What's the point in marriage?

Not trying to sound harsh or anything.. but really, what is the point in getting married? I ask this because I had someone else ask me the same thing but I couldn't give them a straight answer.

They told me that marriage is just a piece of paper and a ring. And that if you really love someone, you don't have to get married.. just be with that person for the rest of your lives.

Any thoughts?

Yeah...I agree with you.
But when your married, it's different.
Not that I would know, but being married means ythat you have the same last name. And you wear a ring on your finger.
Atleast thats the way I look at it.

But then again, I would have to be married to know.
Maybe I will ask my parents. :)
Lol.
Hope I helped.

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I agree with you. It just is in the bible that you are to get married before you have sex and a baby and many more.

Yes it does say in the bible that your are to be married to have sex and all but being married is a amazing thing it it more then a ring and a piece of paper it also give you the right to have what is his /her if one dies and if one is in the hospital you can go be with then for if you are not and they are very sick the hospital does not have to let you in and there are many other things like medical insurance and all I know these things for I have been married for 14 years now and I love it yes we have had our bad times but we always work it out if you have any more ? please ask.

I guess you'll just have to see in the future if you ever get married (:

There are reasons why most marriages last longer than other relationships (except, in most cases, the relation of relatives and families).

Marriage is vowing to stay together until you die, and then you basically share legal crap :]
It seems sweeter, to be signed together on paper, than to just, not. It's like a chance to have your special day and a honeymoon and let everyone know how much you love each other. and to let your friends get drunk on free booze at the wedding. mhmmm !

Marriage was designed so that a man could not impregnate a woman and then just leave her, no, they would have to marry.
obviously that was before divorce.

for some reason, it just stuck around... i personally am indecisive on it... its not that i dont want to marry, its that i dont want to divorce...

Being married is supposed to be one of the sure fire way to keep 2 people that are in love together, it fails quite miserably but its worth a shot =)

Marriage is supposed to be a life long commitment but so many people now are getting divorces and commiting adultry and what not. It's not the same as it used to be.
People take the vows and then break them. True love though, in my opinion, will always last and can overcome any obstacles. So to be married, means that you have commited yourself to that person whole heartedly and have know intentions of ever leaving them. You want to spend the rest of your lifes together. "till death do you part"

I don't see the point in marriage, either.

Divorces.

Affairs.

Promising commitment does nothing to prevent those two.

Edited-And Angie, my art teacher's in his 60's and he has a girlfriend.

The only thing weird about that is that she's one of our English teachers. =)

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Well, it is just a formal arrangement saying 'I'm gonna be with this person for the rest of my life'. It holds deeper value for some than others.

All very true... but just for a second, think about if sex and having children had nothing to do with getting married.. what's the point of marriage then?

I think some poeple just want to be united in the eyes of god.
And also being married gives you a better bond and commitment to each other than just being bf and gf.

But I guess if you don't see a point in getting married then don't get married.
It all depends on the person and their perspective.

I dont want to get married, because then theres a decent chance of divorce, and my biggest fear is being in my forties, divorced and lonley, looking of datelines and chat serviced like my mother.

Marriage is just as binding as the very words you utter beofre one another, in other words its nothing worth wasting your time over.

Well you don't really have to get married it's just a symbolic type thing. It's a ceremony. Why do we have hollidays, why celebrate the day we were born, it's just how things are. You never have to do any of it it's just traditional. If no one ever got married it would be hard to keep track of who is part of which family. It's like the official way of saying hey we are now family we will go by this last name, this is his aunt, this is her cousin, blah blah blah. If no one ever got married new laws (well not really laws but I think you get what I mean) would have to be made to help keep tract of who is who which would be really weird. You wouldn't have to but to be technical I think you might....I don't know...Hmm...Would they have the same titles or would they be different? You really wouldn't have a mother in law I supose. I guess a lot of the titles would stay the same except for a few.

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this is true 0.0

well marriage is not really thought of as much these days, cohabitation is better if you want to live with somebody you love without going through th whole daunting marriage thing =D

It's not thought of that much? I thought it was. Most people I know want to get married. The thing I hate though is I know that a lot o them will divorce like 8 times. Grr on them. Divorce makes sense but the number of divorces are ridiculious!

Yeah, people get married then have a divorce and start crying about how they'd been stupid enough to carry out the divorce <.<

Angie!

Haha, you're not imagining things.

Edited-Surely you recognize the awesome bunny. =P

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I think marriage is pointless. If you really love someone oh so much, why do you need a piece of paper to prove it?

Religiously speaking for christianity, it's a means to bind you to someone for the rest of your life under God. Kinda like sacred ritual sort of thing. And back in the day, i mean like hundreds of years back-in-the-day, it made families larger and more powerful and was less of a love thing.

