Why the rush?

Okayy, I was just looking through some topics, and most of them are from girls 13, 14, and 15 saying "Blah, Blah, Blah, I love this guy, I'll never get over him" It's crazy. Why is it so important to act older, or say you have feeling that take a long time to develope? To be in love with someone, I think you have to grow to know them. Not something that's happening when your 13.

And I'm 14...so I'm not telling everyone that's doing this that "I've been through it, I'm older now and I see I was being stupid"...I'm the age, and I just still don't understand it.

So far this is just a rant so I'll add in a question, but why are you guys trying so hard to grow up so soon?

I think that it's because of all those movies out there where there is a happy little ending and the girl meets some sweet kind guy and she's happy for the rest of her life without a care in the world. Kids are desperate for some stability and some measure of lasting happiness and they see this. Then when they start to LIKE someone they automatically assume LOVE.

Just my take on it.

I'd also like to add that kids are always treated by adult in an off hand way. Kids are used to feeling like adults never respect them. So they want to earn respect by growing up.

Its emotions i guess they want a relationship but when it ends they really still want it and say they love that person but i dono i am not one of those people i am younge still got to live my life lol

Well, I am 13.
Yes, I agree some of the young ones on here say they love there guy so much. You ask how long they have been together "two weeks."
I don't think that is love. No way is that love.
Love takes time.
You have to know someone to love them.

I have been in my relationship for almost 11 months.
& I do believe I am in love.
Do I think I am going to spend the rest of my life with him? No.
But I agree with the original poster, love is something that takes time to develop.

As to why these girls do that, I have no idea.
But why does age really matter?

God i know, my friend met this guy 2 weeks ago and theyre dating for about two weeks and shes like 'omg i am seriously sooo in love' and i was just like... theres that word again...

Haha welcome back foolish anyways when your young its like something you really want.. you want that person who you can hold onto and trust.. it never really changes as you grow.. unless you start really wanting lust o.o but when your like 10- death you will constantly be looking for the one you can hold onto and trust... its natural and everyone wants someone... but it is true by trying to ask people out so much is kinda bad cause then youll end up jsut getting hurt because you being desperate will attract other desperate people and then it wont work out because both of you were just desperate.. its alright to look for the eprson but yeah one thing little kids should never say is he/she is the write one... because when your young you change in the blink of an eye

Love comes at all ages. Do not forget, not one person is the same as someone else. We are all different in some ways.

I will say I've never fallen in love and I'm 17 but I'm also not gonna say it's not possible. Some people do fall in love at a very young age.

Nobody truely knows what love is. We all have different perspectives. Love to one person may involve different meanings and sacrifices than love does to a different person

It all depends on the person. I don't think anyone on this website or in the world, for that matter, has the right to tell someone they can't possibly be in love because of their age. That's just stupid.

I believe i can love.. my bf has shared things wih me that even his best mate who hes known forever doesnt no.. we have both shared alot an came close i believe its love :D:D:D

oh an i am mature an maybe soem of these other gurls are to..Lov HAs no age hunny...

Well there is this sayin
"its not that young can't experiance true love its that the young don't know how to handle true love"
yes there are very mixed emtions at young ages and yes the young should not have "love issues"
but the young also shouldn't have to deal with alot of other stuff that they are dealing with as well.
the point is there are actual people who have found there true love at 12 years old and ended up having a great relationship and then marrying and living the rest of their lives together. But then again some kids dont even know when they say " I love you" Not all 12, 13, 14, year old kids are just babbling about something you think they dont know.
I can see your point but I am 14 as well

I think that love has to be carefully cultivated over a long period of time. It has to be given time to mature. You cannot just assume it's love just because you have strong feelings for him/her.

Kids got to remember the even IF they were actually in love that people change a lot during their teen years and they might grow to be someone you don't love at all or even dislike or hate. Don't settle just because you think they're the right person.

True question a girl asked on another site:

LalaMember since: August 11, 2007

0 Hi my name is Lala and i am 12 years old and i am pregnant by my boyfriend Devon who is 15 years old.....?
I found out i wuz pregnant on Saturday August 4th and i told my mom on Wednesday and I told my Boyfriend as soon as i found out.Now i know you people are thinking im too young to have sex but i love him and i thought i was ready (wasnt my first time with him) so i did ad im pregnant. im not tellin for criticism i need help or just suggestions.I really do not want to kill my child.Abortion is really a thing i dont believe in.but my mom is saying i have to get and abortion my friend says its not my mothers choice its mine not my mothers because its my baby well..my mom pays the bills..puts clothes on my back..and provides me with everything i have...so i dont see how its not her decision.but then just yesturday she asked me if i really want to get and abortion so i dont know.And we dont struggle with anything i'd say we are in high middle class...we are wealthy...so i dont know...then i thought about how a baby would affect mt childood. and not being able to do the fun things anymore...

i am focused on what should i do...should i keep my baby....and when will i start to show because i have only told 4 people...My Boyfriend...My Mom My Sister and My Bestfriend im just really confused

i thought about adoption but i dont want to never see my child again and have my baby calling another woman mommy and for the nine months i carry my child and the pain i will go through having my baby...why give it up...and i have had like nightmares for the last couple of days about having a miscarriage and me myself dying because i could not handle givin birth do the child.my bf leaving me.my family hating me..no boys liking me because they think ima hoe/**** and my friend not wanting to be around me because they think my choices will rub off on them...this whole being a mother @ 12 is really wearing me out...o just hate that this ever happened..then i like love it..ts a baby by me and the boy of my dreams and having a child could help us stay together and we have a real good relationship so i dont see anything wrong in a way...and i turn 13 in October...

