Divorced-Living In The Same House

Well this week my parents have been argue horribly all of the time, and as of this week they're not a couple anymore, but they still live in the same house and fight, and we live in a small town so I'm not supposed to tell anyone that they broke up, so pretty much I can't talk to anyone, because I can't talk to my friends... my parents don't want everyone in town involved in this.. and when they argue they are really loud and it carries up to my room, and most of the time my dad is blaming everything on me and my brothers and my mom is saying the only reason she's staying in the house is because of us, so it feels like this is my fault and if I wasn't here that everything would be fine.. I don't know what to think, and all I can do is cry to myself in my room, because I'm not supposed to tell anyone, and I can't talk to anyone, but I have to tell someone... so I decided to write here... And I don't know if it is my fault or not... but it feels like it so much that if I were gone that everything would be fine, I've thought of running away a lot and I don't know...

But it feels like my fault still, if they didn't have kids they could leave, they wouldn't have to live together...they could go on with their lives, but now that I'm here, they'd be better off without me.... and "wait for things to settle down"? I've waited 13 years and its just gotten worse, they used to fight like crazy still, but now it just worse that they aren't together...

Yeah, but they did have kids, they've been married for 27 years, and maybe in the beginning it was good, but since they've had kids, we've ruined everything, and now I'm the only thing stopping then from finally leaving each other, because 2 of my brothers are graduated and the other has somewhere else to live, so if I wasn't here, they'd be able to leave... and... even they think its our faults...

Ook its not ur fault. trust meh. my parents got divorced and ya i no wut its like. parents shouldnt blame there children for stuff like this. if you didnt do anything its not ur fault. now, i have to go to meh moms house on certain days and i have to go to meh dads house on other days. why dont u tell ur parents about something like that? and if that doznt work try talking to sum1 thats an adult, you must beh able to trust them tho...sorry if i couldnt help but... i hope i could...=D if u need more help PM meh. =D

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I know how horrible to hear those words from your dad's mouth and your mom but like others said it's not your fault. but remember that you said "I'm the only thing stopping then from finally leaving each other" and that's very good. if u r the reason for not departing then its good because it means they care about your existance after all, pluse departing is a very bad solution.

It isn't your fault... my dad and my mom are divorced and my dad blames it all on me and my sister... NEVER himself... my mom told him to leave because he was cheating on her... it got me upset for a long time because of the fact that i thought it was my fault because my little sister was just a baby then... my mom had to tell me the whole story on why her and him are divored and now when he blames it on me i just say sre... just ignore it because you wouldn't be there if they didn't 'love' eachother at one time

First of all, don't run away. That isn't going to solve your parent's problems. In fact, it'll probably make things worse.

Nothing with any relation to your parent's arguing is your fault. Okay? Nothing at all. Thousands of kids who have to live through a parent's divorce blame themselves. Forget what your dad said, it isn't true.

I wish you the best of luck, and get those thoughts of this being your fault out of your head. =]

Im not sure about where you live but surely there is a children's or teenager's helpline to call for things like this? Its better to talk to someone than to try to get support off here because they can talk you through specifics and you can call them anytime you like or whenever you feel you have something else you need cleared up or need to talk to someone about. And you dont have to give your name so you're not blabbing your parent's dirty washing to the world - its just to help you.

I am going through the same thing except i am not in a small town my dad is out of the house and i can talk to ppl but its hard they still fight! and it feels like it is my fault but it is not we didnt do anything!

My parents argue alot to they live in the same house yet they argue all the time... its really hard to live with it being like this its hard on me and my little sister... my little sister doesn't show that she is hurt inside but ino that she is.. my mum and dad argue everyday about the stupid little things i always have to scream at them and tell them to stop but then it ends up hurting me more by yelling at them... i always break into tears when i see my mum and dad argueing even when i can only hear them... it makes things worse when i see them.. i just don't no if i can deal with it .. i no that everyone else is getting hurt to. they argue about how my older sister doesn't live with us but she has a baby and is living with drugos and its hurt them and me to see her living like that and having a baby in that kind of inviroment isnt very good for the baby or my sister... there is so much that i want to say about my parents and how they argue alot but it just breaks me into tears when i think about it ... i no that to all of you that you have said things about your parents and how they are divorced but still living together well my parent have been together for like 30 years and the are not married but they act like they are married and need a divorce.. I'm sorry to everyone who has parents like that... my parents are just like your's but there just not married....and i just dont no how to handle my parents being this way cos it breaks me and my little sister apart..

-Amelia