Im in Love With my b/f but my ex drives me CRAZY

Ok, im in love w/ my b/f mickey, he's my world! he treats me w/ the up most respect, he never lays a hand on me and he loves me and treats me the way i deserve. BUT my ex adam, is a problem, me n him dated for a couple months...i thought i loved him but i didn't, he was bi, he cheated on me with this guy...i didn't believe it for awhile but then i kept hearing and i freaked out and overdosed. now he's in jail for 80sumthing counts of child porn and everything and b4 he went to jail he kept calling and telling me he loved me and that im the only girl he'd ever want to be w/ even tho he's gay...i told mickey (my b/f now) cause i dont wanna keep things from him and now he always brings him up. i don't like it and donno what to say to make him realize i hate my ex for what he's done to me and i wanna erase him from my life. idk if mickeys scared or inscure but i get uncomfortable, i love mickey but i don't wanna say something that will make him mad or hurt him...what can i say that will explain how i feel but not sound mean???

BabyGurl

Thanks..i mean, i did tell my ex i didn't want anything to do w/ him anymore cuz me and mickey got plans for the future and i want to seperate my past from my future...adam just wanted to talk tho cuz he had to go back to jail soon and he was scared and stressed and everything... i told him i understood that and i got stressed cause i cant keep ANYTHING from Mickey so i told him and i balled cause i didn't want him to think i wanted adam bac cause i DONT. i hate him for what he's done! Mickey called Adam himself threatening him so bad Adams twin sis and my friend almost called the cops on Mickey and shes friends w/ him too. Adam's bac in jail now which im happy about its just Mickey makes gay jokes about him which brings him up and don't like talkin bout him cuz he's something i terriblaly REGRET!!!! or mickey will say he's gay himself, he's not but it bothers me...i just wanna explain how i feel but have NO IDEA how. I love Mickey, he Know's it too...he knows i couldn't live a day without him!!! Any Suggestions PLEASE???

BabyGurl

Ya i kno it is...but c when i was w/ adam and he cheated on me all the time, he always told me i could never live w/out him and that i'd never get over him and that i was nothing w/out him...i believed it...so i just got so overwhelmed and overdosed at school and almost died when i got to the hospital. Mickey's afraid that im gonna get hurt by Adam agian cuz he minipulated my feelings b4 so he protected me the best he thought he could.

Mickey and me are truely soul-mates, im young but i know it for fact! me and him could never not be together it took me so long to find him...we're meant to be. he loves me and wants me to be safe, happy and he hates to see me cry, and when adam made me cry for the thousand milllionth time and i told him i didn't want anything to do w/ him over and over and he wouldn't listen, mickey was scared i'd try hurting myself agian, EVEN THO im not like that anymore he's still afraid of that.

If you ask me, you're dealing with a loser and a jerk. Or just two psychos. Your ex clearly has some issues, and it's good that you don't want to be around him. However, your boyfriend Mickey seems to have some issues here as well. He called Adam and threatened him? He just sounds a little over-the-top.

I think you should break up with him. I highly, highly doubt that he's your soulmate, and it sounds like you'd be better off finding a normal (maybe even sane) guy.

Mickey's totally sane... im 15 and my ex Adam is going to probably be in prison for 80sumthing counts of child porn and stagiory rape of a 15 yr old boy (and my parents want me to turn him in to) Adam told me i was pretty much worthless and that i'd never live w/out him so i overdosed trying to get away. Mickey loves me and he's afraid ill do it again if Adam keeps tryin' to push me to talk to him again after telling him to leave me alone. Me and Mickey are soul-mates...and w/out him idk what i'd do...he's helped me threw everything i've been threw....he's saved me...

I highly doubt he has saved you in the manner you are talking about. I mean if he has saved you perhaps he should be more oncentrated on you then your ex. Which i dont get, if he is concerned about some gay dude stealing his gf... then mickey has some problems himself. He obvisously cant trust you..... you and mickey have some problems to work out... is what i think

Im wondering how, at 15, you manage to have not only a serious boyfriend who is your "soul mate" but also an ex boyfriend that is in prison... maybe just take some time out to be a kid and smell the roses. You shouldn't have to worry about shit like this when you're so young. You'll look back one day and regret not being out with your mates but rather worrying about your deluded ex or your jealous bf.

