I don't want to, but my feelings (sorta) say otherwise

I'm really confused and i didn't really want to tell other people but i think i should somewhat talk about it.

Ok so i have this best friend of mine and he's a guy. Well lately weve gotton pretty close. We talk to each other every day, wether its on the phone or on IM, and when we do talk, we talk for hours at a time. Right now i can only see him being as my friend, but i do have small feelings toward him.
My parents really like Him, they think he's a great guy and wonder why were not dating, and i keep telling them that i only see him as my very good friend and that i don't like him enough to go out with him. But everytime he calls and im not there or somehting like the my siblings will be like "your boyfriend called" and it gets me so mad. i keep telling them that were just friends and that nothing will happen.
Earlier in the year this guy asked me out, and just last week when we were at the pool my brother asked him if he liked me and he said yes. so i know he likes me and he knows that i only want to be friends.

But the thing is, i could see him as a future boyfriend. He's really a great guy and he would kind of seem like the perfect guy, but im not ready to settle down yet, im still in HS and im only 16, were both going to be seniors and stuff though but were going to completly differnt colleges, and after college im moving back to Wisconsin. I just don't know what to do, i don't want to date him right now, and theres no other guy in my life that i like a bunch or anything, i just don't want to settle down, and date him right now.

Is there something wrong with me?

It's natural, but you know, settling down in my eyes is like marriage, okay ? If you're dating him, that doesn't mean you're like ... promised to him for the rest of your life or something . Why not just look at the now ? Like you said, you're only sixteen . If he likes you, and your feelings say so, too . Why not just give it a shot ? If you're worried about the future, let it handle itself . You can figure those things out after you've figured out the things and what to do NOW .

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Thanks for the advice, but the things is he's my best friend and if we were to ever break up it wouldn't ever be the same. i've had bad luck wth best friends in the past and i really don't want to mess this one up =(. and i mean i don't REALLY like him or anything just.. i dunno he would seem like the guy that i would want to settle down with, and we could turn into high school sweethearts and stuff but i don't want to. i want live free and stuff.

Your talking about this as if he's the only guy like that in your life, your 16 when you experience a little more of what life throws at you, you wont think that way, keep him as a friend a best friend gone boyfriend would make for a good relationship but i wont last, like you said your moving to wisconsin . Just chill, there are probably loads of guys like him out there.

If I were you, for now, I would stay friends. Once you start a relationship and your relationship ends for whatever reason, your friendship will be gone..

But I believe, whatever is meant to be will happen.

Who knows, one day you might be hanging out together, and you'll share an intimate conversation, and he'll grab you in his arms and kiss the life out of you.

Lol, I'm such a romantic dreamer.

Wow.. i love romance.. lol. thanks for advice all. im just so confused. and you all have helped but im still not sure what i want.

For one: Do NOT date him because you feel bad that he likes you so much. What I would do is just be friends, but don't stress. Try to get intimate a little without saying a definate 'Yes' or 'No' to the dating question. Maybe even spring for a kiss. It will either feel right, or it won't. There are a lot of things that aren't WRONG in the world, but usually there's only one thing that's really RIGHT. Don't jump into the relationship, try a slow transition. You'll know whether or not it's feeling right or not.

And like others have said, live for now. Plans change and if you dont spring for what you want NOW, you'll regret it later. (And by that I don't mean make stupid decicions like you want a beer NOW or you want unprotected sex NOW. *rolls eyes*)

Lol thanks everyone. see i like him sorta, and i love being around him. we have a lot of fun together. i just don't know if anything should happen between us. but you all are helping a lot and i appreciate it. i guess the only thing i can do is wait it off and see if its what i really want.

See we also hung out today, and we stayed with each other the entire time and we share our food and drinks and stuff. and he's also really good with children. ( he has a 3 year old sister and a 5 year older brother that were adopted) he has a lot of great qualities and stuff. i guess we'll see. thanks all.

So he asked me out.. and i rejected him.. in the easiest way possible. i dunno if that was the right or wrong thing to do.. but i hope things get better cuz right now its a bit awkward.

Does he seem very sad to b around u
i personally think u did the right thing
b/c isn't it better to have a great guy friend then mess it up w/ more if it would wreck that friend ship if it didn't work
and peer pressure sucks
glad u didn't give in like i did) b/c i was sick of the ur buyfriend and why aren't u going out?) it sucked b/c i didnt even like him more than a friend
good job
god bless

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Yea it was very awkward. and right before he got off it seemed as if he was implying that i led him on, when i have no idea how because i hung out with him as if i were to hang out with any other friend. we just hung out a bit more, and i trust him with anything. i dunno. he's hurt.. all i want is mine and his friendship to go back to normal.

He still hasn't talked to me... and im afraid to call him.. what do i do?

Just give him some time to get over you. It's going to be awkward for him for at least a little while, so let him get over that.

Guys can be very clueless. You think you are just being a nice friend, and he thinks you're flirting. I believe that happens a lot, that I have noticed anyways.

Yea... well i finally talked to him again, and i flipped out on him, which i guess was no help for him =(. but he doesn't want to hang out as much anymore. which really upsetted me. those guys with those minds.. pfft