I really need help.

Okay. I don't really know how to start this. But here goes. At school, I had a bunch of labels pinned on me throughout last year. One of them being a slut, because I went out with so many guys, and cheated on most of them. But whatever, that's not my problem. Well now, I have a current boyfriend and we've been going out for almost a month, a believe. We've made out and what not but only a couple times. He's really into hanging out with me and coming over and seeing me whenever he can. I love it and all, but it's really not possible for us to hang out that often. My mother is really protective, and she doesn't like me going and hanging out with 'guys' all by myself or whatever. Eh, annoying, but you know. Anywho, I also kind of have a little something on the side. =/ Don't get me wrong, I'm completely and totally straight. I don't know why I'm bothering saying this cuz you probably won't believe me, lol. But I am. But I just can't seem to get close enough to my boyfriend to fall in love. Because I'm pretty sure that I'm already in love. But it's not with a guy. =/ She's my best friend, and everyone knows it. Most of my friends dislike her A LOT. And they call her a lesbian and they talk about her behind her back and say they think she's a 'dude' and what not, because she's one of those tomboys who dresses like a guy. Me and her get into little fightes a lot, but we always make up. And we don't hang out as much as we'd like, but the time we DO spend together makes it so worth while. =] I've done waaaayyyy more with her than I've done with my boyfriend, or any other guy for that matter. And lately I've been thinking of maybe breaking up with him anyways, cuz he's amazingly cool and everything but I'm just kinda feeling a 'friend' vibe. Oh and by the way nobody knows about me and my uh, girlfriend, I suppose. And she got held back so we won't really get to hang out that much in school. =[ But anyways, I'm not really sure what I'm asking here. But someone just please gimme some advice?

^ Agreed .

Yeah um break up with the bf..and then do whateever you'de like.

^^shes right.

Rofl I did question whether to post that on here because you'd all think I'm a two-timing bisexual slut. :)
Even if you didn't say it, I know what you're thinking and even though I did put myself out to be judged, whatever.
None of you really know how I feel about her. She's amazing and I love her to death. Aha and I'm hanging out with her tomorrow. ;)
I broke up with my boyfriend today anyways. Not that he'll ever know what's been going on.
Nobody knows, none of my friends or her's, and none of either of our family members.
But okay. I'm happy with my life righte now and that's all that matters to me. ;)

Good dear. :]
I hope you're happy.
That's why I don't post questions on here either. Lol.

But, if you have a girlfriend, you're not straight.
Lmfao.
You're bisexual.
Not saying you're a bisexual slut.
But, if you like girls.. You're bisexual.
lmfao.

Good luck with all this dear. :]

I support LOVE, no matter who it's between. There's nothing wrong with being gay or lesbian or bisexual in my opinion. You're 14, and yes, I'm only 16, but I know for a fact that I'm mature for my age and I have experienced more than most people my age, as well, but if you won't take my advice because of my age, so be it. If you LOVE her, you should start a relationship with her and lose the guys. People aren't toys and shouldn't be tossed around. Don't treat relationships like games. Get into a relationship for the feelings involved, not for the drama or the attention or the popularity. Whether you and your girlfriend decide to open up about eachother or not is your choice, but I will tell you now, you will end up HURTING her if you don't remember to stick up for her when people throw insults. Part of a relationship is standing up for eachother.

Oh, and another peice of advice I think is important for you to hear:

Life is not about meeting the standards of your friends and even family. You need to find yourself and BE yourself, no matter what. It doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else. A big part of maturity is learning how to do things for yourself. Get good grades because YOU want to go far, not because your MOM wants you to go far, instead of FAILING because your mom PRESSURES you. Do things for YOU, without trying to rebel and without trying to please others. You do not live to please others. If YOU like you, then that's all that matters. Life's not about molding yourself to be who others want you to be, it's about being who you are and finding someone who loves every bit of it. <3 Good luck.

