Was it my wrong? or his?

Ok so my boyfriend... in the marines... well he drinks and what not.. i asked him if he wouldnt do it so much... well then last night he calls me drunk. then said he'd call me back at 1am my time... never did... i was rather upset. then today i just didnt answer his calls... then i finally did, bc by then i was fine... i had just needed some time... he acted pissed when i said i was upset bc of drinking... told me thats hes goin to drink so y waste the time askin him not too. he was mad bc i didnt answer earlier, or call him back... now i feel bad, he said hes not mad, but he was barley talking to me, and sounded like it. idk? i mean should i be the one feeling upset about this?

I can see why you are upset and why he is upset... But if he wants to drink and be disrespectful to you let him be so just let him hear your feelings when he is sober and maybe he may see your point....

This is complicated and I think quite a few couples can relate. A drinker will not cease to be a drinker unless it is his or her own personal choice, that seems to always be the case. He takes pleasure in drinking and is frustrated that you would question his ability to control his own level of intake. I am making an assumption, but I do not think he will stop drinking for you. If he hasn't considered your request the first time, why will he later on? I think you should try to accept his drinking, unless it is consuming his rationale and drowning his life...in which case you should talk to him about AA or getting another kind of help.

My advice to you is: Learn to accept his drinking and not let it bother you, perhaps try talking to him when he is sober...If either is not an option, leave him. How much does his drinking affect your relationship?

Well i mean since hes in the marines, i never see him. its just maybe im over reacting. before he was in the marines, he drank all the time... he knows i dont like it, i know he has alot of stress, but sometimes i feel like i cause it. it doesnt have that big of an impact on our relationship . its more like i just dont like it.