Whats a good age to have kids?

Im only 17 and im in a long term relationship with an older man and lately have been feeling the want to have children
however i duno wethr this is jus for stability to make sure my boyfrend will always be in my life

help

I think 17 is a little too young for children. You still have a whole life before you, aren't there still things you'd like to do before you have children? =) Just wait a little longer, and then you'll be more sure about your boyfriend being in your life. ^^

Yeh thts tru, if im worried bout him leavin then i dont reali fink thts a good environment for a kid
fnku
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Exactly. If you are worried that he might leave it's not the time for a kid. If he would leave now there is a possibility that he would leave after the baby was born too. You can never know with things like that. I think you should probably wait a while longer, make sure he is there for, and make sure the two of you are finacially ready to care for a child.

Yeah wait a while to have them.

It's the biggest step in your life you can ever take, and it's also the best one, but the timing (doesn't even have to be perfect), just isn't right at this point in time. As you said you're only 17, when you get the right husband type of guy, settle down and buy a house, THEN you can create something inside of you. This won't bring you stability, this will get rid of any stability you have in your life and completely make things pointlessly dramatic. You can have kids whenever you want to, I just wouldn't do it when you're not even sure you want to.

So many people overlook the fact that a kid is not just a bundle of joy that blows past in a few years and then is suddenly grown up and out in the world supporting themselves. When you have children, you have a good 20+ years ahead of you that must be spent caring for them, supporting them, housing them, feeding them, suffering neglect and hatred through their teenage years, a couple years of diapers and sleepless nights, heartbreaks, years and years of schoolwork, gossip, clothes, electronics...etc. If you are not completely sure of your reasons for wanting kids at this point in your life, do NOT have them. Kids should never be mistakes. Wait until you are, without question, ready. Then again, I happen to think that no one is every ready for children. I plan on traveling, settling down, making plenty of money and finding a nice, big house in a great neighborhood to grow up in...before having kids. I'm assuming I'll be in my early to mid 30s.

I think having kids now, at the age of 17 when you are unsure of why you even want them, is a mistake.

And where are you going in your life? How much older is this guy? Are you still in school? Do you have a job? Where do you live?

All the questions above and everything Jane said applies. Except the mid thirties part.

Mid thirties and mid to late thirties have a difference, sure, but not much of one. And some people, I know, like to have a career before they have kids or they think they never set out their life goals. But in my mind, it's one or the other, or managing to juggle the two. Because seriously, my Aunt had her first when she was what, I don't know, 37? He's 3 now, so she's 40, .. when he's 20, she'll be 57. When her youngest is 20, she'll be SIXTY.

That's just not right. A person having a baby at say 23-26, they will be about 46 when their child is 20. Do you see the age difference? It's not natural (alright, I'm stereotyping natural) to have a child so late, I've seen the kids around town, toddlers, with grandparent aged parents, and it just isn't right.

Anyhow back to the subject, Jane is definitely right on EVERY OTHER FACTOR. It is 20 years ahead, it's constant stress and worry about how they're feeling, having to be strict and discipline them even when you don't want to but they need it, a provider and a husband to also take care of the child ET CETERA ET CETERA ET CETERA.

You need to get your head straight instead of asking a P&Q discussion board at 17 whether somebody else knows what time it's right to have children for YOU. When you're ready, you should know it. You'll be older and you should have a job, money, a house and a partner, and you won't have any doubts in your mind.

Personally, I don't think that a 17 year old and a 34 year old should be having kids together period. You should never try to trap a guy in a relationship with kids. That's horrible, and it would suck for the kids to have a father who resented them.

You are too young to be having kids; you're practically a kid still yourself! Enjoy your youth, and be careful in this relationship. I don't understand what a man that old would want with someone of your age.

I'm not sure. Maybe 19 or 20?! Hehe..

Lolz, any age if u have the things any parent needs for a kid. like a house. and enough $. + the ability to be able to take care of them at all times :] but theres way more than that that's needed

Totally agree. If you could support a growing child, then it's not bad to have kids..