Agreed^
Ever heard of wwjd?
if i get stuck in bad sitchs ive been told to read the bible it has really good info
and pray b/c it helps u feel not alone and many other feelings i love
i probably sound all preachy dont take it like that please!!

o yes and look to the future
who do u see ur self with in the future a girl?a guy? some one who will b w/ u forever or only til u stop doing something or stop having something?

figure out what u want for ur life then figure in how people effect what u want

What did you post here for?

Did you want our opinions on what you should do? Did you just want to let out the current state on your life to a community of (relative) strangers?

I'll give my opinions in case that's what you wanted, you can ignore what you want.

1. I think you should stop cheating on people. You can't help who you like/love, but you can help what you do about it. If you're going to do stuff with your 'girlfriend,' break up with the guy.

2. Liking girls is fine. Does it even matter what you call it? If you want to say you're straight, does it change the fact that you like this girl? No? Who cares? The terminology isn't that important anyway.

3. I know you might ditch this guy for a girl, so this may not seem applicable, but DON'T GET PREGNANT. I might as well say that to everyone under 20. Studies just show the kids are going to have a harder life when their parents have them young. I can't say I really care if you have sex, just don't get pregnant. Yeah, that was sort of random.

Anyhow, pay attention to parts 1 and 2.

Really just be yourself. But I really don't get why you possted do you want an opinion from people?

My advice is just be yourself, forget about what other think about you, go with the girl if it makes you happy. Basically just do what ever makes you happy girl :)

Hah, a lot of this made me giggle. ;)
I broke up with my boyfriend. And I've been hanging out a lot more with my 'girlfriend'. It seems weird calling her that, but whatever. Yeah I guess I did want opinions, mostly advice though. Just to kind of open up my mind to more possiblities? Sure, I guess. Anyways...She acts just like any of my other boyfriends have. She sticks up for me, she holds me close to her around my tummy from behind when I get pissed off, she cuddles with me and tickles me, and gives me kisses on places other than my lips. And she tells me she loves me all the time.
She's truly amazing. And I remember one nighte on AIM her asking me if I thought we were bi. I said I wasn't sure, and she said she kinda thought we were.
Mm but she has a boyfriend. So idk what we are righte now, not really 'together', but...I don't know how to describe it. But for now, I love it. :)

Awesome, congrats.

Mm I feel kinda weird for this but as much as I love her, and 'us', it's still confusing. Like a couple nightes ago we were laying in her bed and she had my camera and we were taking pictures of us kissing. And I don't know why we even did because a little while later she was like, 'I hope you aren't gunna put those on myspace.' And since nobody but us knows about everything, I was like 'Um, h*ll no.'

Ehhhhhh. I don't know. She's my best friend, and much much muchhh more, and I already have the feeling we're gunna drift apart anyways because she's getting held back this year. But I guess I'm just trying to make the time righte now worth it. And it has been. :]

Im glad u r happy with ur girlfriend or wateva she is:) i dont suggest cheating but i know that u dont have 2 b a slutt 2 cheat. i went through a stage of cheating on a lot of ppl a couple of yrs ago, it was a thrill and it made me feel wanted, i once had 10 bfs at once and they all lived in town..... i was careful i never got caught but i fell in love and had 2 break the habit.... it was hard 2 do but i stopped cheating completely b4 going out with him. i stayed with him 4 a yr and a half but we broke up bcoz it was long distance....
now i have a girlfriend!!! lol she is awsum and im closer 2 her thne i ever have been with any1.....
im only 15 but im sure im bi i've thought so since i was 10.....
good luck with ur girl and i hopw u 2 dont drift apart bcoz den u both could get hurt and that would b bad....

well 4 real i hope it works out good luck and never ever let any1 judge u on sexuality or ur past.... now is whats important and people should realise that....

lots of love from kida xoxo

1: There is NOTHING wrong with being gay or whatever you wanna call it.
2: People say that if you are you know it all your life, not just part of your teenage life.
3: The best looking girls are lesbians ;) lol

I agree with Dave. Just let yourself find yourself before you label yourself. If this girl makes you happy then be with her. Does it really matter that it is a girl? No. Just do what ever makes you happy.