Bipolar? Abusive? Whats wrong with my mom?

I need advice or something, solution maybe? I dont know. Cuz Im not sure if this is a problem, or normal. My friends families arent like this so Im guessing somethings wrong.
Well lets see.....my mom can be totally fine and smiling and singing and laughing, then all of a sudden...she starts screaming at me she throws stuff at me, complains that Im worthless calls me a lazy good for nothing fuckin bitch. Then she wil say that she feels like strangling me and she'll move closer ready to grab my head and strangle me but always move away before that happens, and at the same time...tears are pouring down my face and Im shaking. If not that she will just scream a little then wreck something of mine that I love, and slap my arm. It stings for a few minutes a lot, but it never leaves a bruise or anything permanent.
And when she gets like this I run to my room and dont come out til her fit is over. So that she doesnt so anything again. And I have to lean against my door cuz I cant lock it, and she always tries to fling it open, so I put all my weight onto it. Then she says that if I wanted to move out, she would hold the door open.
About an hour later she always says shes sorry. But that I should understand why she had to do that. Which i never do, but I agree anyways so everything can jus be fine. I dont know what else to do, and I dont know why she does this.
Anybody know any answers?

Call Child Services or whatever the duece it is that they call it. I went through that with my dad. He started beating me every other day since I was four until I was thirteen when he died. If you don't stick up for yourself you'll regret it later on. You can also try talking to her about it. Bring along a trusted friend to make sure she doesn't try to hurt you. If she does try to hurt you then you've got all the proof you need that she has been doing it. If you get to the root of the problem by talking about it then that's even better.

I know you probably care alot for your mother but I think you should contact child services. If there is something wrong, witch Im not sure it could be bipolar, she may be able to get some help with it. It's not right for her to hurt you sick or not. It may be hard but like it was said ^(above post) bring a trusted friend with you and speak to her let her know what she does affects you. then maybe she'll want to get help for herself without the invovlment of child services. But talk to her first with a friend.
Im very sorry that it has come to that for you.

But you have to make her stop before it progresses to a much worse situation.
Best of luck with you and your mom.
~Akira

My mother used to that to me when I was younger as well... A never ending circle... It makes you so confused... The reason that I think my mom did that was because she had bipolar disorder. She was on medication and everything for it and had been hospitalized a couple times for it.. I could never just talk to her and ask her why she did something because she would take it offensive and start to hurt me again, to start yet another circle. But maybe your mom will let you speak your mind. Otherwise, try writing a note, that way, she can read it when you aren't home, so she will have calmed down by the time you did get home and can talk about it in a civilized manner

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My mom is like your mom.

You know what i find amazing. you live in australia but you wrote mom, not mum. unless you only just arrived why are you renouncing the australian ways....arghhhh...lol sorry

anyway yeh call child services but that's only if your prepared for what comes along with it. if your scared and all and don't want to live at home then do so otherwise suggest to your mum about her going to see a doc or counsellor. and if you want to speak to a counsellor but can't tell your mum call that abuse/assault line. you know you see all the adds on t.v

"violence against women australia says no!"

it's suppossed to be confidential

cheers

In terms of what may be wrong with your mom:

Yes it could be bipolar or dissociative identity disorder (DID). Most people recall DID as multi-personality disorder.

It sounds like your mom has a hormonal imbalance of some nature. That explains the vicious mood swings, and the emotion changes.

Either way, medical attention, diagnosis and help is required.

Thanks. Ill try. I jus hope it doesnt affect my relationship with her. Cuz your rite.I do love her.

My friend went through the same thing as you are now.
& I went through it except with my father.

My friend tried to run away, I convinced her to come stay at my house and not try leave the country.
Her mam found out & Dragged her back, Hitting her in front of my mam.
My mam called the police, & Reported it.

Social workers went to her house & She spent that summer working in a restaurant her nana owned and lived there for the summer.
When she went home everything seemed fine, & Still is.
This was 2 years ago.

I guess what I'm trying to say is tell someone.
I had known about this for 5 years, & I took care of her but had no way of stopping it.
I'm only 15 now I was extremely young then.
But when an adult found out, She got away for time to think & Decided to return, Her mom has given up drinking & Is trying her best with meds and stuff.

So yeah, Reason to the story.
-Call childline or something of the sort.
Tell a friends mom your close to.
A teacher, Any adult who can help.

- There's always hope, So don't give up.
Your mother loves you too, And thats why you'll be able to figure out a solution.

Thats the part i dread.
talking to a social worker. or my mom going away.
my mom doesnt drink (cant blame tht), she doesnt take medication (cant blame tht)
and when i tell her tht shes hurting me my dad yells/screams at me for saying she needs help then she does the same. then it makes it worse.
i know i have to tell someone but its awfully hard.
to me itll make everything worse.

My father was like that. He would call me everything mean under the sun, just completely degrade me. Pour water on my projects, kick my furniture, throw my things, slap me until there were welts, etc.

I ended up going into counseling. It really helped. He came with me to some and that helped a lot too. I still don't like my father, but sometimes counseling is needed.

But that might not always be the case. Maybe your mother needs medication or some sort of special help. But you do need to contact someone.