Nowadays, people get married because it binds you to your true love. Also, getting married has its perks. If you arent married and your boyfriend dies, you get nothing unless it says so in his will. And you'd still have to go through a lot of legal things and you still might not get it because it only applies to married people. For instance, if my dad were to die, his retirement account would go to my brother, my sister, and I, not her. And there would be no way she could possibly have it because they wouldnt be related.

Its hard to explain and im sleepy, 6:30 AM EST over here...yeah, im going back to bed

"I think marriage is pointless. If you really love someone oh so much, why do you need a piece of paper to prove it?"

Because that piece of paper makes life so much easier for a couple living together when it comes to bills, insurance, children.
Plus if a couple are just living together when they split up, the woman is entitled to nothing if it's not in her name and vice versa. That 'piece of paper' can help a lot of difficult situations.
Also what Synh says above about wills.

The love part is only a small part of marriage! The best part but not the most important.

I agree with you Britt. It's not fair.

I think love is rather important in a marriage too..probably the most important. I'd hope you don't marry someone you don't love just for the sake of getting his/her money.

Exactly. If you don't love somebody then there is no point in getting married to them. That is supposed to be the reason that you are married in the first place.

Marriage is life's ultimate commitment, if you love the person your with enough, the best step you can take for your future is to be married. It's not about sex or anything like that, it's just about being able to sit in the same room with that person for hours on end while still having a smile on your face. Just to say you want to be with that person forever and nobody else is an amazing thing, we should all be so lucky to experience it.

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Well my boyfriend always says that a relationship is already like marriage cuz its all really the same thing...and my best friends parents have been together for 30 sum years and they arent married...so idk...i think getting married is a beautiful thing...

Not everyone believes in God

Yeah, not everyone believes in God........and besides it has nothing to do with god really, the whole ceremony just basically makes it sound better and more honest......but there really blind to alot......I think people mary for love, and even if they dotn they exchange rings and w/e...if you want to be with someone forever and ur happy and want to show it, then make it final, be able to call that person urs...

Lol, personally I want to get married.. just because I've always dreamed about it, ever since I was a little girl. I'm not sure why I want to, maybe because the wedding.. honeymoon, things like that just sound sooo romantic. And what makes things even better, you get to experience it all with the one you love.

The person I did this thread for though just does not see the point in getting married. He doesn't care about sex or kids, he just doesn't believe you should make a big deal over a piece of paper. He told me that he is never going to get married because it just takes up too much times and causes problems. I think he's just afraid of getting divorced though.. Who knows?

Whats the meaning of life? Who knows, its fun and we love it so does it really matter?
Same with marrage lol and besides you get 2 wera a pretty dress

Religion. Morals.

"And if they are married and divorce, the man is entitled to lose everything. I don't see how thats fair."

No, thats what Pre Nups are for and they are used an awful lot in England now to prevent those cases

"Gem! You need to talk to an attorney! LOL!
Co-habitating can result in acknowledgement of being in a common law marriage. Translation.... half! Dave. ps. I am not an attorney! LOL!"

I did speak to one quite a while ago when me and Marcus got engaged and co-haibitating in england (Or at least Manchester where we are) has none of the boundaries or ties that marriage has at all. And is not seen as a marriage.

And to all those having a go about the love thing, i never once said love is not important in marriage, i wouldn't dream of marrying Marcus if i didn't love him. I merely meant it's not the only aspect to think about when you say 'i do'.

I think the point in getting married is just making a commitment, i gues u are kind of right. it is kind of pointless. its just a tradition?

Maybe if u love someone so much, you just want to show everyone how much u care for each other.

To me marriage is a HUGE part in the future. I would like my kids to be able to have a last name that BOTH their mom and dad have. I also want my kids to be able to say "I HAVE A FAMILY." I have a niece whose mom (my sister) and dad arent married, Its hard for her to live like that. Because what if her dad changes his mind? What if her mom panics? Theres nothing there to tie them together. I mean sure there are divorces and those are getting easier to come by, but still, it sure makes it harder for one person to leave the relationship if there is a marriage.

Marriage really isnt just a paper and a ring. That paper is only for legal status and the ring is a symbol. Marriage is (like everyone else pretty much said) a way to show that you honestly love this person and will be loyal to them forever. I don't think that people who remain unmarried have as tight of a bond as married couples.

I would love to get married because of the whole dress and ring fantasy but otherwise if you have an urgent need to get married you are insecure and probally dont trust the person your with, if you both love eachother a peice of paper isnt going to make you love eachother more

I understand were u r coming from but being a wife to the man u love is fantasic and u become a mrs and its just great