{I told him i love him!!!}

Alright so My guy Nelson died last year and he was my friend ashleys brother so he was like a brother to me and yesterday was the one year since he died so i spent the whole weekend over there for him because he always used to say that if he ever died he would want us to drink the night away just like he always did....now let me tell you that i dont really drink that much so yea yesterday was terrible and i dont remember any of this but my friend ashley was sitting there with me the entire time while i was talkin to Domonic and we me and ashley decided that it would be best if i waited anoter month to tellhim that i love him n i was cool wit that but she said that i told him that i loved him last night on the phone and he was lke why dont we talk about it tommarow when your sober and stuff like that and idk what i said but then i talked to him today and i didnt remember and he was like do you know wat you said to me yesterday and iwas like no why did i say something stupid? He was like idk if i would call it stupid and then he told me and i was like wellyou know drunk words are sober thoughts....n idk he said that its too soon and he dont think its love, he thinks its infactuation and he doesnt want me to be in love wit him cuz now IF he ever hurts me its gonna be worse for me...and idk what to even say i mean i just want to make him as happy as he makes me but it seems like this is gonna change something wit us even tho he said it wouldnt...what do i do??????///

{*Sorry this is sooo long*}

Wow..your situation is just so difficult.
hmm..ok the fact that you told him you love him is a good thing i think because you at least now know how he feels. but it wasn't good that it happened over you being drunk but i guess that can't be helped.
but it's also not good that he doesn't feel the same way..or that he's doubting what you're feeling. if you're sure you're in love (are you?) he shouldn't be doubting you and telling you that what you feel is not real. you got to straighten out that issue with him.
he doesn't want you to be in love with him cause he's scared if he hurts you it'll be worse. ok yes..but obliously he's scared because he doesn't feel the same way. the thing is it'd be easier for him to hurt you at this point..and that's definitely not good.
i don't even know what to tell you. the best thing i think for now is to wait it out. cause i don't think you'de like the idea of breaking up with him since you are in love with him. so just give him time..
i know it will probably bother you that he's not on the same page..but sometimes it takes guys a little longer..or maybe you're the type of person to fall in love quickly (i'm not saying that you are)..idk..i'm really not sure what to tell you except to go on with the relationship and not let this really sepparate you guys in any way.
i hope this has helped in some way or another..
all the best!
--Viola

Ofcorse i am really in love wit him otherwise i wouldnt be going through all this...lol but how do i straghten out the issue of him doubting me i mean i am most def. not the type to fall in love quicly i mean i know the difference between love and puppy love and this is most def. not puppy love it is just rediculous how i feel about him and im not saying that he has to fall me right away im not saying he needs to fall for me at all i just thought he should know...he said that me tellin him didnt effect him in anyway it didnt make him like me more or less....this IS a confusing situation!

I agree, it really is.
ok so you ARE in love, for sure. i understand.
as i said it's a good thing you told him..since you felt he should know..well now he knows.
and i think it's ok for him not to feel the same..i mean you don't have to force him, which i know you won't.
how to straighten out the issue of him doubting you..i really do not know. i think just talk to him. and tell him that for you it's real. you're positive..you're sure. and tell him what you just said about knowing the difference between infatuation and actual love, and it truly is love. he shouldn't be doubting your feelings.

the fact that he said it didn't effect him doesn't sound too good to me. cause i would think it would effect him..it's a pretty big thing for someone to say that. but i don't know the guy so naturally i can't just judge him...

it'd be nice to get someone else's opinion on this..cause i'm a little confused by your situation myself. :S i'm sorry, but i'm not sure what to say to help you out.

--Viola

Yea you are a lot of help and everything i do wish someone else would help too cuz im so confused and i feel unloved and i just dont know what to say to him anymore you know? And i know that when he said that it didnt effect him i felt soo cold idk i know he didnt mean to hurt me and everything but it really did..i talked to my guy friend Jhony and he said for me to just not say anything about it anymore cuz it might scare him away and just make him feel like im forcing him so should i just do that?