I have a friend who is in almost this same exact situation...it's been going on for quite a while, and it's escalating, slaps becoming hits, the insults getting worse...she's locked in her house, windows boarded up, etc. I'm not saying THAT'S going to happen, I'm just saying...at least you are not alone. Her mom is bipolar, she's been diagnosed. Now, my friend called the cops...she ran away one day after her mom hit her...she called the cops and they gave her a child services number. She called them, but they basically told her they couldn't do anything about it, and to call the cops. The cops said the same thing, they couldn't do anything. My suggestion is you do the same...call the cops, something, because I'm willing to bet they will take much better care of you than the stupid f-ers they have around here! If that doesn't work, tell a teacher, a friend, someone you trust. You've got to do something! The very best of luck to you.

Sounds to my like your mother is schizophrenic! My ex-step sister was Schizo and so was her mom, so I know the behavior, and that sounds about right. If she is, it might be possible that she will try to kill you! It also passes down into generations, so you might get it or have it. DO NOT mention to your mom about being schizophrenic, because they never believe it and get beyond furious and hurt people, screaming everything. I really believe you should either move out with a family member/friends, get checked, and call around to find out if they can check your mom out. When they are on their medications, they are fine!

I'm sorry this sounds kinda mean or whatever, but I'm serious, this sounds like schizophrenia! Please be careful too, because they have been MANY cases of schizpohrenic parents killing their children because the voices told them.

OMG
i dont wanna die!
wow...im scared now

I dont smart off.....i never talk back...i never curse. And my friends parents say Im like the perfect daughter, and tht my parents must be proud. But for some reason they arent. And she blows up for no reason. Yesterday I put her apples from the store on the floor....(they were in a bag) so i could shut off the stove and she reached over and smacked my right leg really hard and starting screaming. Shes like,"DONT THROW MY F*CKIN APPLES ON THE F*CKIN FLOOR! YOU LITTLE BITCH! YOUR A FUCKIN BITCH! WHY CANT YOU DO ANYTHING RIGHT!" And i was only trying to help her with the groceries. So then i continued helping her and she goes....."GET OUT OF MY F8CKIN FACE YOU LITTLE SHIT, OR I SWEAR TO GOD IM GOING TO STRANGLE YOU! I SERIOUSLY FEEL LIKE SMACKING YOU ONE AND KILLING YOU YOU F*CKIN BICH!"
and then i started shaking and sobbing and shes like, "(in a scary low but angry voice) Youre a little baby thats wht you are! I SAID GET OUT OF MY F*CKIN FACE!"

Then about an hr later.....she came up to me and wanted to sit and watch tv with me. Like it never happened. And then after tht little moment she got angrt again. For no apparent reason.

Jeeze guys don't go scaring her. i highly doubt either of you are psychatrists or psychologists and most likely don't have any expertise in diagnosing such a serious mental health illness such as schizophrenia. and i would also like to add that many schizophrenic's can go on to lead normal lives and it is very rare for one of them to become homicidal
seriously if you are that worried about it then (you live in australia right) then call DOCS, their number is 132 111. it is 24/7. all you have to do is tell them what is happening and they will help. and when they come to your house to talk to your mum then ask them not to tell them you were the one who reported it. if this is the way you want to go then use your mobile or pay phone to call so it doesn't show up in the phone bill. also if you are going to do it then i would suggest doing it soonish. because you are 15 and once you turn 16 DOCS really becomes hopeless because you are considered able to look after yourself.
and don't go worrying about your mum going to kill you, i very highly doubt that is going to happen and if you feel as if she is going to then get yourself out of the house and call the police 000.

Well if she attaked you ether kill her of hire someone to do for you. people who hit women will be killed

^well that is just ridiculous

i strongly advise you do neither, all it means is that you are sinking to her level.

Get help! She needs to see help and you need to get out of there until someone figures out her problem. You love your mom but you really don't deserve to live through that...reallly. I can't imagine what it is like but all i know it is wrong. You can attempt to talk to her, but i advise calling child services. and she sounds like she needs pchsyatic help. You can't determine hwta is wrong with her yourself. It sounds like mind games to me but bipolar is possible. Get help and it will be helping you and your mom. You might think she'll hate you after or somehting. Don't be scared to save yourself pain. Someday you'll thank yourself and your mom will figure out what a gift you are to her and how you helped her

GET HELP NOW! this is screaming abuse and you need out before somehting happnes! Don't be too scared to save yourself!!! You don't need to go through this!!!!!!!!

[To I R Lisaa
there is always hope ha don't make me laugh
soical workers only make thing worse
serouly things that work for ur friend alway don't work for every one
there is to many varbles to calculate a logical]

If you read what I said, I was saying the solution was her leaving for a while and both of them taking time.
I didn't say the social workers swooped in and fixed everything.

And maybe the person looking for advice would be one of the people who can actually be helped.

So keep your attitude to yourself, please.

Yeah my friends cant stand my parents. for many reasons. And one of them is becuz they treat me badly and theyre kinda scared of them. its not a pretty picture.

You should definatly contact child services. you could get seriously hurt if you don't. she may be bipolar...i don't know but even that is no excuse to treat you like this. get help...you really should get help.