Choices

Okay I want your stories on how you lost the one you loved because you waited to long to tell him/her how you feel.

Or because of a choice they made that made them think different of what was between them and you.

And are you over them or not, what do you wish you could've done different in the relationship?

Okay I think I should atleast start because I started the posting.

I was so crazy about this guy named Jesse. I was truly in love with him. He was all I could ever think about and I was truly committed to him, I made every guy know that I was taken and I was not going to cheat nor do anything to screw it up. We talked for about 5 months and when I was sitting on my moms bf's porch he asked me if we talked more like boyfriend/girlfriend then we do friends. I said more like boyfriend/girlfriend because we talked about EVERYTHING. Family problems, to friendship problems to life & marriage to many other things. He then asked me out on the phone. [this was a long distance relationship, me in Wisconsin and him in Missouri, not that far but still]. I gave up 2 hours of fun with my mom and the car rides just to talk to him. We made it past 4 months and then he'd called me one day after a week of not talking. He said that he finally got up the nerve to tell me he got drunk and slept with a girl. But 6 months ago he told me that he doesn't sleep with people when hes drunk unless their his girlfriend. I wasted frickin 9 months to a guy who ended up cheating on me the whole damn time. His ex messaged me and me and her are now best friends because the hurt that Jesse brought us mended us together because we both experienced the pain to know that he doesn't even regret what he did.

Now he d o e s n t even know that I e x i s t e d in his life.

I'm still not over him and I don't think that I will ever be because he was the first one to make me realize how truly in love I was in but to finally find that it was the first time I felt heartbroken. Now I don't get so committed to a guy at all, I won't just take 2 hours of fun to talk to them now. If they want to talk and I'm busy I won't talk to them because I don't want to get close to them as I did with Jesse because I'm afraid that it's going to happen again as it did with me and Jesse.

I want to hear your stories!!!

Ok well i think this was more so lust, the closest thing to love. Cuz i haven't experiencd love yet and don't want to .. any who

I knew this guy lets call him Jason. well his sister and i were best friends and then jason and i started to go out in 8th grade. well i moved away and never even said anything to him, never called him so it was i guess a trailed off rel. well jason and i became really good friends i guess best friends at the end of 9th grade then about october of tenth grade we started going out. my parents didn't really like him so i coudln't talk to him on the phone or hang out with him or nothing. we could only see each other in school which kinda made it more special and we never got annoyed of each other or anything

well right after christmas he had told me that he still smoked and did drugs. i got pretty upset because i usually don't go out with guys that do that kind of stuff but i figured that since we were already 3 months into the rel. theres no point in ending it JUST because of that. but it got worse about a month and half later we started having problems. he started to come to school high, and started to look really bad. im guessing he wasn't taking care of himself that much.

He had told me he was going to go smoke with one of his friends thats a girl and that she was going to have another girl over to smoke pot with them. and i trust jason a lot but i've never smoked pot so im not really sure hot it goes with all that, but i dind't want him going alone to smoke pot with 2 girls.. i thought he may end up cheating on me or something and he started to get upset with me. well after that we started to have more problems because it seemed as if he smoked pot more then he hung out with me. it was as if he was never happy or anything. so we were talking through notebook one day.. (right in front of each other. we were in the library) and we argued through paper (i know so stupid) and he broke up with me... right there in front of me.. but on paper. and i told him that i guess i should have never gotton involved with a stupid pothead like you. and walked off.

well after we broke up people were saying that i made him choose pot or me and that he chose pot.. which wasn't the case.. i never made him choose nor did i ever ask him to choose, i just wanted to be with him more and that i felt pot was taking over his life. .. so my lust rel. ended because of pot. =(

Thats sad that your ex did that to you, i hate cheaters. but i guess you made a good friend out of it.

Mike that was great to hear.

And TrueLove-

I'm sorry that he ended it with you on paper. But you know your stronger then what you may think you are. No one would really think that someone doing pot may be a great person on the inside.

I'm glad you gave it all that you could.

Neh i still wonder to this day the REAL reason why he broke up with me. i heard other things but oh well. life comes with heartbreaks.

I wish I could help but I don't know what you are feeling really. I have had a boyfriend my first one that I thought I loved at the time but later relized I never did and he broke up with me to go to some other girl because his buddys told him things about me that were not true.

Guys suck when they listen to there friends. its as if the don't have a mind of there own O.o

Choices are a pain in the A** and we all know that shit, well my choice was being by myself or giving this guy a chance and i gave him a chance and he was the best thing in this life he was my everything and i loved it. but he soon left ansd i was broken i want edhim to stay but he didnt only i knew i had to let him go and now hes coming back to me which is cool and i love it i love him so much and i guess if u really care about sumone u let them go and if its ment to be then they will always come back

I used to date this guy, lets call him Timothy, a few monts back. He was really... heaven. I had never been in a relationship like that before, all the things he would say to me, the way he would touch me... it was like the things you see in those romantic movies. It felt that way as well, I had never loved someone as much as him, I thought he was the love of my life... ah well, he broke up with me after three weeks, explaining he didn't know if he ever meant those things he had said to me and he wanted to be on his own again because I had become too much of a 'routine'... it broke my heart, terribly. It's hard to trust again, but I guess time heals what reason cannot eh?