I want kids he doesnt yet, but i know i am too young

Hey people i am all lost. the guy i am dating states he wants to have kids with me but whenever i bring up the topic he gets weird and says he is not ready. he already has a son and his son is the cutest little boy ever but i dont feel quite complete. i really want kids but at 17 i know i am too young. what should i do? i love this kid and his dad too much and dont want to loose them over something as silly as this. oh and he is a older guy. so maybe that may be helpful. like 7 years older.

I guess i could say i've actually experienced the same thing as your experiencing.
Im the same age as you and my boyfriend is 5 years older then me. He also states he want kids with me, but i know that he means when we both are financially stable, put together & perfectly ready to have a child together.
I want kids myself, and i know im too young so i tend to focus on more important things. Just love him for him and when the times is right you two will just know.

I don't think you should be lost.
There really isn't anything you could really loose him for, just don't bring up the topic of having kids with him.
Just keep on loving both your boyfriend and his son, unconditionally.
Just live your life, the right time will come.

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You said yourself you are too young to do it right now, so why harp on about it? Maybe it "weirds" him out because he feels the same way you do. Obviously you have discussed it and it is not the right time yet, so dont harp on it. You have lots of time.

^ At 17? Have fun ruining your life.

In response to that.. lol... her life isn't ruined at that age.. I know this girl.. she's about 35?.. and her kid is 20 ;)... know what age she was with that gap?.. 15.. her boyfriend was a graduated senior and she was what?.. sophmore?... They lived together with the girl's mom, and while she went to school, he stayed home with the kid, and when SHE got out for summer, he went to work, and back and forth... by the time she graduated the kid was about 3?.. babysittable age... both parents got part time jobs.. they had help from friends of course, but they made it pretty good and once the kid was 15 he was able to take care of himself decently, it was easy from there.. and now that he's moved out, the mom is 35 and STILL has her entire life ahead of her, 35 is a young age and she's on her 3rd yeard of college ;).. technically a kid at a young age could be better in the long run.. *I* wouldn't do it, just my opinion =p

Now in response to the original post... I'd wait until your about 21 or 22 before you have kids, get a little bit established first..

If he's willing to leave you because you aren't ready to have kids at 17, then he isn't worth your time. If he loves you, he'll wait.

I'm sure waiting until a more appropriate age won't be TOO difficult. Just spoil his little one like he's your own. It's a good thing, too, because it can teach you some valuable lessons for later parenting

17 years old.. you know, if he was in his right mind, he wouldn't have told you he wanted a kid with you yet.. he's just trying to open up that topic to open you up for the.. practice.. if you catch it.. don't fall into it. you're not ready.

My teachers, Parents, Friends all think that having kids at a young age is just giving the rest of your childhood away and i agree. You have your 20's and 30's to settle down and have kids. At 17 just enjoy the little moment in time inbetween growing out of being a teen ager and becoming an adult.

Soory guys i guess i forgot to leave out a detail. we have only had sex a few times and he is not pushy. he is always asking if i am sure i want to and stuff like that. its not like he uses me for anything

My boyfriend and I are thinking of starting to have kids at about 16 17 when I am he will be an adult I don't think it will be to bad.

AngelOfTheLights I hope you're joking. That is so young!

My dad and mum had me when they were both 18. Now look at this, my dad is an abusing idiot, who is now a drug/alcoholic...my mother is depressed completely..and is tragic in everyway.

do NOT HAVE KIDS AT 17!!!!! that's just like WRONG!!! n the fact that he is 7 years older then u!......and he has a kid, if you want my honest advice, i would say....MOVE AWAY AND NEVER SEE THEM AGAIN1!! ur gona ruin ur life some way or another...
but yeah, if not, just dont have kids....thats terrible...u have ur whole life ahead of you...
dont ruin it

Its not the smartest move in the world but it is certainly not ruining a life...yet t is creating a new life!

Having a kid at your age is complete and utter lunacy, not just because of your age but the fact that you ask strangers over the internet for advice on such a thing proves that your not ready.

Grow up , live your life, see all that you need to see and when you finally know yourself inside out and understand what your about to do, only then can you have a child.

sorry if it sounds negative but i was never really good at sugar coating my words -_-

Compromise, M'Dear.

Compromise.

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