Was i irrational?

My boyfriend and i have been together a year and a half. happy for the most part. every once in a while he will question me over the silliest things. like, who did you hang out with when you went out last? i'll say a couple people and if i say a guys name he will flip out and question why there was a guy. he could be one of my friends boyfriends but it wont matter to him. he'll just flip over it. gets old quick.

last night he called me and i quess someone commented on one of my pictures on myspace. he asked if i was talking to this guy and why in the world he would write a comment. he questioned me and continued to believe i was lying to him for a good 45 min. i got off the phone in a rage and told him we needed some time not to talk.

he called this morning and CONTINUED drilling me!!
i called it quits. told him not to talk to me for a few days. i don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't trust me. someone who doesn't believe me.

did i mess up by doing that? (i'm starting to wonder. i don't want him to think it's right to be continuously questioning me when i have nothing to hide. i'll tell him anything from what i ate at lunch to what color i painted my toes. why wouldn't i tell him afriend from tech school wrote a comment on my picture?)

help me please. : (

Here's the deal, get him 2 calm down if he wont then get out now while u can, i am currently in a relationship which started out how u described urs and it got so bad im too scared 2 leave. if he is going off over things like that how will it b if u moove in together how long will it b before he takes u away from ur family and friends, try 2 work it out but if u cant then run. also r u sure hes not doing anything behind ur back thats often a reason 4 behaviour like that

Well, he was clearly being overprotective and slightly tactless but instead of taking time off and not talking to each other, just sit down with him and ask him why he is being so inquisitive.

From personal experience, I think maybe he is guilty of cheating.
If he is always accusing you it is either because he has absoltely no trust in your whatso ever. Or he is cheating.
It also sounds like he has a jealousy problem.
But just confront him about it........

He's being irrational. There's nothing you can do about this, this is who he is and he won't be able to change. I'm only saying this because I'm with someone who's like that, only with different things. Like my boyfriend freaks out if I'm hanging out with this group of girls. He only freaks out because I've had bad expierences with them.

I've tried telling him that nothings gonna happen and if something is going to happen that I'll leave or I'll call him to pick me up.

He still doesn't trust the fact that I can make my own choices, my own good choices.

I've come to realize you really can't change who someone is, so you either love them for them, or you leave.

Just try talking to him and tell him to calm down. I don't think he will change, seeing as you didn't do anything that would cause him not to trust you.

I think he's just being overly-protective..and frankly a bit controlling. it's not good that he doesn't trust you..cause obviously you haven't done anything to break his trust.
i mean jealosy is one thing we all have, yes, but he's taking it into a bit of an extreme.
you should be able to make your own decisions..and have your own life without him having to know everything about it.
i would just talk to him about it..tell him how you feel about him..and explain that there is nothing you are doing that he should doubt. because really relationships are build on trust..and he has to be able to trust you while you are not with him.
good luck with this! =]
--Viola

No, you were NOT irrational.
He shouldn't be that controlling
and try to be in every single detail of
every minute in your life.
You have the right to have guy friends
and talk to them
and for god's sake you can paint your toenails
whatever color you want!

Thanks all (sorry it took me so long to get back on here)

we talked it out... he did it AGAIN yesterday, but immediately apologized. he said he was just afraid that if i didn't have him around, i would try to find someone who would be around for me. I reassured him i was waiting for him (he's in afghanistan) and that no one else matters.

i think he'll be better now... but if not, i am going to have to rethink this relationship... i scared him when i said that! i think i got him now!

thanks again!!!