that mark, I started becoming interested in other people, but mainly because Jeff and I were hitting rough times...now that we've overcome them, I very rarely think about anyone else (once again). We're all different. |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
Is it a guy thing?! haha...-_- I don't think it is. I guess it depends on the person and whether they are satisfied with the relationship. I think things would be different if, at your one month mark with Jeff, he had to leave for something and let's say it was your first or second relationship. |
Dance Girlie
17 years ago
I don't think this forum was intended for people to fight about having feelings for other people while in a relationship....... |
silvershoes
17 years ago
Who is fighting? |
Dance Girlie
17 years ago
"Chaotically Me" seemed a bit b**chy in that last post. maybe it's me. |
silvershoes
17 years ago
Jeff is my third boyfriend, so no...he's not my second, haha...but what's the difference? I remember NEVER thinking about anyone else the entire 8 months or so that I was with my first boyfriend. We were completely in love and planned on getting married (typical, right? hahaha.), but my parents forced us to break up. Long story. Anyway, about Jeff. Actually, after the very first week we were together I had to go on a family trip to San Diego for 2 weeks to see my mom's best friend and her son, Randall. Randall and I have grown up together and up until that trip, I had always had a crush on him. However, during the trip, all I wanted to do was go home and be with Jeff. I think the start of a relationship, if no other period in time, both people normally have tunnel vision. New love is so exciting, if you're already thinking about someone else...well, good luck. |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
-_____- |
Dance Girlie
17 years ago
Actually i think the statement "acting/sounding bitchy" can be used for a guy or a girl, cause it's not actually calling the person a bitch. |
silvershoes
17 years ago
Men can be called bitches as well. It makes just as little sense ;) |
limp
17 years ago
Did I ever say that she was immature for liking another boy at the same time, or questioning her feelings? No, I said she was immature because she was so worried about it she doubted herself. |
ChaoticallyMe
17 years ago
Hmm...then most people wouldn't have "true relationships". Emotional affair? You are too strict, BangBang :P I had you wrong and thought that you meant all people who had multiple interests are immature. Oh well...what you said goes for yourself just as my approach to relationships works for me. |