Ok im not concentrated on my ex...my ex minipulated my feeling a dozen times...he said he loved me then pushed me around and told me i was worthless and the day i overdosed he told my parents that he didn't want ANYTHING to do w/ me and @ that point i wanted the same...and still do. After i got back home from the hospital a week later, he was @ my school and stopped by my house and called me ALL the time. Mickey aint scared he just wants him to leave me alone, my parents told him, my friends told him, i told him, the cops told him...he still didnt...Mickey did what he had to do. He trusts me, and we got no problems with our relationship.

And yes im 15, im young, trust me i know i hear it a million times...my b/f is almost 18, we're getting engaged, and i may b pregnat, so i might not have the chance to be a kid. even if i didn't have my b/f in my life i still woulda grown up fast...i've taken care of myself since i was 13. i've had to grown up w/ everything i've been threw since then.

If you have no problems, then why did you write this thread?

And good luck getting engaged and having a baby at 15... is that what you want?

Everything happens because of choices we make. I dont know your situation, but from the sounds of it - you've "grown up" without maturing. Just an observation. I do wish all the best for you tho.

I meant i had no problems w/ me and my b/f, between me and my ex, i hate him, and the PROBLEM was between me and my ex. he wont leave me alone, even tho hes gay...and i wanted advice on how to get him to leave me alone since havin' my parents, mainly my dad and he was a cop @ the time and his buddies, cops too talk to him. nothin' i did would stop him thats why i wanted advice and started the thread. and if i am gonna have a baby its what i want, out of the group of ppl i hang out w/ im the most matured one, and im the youngest...

'up most respect'.

UTmost, dear. Utmost.

"it took me so long to find him"

im very happy to hear you think you found your soulmate... but it didnt take that long to find him, you are only 15 years old... i didnt even date anyone until i was JUST about 15 years old... and yea im still with this guy.. but still.. this is a tough situation for a young girl.. be strong.. and good luck in your future.. i hope it all works out the way you want it... =)

Thanks a lot. its not that i plan on having a baby to make my b/f now know i love him, he already knows i do...so having a baby isn't what i really want but if it happens it happens, i know im still a kid and need to grow up still, and from all the crap i've gotten myself into having a baby that will end up probably alot like me and alot like my b/f would be hell. yah part of me still has a lot of growin up to do but part of me doesnt...i know that life is short, and im makin' it the best its gonna get for me, i have A LOT of things that have happened to me thats makin' me stronger specially since i almost died 4months ago (my fault). Mickey has been there for me since i got bac into school and bac to good health, i still got my problems but im being strong about everything knowing life might be shorter for me...i hope everything works out for me too...but life is life a shit happens.

Im over my ex...HES GAY. not that i got a problem w/ gays...im bi and i have friends that are gay/lez...no biggie..mickey knows i hate him, mickeys the one who brings him up or makes gay jokes about him...which bothers me sometimes cause he knows i hate him, and that i don't like talkin bout him so it ruines our relationship and idk...how can i explain i want him to NOT bring up my ex but w/out being a witch about it?

Wow thats an odd situation. well tell him the truth basiclly what you wrote in here

I go with Dave on this one. Change your phone and everything! Talk to your boyfriend! use protection! Get checked witrh doctors! and try to love yourself because your acting like this guy is your life and you couldnt live without him and thats no good! Guys are part of your life not ur whole life.

Birth. control.
im on it.
its NOT that hard.
like the pill [my personal favorite]
or patch
or hey, whaddya know, CONDOMS!!! which will make SURE that you get nothing from anyone promiscuous.
15 years old, having a baby?
you better be able to provide it with a good life.
damn im sick of all these pregnant teens.
and for your ex in jail?
dont take his calls.
dont answer his letters.
dont visit him.
nothing.
he doesn't exist, from the moment you read this post, he doesn't exist to you.
got it?

I have no advice but I do think it's freaky that my ex's name is adam as well lol

Thanks...me and my b/f are doing a lot better with alot of this advice and whatever, we talk A LOT more. and the whole baby thing, its all good i guess, things happen for a reason, and me and my b/f will go threw with what ever happens.