ILL (Internet Long-distant Love)

Do you believe people really fall in love through the internet with people they've never met?

I personally find it hard to believe but I've heard stories from people I know of these happy endings between people meeting over the internet and falling in love.

Do you think it's possible?

It's definately possible to fall in love over the internet (speaking from experience).. but it's VERY hard to have them last though =s... my experience lasted for about 7 monthes, and we even met each other eventually... but we are both teenagers... maybe adults online could do it, but us being teenagers both realized that we need a partner we can actually be with.. but yes... you can fall in love... just gotta have strong will power to keep it going.

I think that you might THINk your in love with someone over the internet but honestly.
Love takes time and time spent together to BECOME love.
If you've never met,all you have is..well nothing
just my opinion.
believe me. I tryed the internet thing.
It didnt work out. Well actually the guy "loved" me and wanted to come visit me. But that was to far for me and i broke it off. but then he sent me messages bout how i broke his heart and he didnt think he could live.'
I think if i ever do online dating again ill start slower.

Wow I don't know... that do seem a bit far fetched to even try to have a relationship over the internet esp being so far away.

I also think that in order to fall in love... you have to spend time with them and get to know them. I mean how can you possible tell what someone really thinks or feel if you don't see them faced to face

I believe that ILL can work.. At first I didnt believe in it and I thought only loosers dated over the internet.. But my older sis prooved to me that it could work.. She met this her fiance over the internet, While we were living in Bahamas and He was in Jamaica.. Being that we are all Jamaicans.. eventually we migrated back to home and they met each other in person. hes such a nice person,we all love him, they are madly in love and now they are about to get married.. just goes to show you that it can work.

I fell in love over the net. i'm not saying it'r right but it is possible and it does happen and its not a bad thing.

^ Yeah anyone could have that, as long as you don't go too overboard its just a nice feeling to have. Even though they may be a complete perv.

^^you have good points and you're completely right. i dated a guy for 7 months and it didnt word out. i actually drove out to see him but i had to stop and turn around because me and my brother had to make a court date. but not that i think about it, it was rlly stupid and i could have gotton myself into deep crap...and i just think its better to keep things...real..

Internet love and such can happen (not saying that it's personally happened to me X.o) but usually, like most of you have posted, it doesn't work out. You never know, someone who says that they're a 15 year old male could in fact be a 67 year old man that has no pride etc...
Hmm... I've heard a lot of people on hear talk about meeting somone and saying that they love them but have neer met. A friend of mine has even had a poem writen about him talking about love...

I don't think you can fall in love with someone over the internet. You can, however, meet them and get to know them in person and fall in love. Which is completely different. That's why it only works out in rare situations; the odds that you meet a person online who you could potentially fall in love with in person is very slim.

I kinda agree. though i think it is possible!
if you really get to know someone over the internet, and i mean get to know them..like all they're personal feelings and such, then why do you need their actual presence to fall in love? i mean aren't you supposed to fall in love with the person inside and not their outside apperance?..just a thought.
but i do agree that it's hard on the internet because the person could be lying. that is definitely possible...
so i don't know. i guess it is possible, but sort of rare and hard to make work.

"aren't you supposed to fall in love with the person inside and not their outside apperance?"

Yes, that is completely true. But, people can choose the way they wish to come across on the internet. You can get to know one part of a person online, but once you meet them realize they have a hundred other sides that you didn't even know about. I would say that if you met in person anybody who posted on this board, you would never be able to guess it's the same person.

Just my very unprofessional opinion lol.

Yeah..that is very true and possible. i guess you can never be sure if what the person you're talking to is telling the truth..

No, people today are shallow and rely on physical touch to maintain there relationships. They last till a point where they could live together maybe .00008% of the time.

No, trust me, i would know. my grandma just got through with her 6th husband that she met on the internet, and then got married with out telling any of her family. internet dating DOES NOT WORK, and it breaks peoples hearts.

Alex your avatar really backs up your post there. lol.

I didn't mean meeting them to see how they looked to decide if you like them (love them) but to meet them and actually talk faced to face to get to know them.

Maybe it's because I like to see the truth in people's eyes when they speak.

I honestly believe in falling in love with someone from a far. Think about it. You could fall in love with their personality =]. Its more of infatuation, rather "love". Online relationships can be very wishy washy however. Its hard to have an over the net love, because physically and mentally its heartbreaking. It's definitely possible though =]].