I agree with the first post that 17 is too young. Personally, I'm waiting 'til I'm 27, but that's just me.

Well my opinion i htink you should wait till your all finished with school (if your going to college) this way all you have to worry about (if u want a job) is your job and not having to drop out of school if u have a baby. so probably 25 ish

Sluvious, that's what I'm talking about. I plan on having 2-3 kids. I'll probably start popping them out in my late 20s--say somewhere between 27-29, and finish in my early to mid 30s--say somewhere between 31-34.

So there you have it!

Oh, and BangBang...sorry If I was not clear enough. I simply want to start off with a decent amount of money when I start having kids, I don't plan on getting all of my work and money making out of the way before I have kids! I plan on being a Large Animal Vet., I will definitely not be done working by my late 20s to early 30s.

The 27 bit is good, because you'd be 43 when they were 16. BUT I still don't necessarily agree on the 30 bit, I won't impose my beliefs though because it's your life and your decision.

The right age for a baby is when you are ready

not any specific time but when u r ready

its up to you

NOT WHAT age you think you
should be

"I'm not sure. Maybe 19 or 20?!"

Dude. If you have the skills to take on the role of a mother at that age then I salute you.

I'd say the ideal age would be from 25-30.

I think that nobody should have a kid until they're out of High School or College and have gotten their life started already. Hmm... I'd say the best ages would be probably somewhere between 23 - 30.

That would be a fine age my boyfriend and I want to have kids when I am 16 or 17. If you feel he is the one go for it.

I think that the best time to have kids is
when you're done with college and actually
have an established career
or something close to that
hahahaha

=]

Statistically, late twenties to mid thirties for the first child offers the best chance that the child will be healthy, and will be born into a stable environment.

"Stable environment?? Wow, I live in Ohio...I see nothing so stable...lol"

What?

I don't know what you're talking about. If you're referring to your own personal situation, I guess that's why you said "I'm not saying it works for everybody" and why I said "statistically."

Well i would wait till ur married and out of school

27!!! dont ruin your life wait till youve lived a little kids take over your life wait till 27!!! doesnt mean you cant have sex jsut use protection but wait for kids

When you are emotionally, financially, physically, and spiritually ready to take care of another human being.
you decide the age.

Haha viola thats a bit much o.o why would you have to be spiritually ready?? anyways yeah its important to not forget once you have a kid your life is that kids life... you no longer have a life of your own you msut spend your life or the 18 years that the kid is with you how to be a good eprson and what they should know... you have to teach them everything... most parents arent ready for that must parents have kids and arent prepared at all to give their lives up but what they dont realize is they have to... if you dont your kids will go into stupid stuff like gangs or do drugs and other things... the msot common reason for kids doing that kind of stuff is because their parents werent close enough to them... so ocne you have kids make sure you are close to them and dont forget you do things for them NOT FOR YOURSELF.. but yeah like i sadi 27 is a good age = ]

I would have to say right after your partners metopause.

^ Yes Bob. thanks for making that clear.
I have heard of moms going into a depression right after giving birth. Boy, would that be hard on the child.
and a lot of other problems too.
Ofcourse i didn't mean religiously (although that could be a good thing too).

and I'm sorry but I take it a bit seriosuly, well not a bit, completely seriously. Don't you see all these kids having emotional problem, and cutting, and being depressed at such a young age? Goodness, I'd hate it if I was a mother and my child became that way because of a mistake I made.

--Viola

Kids......I think that the good age to have kids would be 25 up....I mean like even after that, you have your whole life ahead of you, why would you want to settle down when you have soooo much left undone still....But like, just not under 20.... my parents had me when they were 18...and oh god, dont even get me started!! >_<!!!

Baby doesn't bring stability in a relationship. I think that you should take this time to discover your self. You are very young and having a child now should be out of the question. I think that 26 and up is a good age to begin having children.