Im being torn apart

Wow this is so hard im in love with my man but my ex recently came back into my life and idk wat to do cause my feelings just came rushing back to me i need help i love both of them to death HELP!!!!!!!!!!

I'd probably say that, if you really love your boyfriend, you don't really love your ex your just remembering what you had with him and your mind is trying to play tricks with you and make you think that what you had you still have =p lols I have no idea if that made the slightest bit of sense but if it helps I was right there with you in my last relationship =p It completely sucked, but I looked closely at what my boyfriend at the time and I had together and I knew that there was hope for us then I looked at my ex and had to take a good look at if I truly saw any hope that what happened the first time wouldn't happen the second time =p It didn't take me long to figure out that I was better off sticking with my boyfriend =)

hehehe I'm sure this didn't help at all but I hope it did a little =) Hopefully things work out for you and your abale to figure things out ^_^
Rhea

I do agree with the post above ^
you broke up with your ex for a reason..and who knows if you went back to him you might end up hurt again..and breaking up just like you did the first time. i don't think you should go back to him..in my opinion i'd suggest you stay with your current bf. but then again i don't know your ex..and the reason you broke up, etc..
it's a decision you have to make for yourself.
but still i'd give a hard long look at the potential you have with your ex and the potential with your current bf.
how much hope is there for you and your ex to have a great relationship once again?..
and if you truly love your boyfriend now would you risk letting him go and going back to your old one to only have that fail once again?
i don't know..i can't make the decision for you. you got to think about this..

best of luck! =]
--Viola

Yep yep, ex's are for a reason, and you said so yourself that your are in love with your current man ;p... so why even risk that with your ex?... of course, there are going to be some feelings of love towards your ex (assuming it was love), and to be completely honest with you... if it was TRUE love, those feelings will never go away, and you have to find somewhere in the back of your heart to store it and move on. If things are great with your current boyfriend, and your happy, then it wouldn't be fair to either one of you if you broke it off with him to risk a second chance with your ex.

You can't love two people at the same time . It's infatuation .

You dont love both of them, you are only clinging onto your current boyfriend at an attempt to push your ex aside, which is apparently failing..quite miserably

You probably dont love either of them

it is a mere infatuation

FEW people actually love someone in the real stature of love

You don't 'love' anyone. You're just 16 and majorly confused because your hormones are all over the place. Get a grip.

Yea dude I know how u feel cuz I'm sort of in the same situation u are in cuz I am in love with my man but then I'm in love with my ex-boyfriend too so I have no idea wat to do accept to be depressed and stuff...

You can have love for someone, you can love someone, and you can be IN love with someone.

Who are you IN love with?

Cause I honestly don't believe you can love two people or be in love with two people at the same time.

He's your ex for a reason.

Uh..okay who are u guys talking to??? ME or HER!?!?!?

The advice can go to BOTH of you considering the basics are the same .

What advice???? An considering wat basics that are the Same????

Don't break it off with your boyfriend that you have now because your ex could be the one that you don't want to have in your life. Stay with the one you have now.

I think u are right because I don't like my ex bf Lance anymore I dont have the same feelings for him like i use too cuz i told my ex bf lance that I would go back out with him and now that I AM I dont want to be with with him i jus want to be with my other bf nathan that Im going out with before my ex bf lance....but the thing is that when it was like the last day of school my boyfriend nathan didnt talk after that but none of them know that Im cheating on them and yea now i feel like i want to cut myself again cuz of my bf nathan cuz I really like him and I want things the way it was back then before I went back out with my ex-lance...i want to talk to him nathan again... :( thats why im like depressed and stuff...

I think it's possible to love more than one person. Love isn't an/the ultimate feeling reserved for only one target. At least I hope it's not. It's just easier to keep most love for only one. It's fair to say you love one person more than you love another...not so to say you only love one person. If there are varying degrees of love, chances are the would be a case where you'd love two persons (or more) equally.

Ok idk if u guys r helping shanel or me ok this is my post not hers ok anyways my ex and i only broke up cause he was going away for a couple monthes and he didnt want me to put my life on hold for him and thats one of the reasons i had loved him and now hes back 9 monthes later i have my current bf that i do love and ive been with him for the past like 9 months im still confused cause my current bf has been blowing me off alot and my ex i see more of him then i do my bf my sitch just keeps getting worse ands worse :'(

Listen to your heart.
Only you can decide who you want to be with.

Yupp, you are right Britt.
But, if that's what she thinks then. Oh well.
She will eventually realize that she most likely never loved either of them.

Just my opinion........

Hmm okay.
well.
i see where youre coming from...
my first love, form about a year and a half ago, recently came back into the picture, while im with my current boyfriend.
now.
you can go look at my age, smirk at me, and say whatever you please, because im sure id do the same.
but i do know that im in love with my current boyfriend.
and when my ex, zac, came back, it made it very difficult to focus on my relationship. old memories and such, yea. especially when me and my boyfriend were going through a rough patch and zac was there to help me through it.
and it took a lot of thinking, but at the end of it i remembered WHY me and zac never work out, and WHY i constantly work so hard at making sure my relationship with steve works.
and in the end, the right answer was easy.