^ lmao!

Thanks for quoting me on that phrase. Everyone has their own opinion. Point blank. I understand everyones views, just thought i'd share mine without being quoted on and whatnot.

Yeah its easy for one chatter to fall in love on the guys and girls on net.but the big question here,ARE YOU FALLING FOR THE RIGHT LOVE AT THE RIGHT TIME? the answer is NO! coz most of the guys on the net are married or committed already.

now if you think you can handle yourself and the situation,just go w/ the flow.BUT you better set some limitations so you wont be the cause of trouble and sadness of other people,especially the wives and hubbies of the chatters.ok?

I honestly do believe it can happen ove is something that is felt between to being you dont need to be near each other you just need to be in each others hearts
i love somebody from on here

"There's a possibility for everything"

To the poster above me,
Yeah, you might be able to talk to the person online,
but what happens when you meet?
Are you going to be open online..
and hide in a shell when in person?
That just might end a relationship.

Online relationships can in fact work..
They take all the steps in person to person relationships..
The people just have to get over the fact they cannot "touch" the person.
There is always cybering.
( I dunno if I'm aloud to say that, my fault. )

Do know.. I am not against online relationships,
if I came off that way.

If you meet them.. Or plan to, Yes.

Or if you've been through entirely everything with them and back. It all takes meeting to make it as serious as it can be. Touch is a key within a relationship.

I seriously woundln't fall for a person on the internet....it could be some 70 year old guy! I dunno, oyu'd want to meet them before you really got into a deep relationship.

NO no and no i dont think its real its just when you talk to the person everyday you feel like you know them but really in my eyes i think that you have to spend time with that person a lot and see how they really act when they are AROUND you and then you would be able to fall in love with someone but untill then i dont think so.

Omg ...
It is so true!
I am a living, breathing, blood-pulsing witness of it! More like victim ...
The "love of my life" lives across the globe.
And.
It tears my heart in two.
The distance.
It hurts.
I want to hold him. Tight! And NEVER ever let go.
Never.
But, I can't.
=/

I've been through the whole 'internet love' thing before. I can see this argument from both points of view.

You can't 'love' them until you meet them in person and see every side of them. You can be whoever you want to be on the internet. Typing something for someone to read, when you can backspace and make sure you are saying the right thing, and portray yourself exactly the way you want to be, not the way you are, is completely different to being in person. I am probably different online then what I am in person, simply because I can be shy, and wouldn't open up as much. Everything is easier to say, not face to face.

You can love someone online, if you have met them, or if you are going to, and you know them inside and out. If you get to know their personality and fall in love with it, and have all those same traits you can have with a person that lives next door, it's a connection. 'Love' or just plain 'lust' is up to your own feelings, no one else can judge that.

Just my view.

I've heard both sides of this argument many times and can see where both sides are coming from. I never used to be very sure if it online love was actually real and kinda found it amusing when I'd read posts about how much in love they were with someone that could be lying about everything to them but...I've had my mind changed for me lols

I met a guy on here that I've known now for 6 months, I've never met him *but I'm planning on it after I'm 18 in April* and who lives thousands of miles away from me =P Yes, he could be lying about who he is, what he's like and what he's doing but I have faith that he's not and if your in a ILL you'll know that faith in the person is one of the most important things ^_^ I've talked to his mom online also and him and I started out as just close friends helping eachother through some hard times and keeping eachother laughing and then in the last month or 2 it's just kinda turned into more lols I've never heard his voice, never seen him in person and he's WAY outta my league but he's crazy about me and I love him ^_^ If it wasn't for his job *him, his mom and his dad are all doctors* and his family he'd be here with me ^_^ I think the nice thing about dating online is if you talk to them long enough and about enough things then you get to know their heart much better. I have a problem with being easily lead on in person because I can't see passed the masks their wearing so dating my guy this way first works because I don't have to worry about the face to face freezing up lols Plus since we're so far away from eachother we don't blame eachother if we date other people at the same time lols Hey none of the guys I've dated turned out to good so maybe going about this a different way will help lols

Yes, i do believe....as we all know in net u can reveal all u cant in reality...and all started with friendship...:)

Yes, I fully believe that you can fall in love with somebody over the internet. I've had it happen to me. In fact, it is happening right now. However, there are many sides to this argument that people point out. Many of them are logical. When it comes to love, there is no YES or NO, there is no RIGHT or WRONG, but an opinion. A feeling that only you know.