*sad* Kids growing too fast when they should be playing with Barbie Dolls

Hmm well in any case no matter what age you are even if you marry a person the chances of staying together are very slim because people like i said have forgotten what love is.. everyone looks for secruity so it doesnt last.. cause arguments break out... to many diffrences(sp?) and a bunch of other stuff... many people in the world will sacrifice true love to have a stable life... i dont blame you but in my opinion true love is more important... i rather live on the streets then be with someone i don't love... also there is a huge problem with to much secruity because then you get bored... if there is no excitment you get bored and cheat and stuff so yeah...

It's like what my bro Jason just said. Love is more important than security. People get married earlier than they should to try and keep the relationship going but you just end up wasting time and money and prolonging the agony of the break-up. If you get married... for hells sake wait until you're sure and not just when you turn eighteen or because you're parents are against it. Think about the bloody future!!

I definitely agree with you..a lot of younger teens are rushing it.
well i don't believe love has an age really..however, MANY younger teens these days are mistaking 'love' with what would probbaly be more like lust or infatuation. they just jump into the conclusion that they are IN LOVE way to quickly at times.
so honestly i think we need to slow down a bit..because all of this is too much to handle at such a young age. teens are getting caught up in this game called love at such a young age..and then once they break up with their gf/bf they become almost depressed..we don't need this. it's better to just live your life for a bit having fun..instead of getting caught up in it all..just give it time.
i'm 16..and i still don't know what love is all about.
again this is not to say that you can't be in love at a young age..but i just think that you can't handle love at such a young age..well not very well at least.
it's better once you are older and more mature..then you can go in deeper and get serious in your relationships enough to call in love.
well that's my opinion anyway. everyone looks at it differently.

--Viola

Im 14 im dating a 17 year old ....but i have never said I love you to him its been 4 months almost 5 that we,ve been datiing n im just waittingg till i knooo it feels right to say it. anyways i think girls our age that say i love you to him or i love him soo much ....meaning they doo like him alot n yess they are just having to live the moment but they should kno that there might be someone else out their wen they are older they probably do kno that but everyone needs someone to care about them jusst for now so just leave them alone n let them aask eeveryone for help let them live their moment ......you only live once

^^seriously.
if someone asks for advice, they're gonna get what the person thinks. whether it's good or bad. you don't just withhold the bad.

Love has absolutely nothing to do with age. i am 16 and i have fallen for my boyfriend. i know it sounds cliche but i guess if u have never felt the feeling you might not understand. (( no offense man))

Like the second poster
they watch movies and want to copy them lol

Well i fell in love at 15 n everyone told me there is plenty of love in the sea but thi aint true as 4 years down the line im still with the same person and im married to him

I think it's a lot to do with hormones. kids are feeling 'rushes' that they have never felt before, -hormonally induced rushes-. and they want to put a name to the feeling.
love seems an appropriate name.
a lot of people become addicted to this feeling, and call it 'love' while not actually knowing what 'love' is.
I am sure that it can develpoe into love OVER TIME! but to say 'i'm in love with him' when they have been 'dating' for only a few weeks is entirely wrong!
anyhow, that's just my oppinion.

Huh lol im not choosing to grow up fast...Im still watching my favourite kids shows and playing hide and seek xD

Lols I'm trying to learn how to un-mature lols My doctor said I needed to learn how to be a child again *at 17 no less lols* because I HAD to grow up fast and was the most mature and oldest 7 year old you'd ever met lols

I've been in love twice *unless your going to count the little crush I had when I 3 lols* and the first time, looking back now, wasn't really love but the startings of it =P So actually I've been in love once and that was right before my 17th birthday lols

Kinda like someone above me said, It's not that children *since thats what they pretty much are* can't feel love and actually be in love it's that they can't handle love and don't realize that to actually be in love takes more then just saying those three little words and calling eachother boyfriend/girlfriend and holding hands =P Thats puppy love or the stirrings of lust as things start to kick in =P

Just how I feel and what I've found to be true between my nieces *I'm an aunt 16 times and most of my nieces are between 8 and 14 so I deal with this all the time* and a lot of my younger friends *all around that age* and other girls I know =P

I wish the best to any young people who want to give it a try though and hope for the best for you ^_^
Rhea

Honey, I'm 18 and I'm still not in love with anybody. all the freshman that are still young that say that they are in love that is bull because they still have 3 years of high school left. I know for a fact that when I was a freshman I thought I was in love with everybody. 13,14 and sometimes 15 year olds falling "in" love too quickly for their own good. they still have a lot to learn, and growning up to do. they still have that little kid in them and the pressure of acting grown, that is a lot to deal with when you are a freshman that just started a higher level of peer pressure. I might or might not be right but all the people that are 17 and 18 know what it is like to be that age and a lot of us have mature over our high school years especially if you are a senior this year. a piece of advice don't fall in love too young