My internet guy... i need advice

Im falling for a guy i met online but theres a few problems..
1. hes almost ten yrs older than me
2. he lives REALLY far away
the major one is...
3. hes married

now before you call me a home wrecker and all that i haven't acted on my feelings because i know its wrong! But he has.. like saying if i lived around him we could be together and he calls me beautiful and tells me how much he cares about me... mostly i say thanks but its getting harder to because i'm really falling for him.
i don't want to get involved with him but i also really like talking to him.
i also realized if we did get together or w/e if hes doing this to his wife what will stop him from doing it to me?
but its so hard..
help?

Okay, this is hard. But maybe he's just using you? I was in love with a guy on the internet but he was my age and didn't live that far from me. And I know what it feels like and I know that it's hard. Bur honestly I think you should let this go. I mean, if you look into yours and his future, do you see each other together? How would that work? With his wife on the side? If you stop talking to him or wont meet him maybe he finds another? I dunno, I just wanna help, and I dont know him. If I did maybe it would be easier :)

..actually, it isn't hard. stop talking to him, don't try and say you're not a homewrecker, just STOP talking to him, because you ARE being one. he's not a nice person to do that to his wife, so you shouldn't take his petty compliments as anything more than a sleazebag slouched over a computer screen hitting on you via the internet.

leave it.

Who says it's completely true what he is telling you? ;] How can you fall for somebody, if you don't even know that the things are true..

Yeah so I'm going to be blunt sorry. Why does he need to have another relationship if he's alredy in one? Have you actually seen what he looks like? Does he have kids? And I don't know why you want to keep talking to him in a romantic and loving manner if he's already married.

Please take this the right way...I'm 50 and I think you should hear this...

RUN LIKE H*LL!

(oh, and this guy wants to wreck his own marriage)

I stopped reading after I finished at the whole he's married thing . Sweetie . You're blinded . "love" or whatever over the internet is a freaking iLLUSiON . HE'S MARRiED . Obviously he's not a good guy if he's going to be talking to you like that, while he has a wife . Leave it . EFF iT, okay, sweetie ? It's not that hard to figure out .

..__MiNDYY

You probubly don't want to hear this, but you have to end it. And believe me, it is one of the hardest things you might ever have to do, but this guy is married, and if he respected his wife what is he doing talking to you in the first place? If you end it, it'll be better for the both of you trust me. If you need someone to talk to just PM me and I can talk with you about it more.

Mindy nailed it. i stoped after the hes married thing too.

Yeah i agree with everyone else. i know it's hard..cause you're attached to him emotionally. but honestly, do you see yourself and him together in the future?.. and if you do, how would you feel knowing he left his wife for you? not good i hope.
so yeah the answer is kind of clear. stop talking to him..i know it will be hard at first..but there are plenty of other guys out there.
all the best! =]
--Viola

Well thanks for the advice..
im not going to talk to him anymore. i deff. dont like bein called a homewrecker. but in all fairness when we first started talking a few months ago he wasnt married..
but thanks for helping me realize its wrong... its like i KNEW it was wrong but i didnt want to except it...
thanks again!

O.......k

first of all, thats just kinda creepy >.>

but dont you think this guy is just passing you compliments to get himself into your good books?
it doesn't require much time, it would take 2 minutes if even that to realise that the guy is another creepy dude from the internet -_-

as for his wife he obviously feels no spark between them so he resorts to talking to people online .

Oh,ok

yea creepy

internet relations

are PATHETIC

most of the time

you can meet someone good over the net
thats how my friends mom found her current b/f
and he lives near

and they spend all there time together
and are moving into together

but hes 10 years older, not good
MARRIED, really not good

and if u did split him and his wife up then
u would be a considered a home wrecker even if
you thnk u r not

I'm afriad I did the same thing as Mindy where I stopped reading after I read the "he's married" part
I hate to pop your cherry here but the probably sucess of an online relationship is less than 20 percent, and with all the nifty little variables you tossed him, 10 yrs older, married, and far away... It sounds to me like... to him... you're something to play with when he's bored... And I know that that may sound a little harsh here but unfortunately, speaking from experience, I know how it goes =s... I've no doubt you can find a decent guy, your age, around the area you live in if you look hard enough =)

I tried my best to not say that in a harsh way =s... I'm not really a harsh person but sometimes with certain possible truths there really is no other way to get the point across =s.. I don't like doing it but *shrugs*.. I do if I have to.

Great decsion you've made! coz you cant even so sure of what this guy have been telling you when youre chatting were all true.coz its a net.and for me net was just a fantasy world for quite sometimes for most of the chatters.

and always remember to fall in love w/ a married one was not wrong but what is wrong is when you get mess of one's life because of this right love at a wrong time.meet the guy on real world and not on the fantasy world called"internet life"