It is said that the internet is a home full of lies, people can portray whomever they wish. There is no way to tell if somebody is lying to you, see their other sides, or even fall in love with a person long-distance over the net. I mean.. how could you?! You've never met them, never touched them, seen them face-to-face.

Along with the lies, are the truths. There are cameras for pictures to physically see your "elover". These can be googled or stolen, fake pictures, but then there is the option of a webcam. Seeing somebody live is enough proof for me, at least physically. Who wants to really lie to you for an extended period of time? I can't be with the person that I've fallen in love with for almost 2 years. I've seen it work, I have friends who are married and met the way I plan to meet my Brad. What is the point of lying to someone for almost 2 years, saying you're one way, in love, and then meet and find out it is a lie? Logically, unless you plan to kill the person or something psychotic a normal person would avoid the trouble. There is OBVIOUSLY something that attracts you to your elover over the period of time that you converse. There is text, the phone, and you may even visit every so often. Not everything on the internet has to be a lie. I'm not saying be naive and gullible, but not everybody out there is trying to deceive you. You have to be willing to trust heavily.

I believe that internet relationships should only be pursued by emotionally stable, mature, patient, and the willing. Have some common sense as well. It is hard. It works, but it is not something that everybody can have success with.

If you are still scared about whether your elove is being true about who he is, how he is, or she.. then take awhile. Meet them if you feel it is necessary and you can. Otherwise, in time, you can generally get to see all the sides of a person. Even if it is over the internet. IF they are serious about a real relationship outside of the internet, then they will show you. It isn't very hard to see, just don't be blind because you feel you've found love.

Best wishes,
Jordan.

It's definately possible to fall in love with someone over the internet. It's not safe to fall in love over the net though. You fall in love with the picture of the person you see and all the sweet things that the person tells you, but they can be just "talk" to make you fall in love with them. I know this because it's happened to me before and that's I kno| it's totally possible.

.:CiNdY:.

It's very possible! It's all about personality! I fell in love with my boyfriend, who is long distance, before I even saw his Myspace picture! And I'm glad, cuz he turned out to be a total hottie for me! :P The only thing I have to worry about is the girls he calls friends. XD

^ and have you ever met him? =)

I've fallen in love online before. And I'm currently in an online relationship. I dated a girl from Florida online for 2 full years. I met her in person at the end of the first year. It was the most amazing experience of my life... then we eventually decided to move on... but it was amazing while it lasted.

After, I got a physical gf... she lasted 3 months and I was like, "This sucks". I cuddled her all the time and everything... but it just .. sucked. She was soo great too. We had soo much in common... but I just left her.

I met a girl on this site from Egypt, and we fell in love. And its 1,000,000x better than any physical relationship I've ever had.

I don't believe online love is an illusion. Whoever said that hasn't fully experienced it. Its very possible to fall in love online. Because love is a feeling, not a touch. You don't need to touch someone to love them. If anything, being able to touch the person kills the feelings and makes it more of a physical attraction, which is definitely NOT LOVE.

You can have sex all the time. But wheres the love in that? There isn't any... because you love the pleasure, not the person. :P

No, i haven't met him yet, but i find long distance relationships easier to deal with. part of which, i get my space, i get to go out with friends, i don't have a person that's always going to 'be on my arm' and all clingy. :)

Ya. it happens. it is weird too....oh well

Well i can say it can happen cuz well it happened to me... well twice but yes it has happened to me and right now im that way and im happy and the frist time i was even happer cuz it kenw her for a while got to know here and was my frist time having a long-distant relationship and you know i met her on here... but that didnt work out.... then it happened again.... well i was scared at frist cuz i knew what happened the frist time it happened but i still went with it and now im happyer than ever soo i think... no i know it can happen :p

~demons_n_angels~

Haha, true Lover, I am sure you're in love. Totally sure.

It might work but id rather be with someone I can see and hold and kiss and be with.
But if its for u go ahead.
personally i wanna meet someone in person. and maybe get to know them more thru msn and stuff wen u start going out coz ur busy or whatever.
thats what i did and i am still with him.