Depressed. And ugly.

Yes, beauty is only skin deep, and the inside is what counts. But this day, and this age, in this world and the people in it...so many of everyone is Beautiful! And I hate being ugly...my parents insist I'm not, I feel like crap when I say it and the pople I love say I'm beautiful. But no one understands that I really, truely, am NOT. No matter how many times they tell me, I'm still not going to believe them. I'm still ugly, I CAN SEE in the mirror. I know it's not supposed to matter, but now-a-days, it does! I hate being called ugly and I hate walking down the halls and comparing myself to everyone else...and always falling up short. I hate it, I hate being inferior and seeing the beautiful people on tv, and knowing I'm never going to be enough. I might sound stupid and you all might think I"m shallow for this (and don't you dare call me shallow, because I am NOT.) but it's...just something I can't get past...one more reason I hate myself, one more thing I don't understand and can't get past.

Thanks, both of you. And to Monai...I know what you are saying about the hollywood types...there's no way i want to be like that...but I hear the songs about the girls who are beautiful with their hair falling down and caught off gaurd, and sleeping...I want to be that girl, as silly as it sounds...that's who i've wanted to be. I guess...I just wanna be special, because to myself I am NOT. I dunno.

Hun, one day you are going to find someone who will make you feel beautiful, too. And in their eyes, you WILL be that beautiful girl with your hair falling down and caught off guard while sleeping. I promise.

Like that cliche... beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

But before you find that person, you've got to start loving yourself... You need to see that you're an amazing and special person, and nobody should ever ever make you feel any less than that. Because once you love yourself, you gain a happiness that can't be taken away from you, unless you throw it away yourself.

All we are is dust in the wind.

By saying you're ugly is not going to make it any better. ;] So start finding little things of you apperence (however you spell that) that you like, and just tell yourself: well.. that is kinda cute/nice/ whatever =] And do that every day, you'll find out that you aren't as ugly as you think you are =] and remember, there is always somebody in this world, that thinks you're pretty. Who cares if it your parents, believe them. Don't deny.

"the pople I love say I'm beautiful."

^Isn't that the most important thing? You're beautiful to those that matter to you, everyone else means nothing. "Those who matter don't care, and those who care don't matter."

Honestly, I think everybody compares themselves to other people, which really is not a good thing. There is always somebody who has nicer hair, clearer skin, straighter teeth, whatever. But once you accept that, then you will be okay.

Outer beauty is overrated. Learn to love yourself for who you are, and for the choices you make. If you start to love yourself, then your inner beauty will radiate outwards- and seriously, people notice that way more than just another pretty face.

You're only as ugly, or as beautiful, as you think you are. Think different, and you will feel different.

Simple, sweet, true.

Jaimie:
wow...so that is the most simple truth...but...it helps. A lot. I think that's what's going to help me...

I think I have found that person...that's why this crap doesn't make any sense...Gah. Thank you.

I think that I'm okay with the way that I look but there are so many of those little things I can't stand about myself. I compare myself to other people and pick out all their perfections and my flaws. It's So ficken hard I know but I just realize that I have two feet, two eyes, a nose, and a body that functions. Things can be a lot worse so I dont bother. Unitl I see someone I tihnk is perfect. . . Then I freak. lol Its okay though- Im here for you.

Don't worry. I'm ugly to. You ain't alone. You're in mediocre company. :)

Glad to have helped. :)

^^ you're not ugly!!

But i know how you feel.
everyday that i look in the mirror
i can't even stand it.
just standing there looking
at myself, analyzing every little part

UGH.

People say that if your not skinny then your fat right i sam not skinny i hav a lil belly but becoz my bones dont stick out im "fat" an then i start to believe it an hate myself why should i believe im fat when i am not!!!! Your probably really pritty if everyone around you is tell you that you are but i no how you feel. Iv been teased an compared myself to so many people i hate myself to. i think im ugly even though all my friends say they wished they looked like me but some where i cant believe it because these days If your not skinny you fat if you have one pimple your ugly these days people expect perfection when yet they are so far from it them selves

Britt...I agree with you. The media I know is nothing but crap.

I'm loved, so I need to love me, too.

Thanks.

You shouldnt change for christ
god loves you as who you are

Hi im tina and im 16
dont worry about feeling ugly
i bet anything you arent'
i was a model about.... maybe a year ago???
anyway, i always thought i was ugly
but my fiance (gettin married in like 2 yrs(10/06/09))
always told me that i was beautiful
well i went into a depression for about two yrs
and found out the hard way that i am beautiful
and it comes in different definitions
every1 has a defferent def
some people think im the most beautiful person they've ever seen
and others think i should wear a bag over my head
so its your choice
whether your beautiful
or your ugly
but no matter what
like u said, the inside is what matters most
and i mean confidence
-Sunshine Tina (b@b3l!c!0u$)

I feel the same way. I wish things were different. I hate the image I see everyday too. I just want to feel beautiful and happy. Why is that so hard to possess??

Ur not the only one that feels ugly. a lot of other ppl feel ugly, too. but they're not. it's like anorexic people thinking they're fat. if you put the image in your mind that you are something, you'll believe you are.

you know what i do? i look in the mirror and say, "Heylo hottie!" :] it's fun. and you dont get as sad.

I understand where your coming from. I never believe people who give me compliments or when they tell me i'm not ugly because i see things different and 99.9% of the world doesn't like something about themselves or their bodies but you know what, you shouldn't let it bring you down. If you keep telling yourself that you're ugly...that's what you will see when you look in the mirror. The truth is, it's all in your head. To make yourself feel a tad bit more confident...you should look at yourself in the mirrior and find one or more things about yourself that you actually like. Everyone, whether they want to admit it or not, likes at least one thing about themelves. Once you do that..you tell yourself that the one thing about yourself that you actually like ...is what makes you beautiful. I know it sounds stupid, but it might help.

As for the movie stars and people you see on t.v...they have people who do their makeup and hair to make them appear more attractive. The reality is that they are average people with flaws just like the rest of the world. There is no such thing as perfect, but there is always gonna be someone...whether it's a friends, family member or b/f, who will love you the way you are. You just need to learn to accept yourself the and try to be confident. There will always be days when you hate the way you look, but that's just the way YOU see things. Everyone else might see the complete opposite.

I use to feel the same way. I knew in my mind, my heart & soul, that beauty was only skin deep, but I couldn't help but compare myself to others or believe the set "standards" society had left indented on our values that beauty is only physical; that what is on the outside is what counts. Even though family & friends told me that I was beautiful & I believed them, for that split second, my thoughts always strayed to the reasons why I thought I wasn't beautiful. Sure, I knew no one was absolutely perfect even if they thought they were, but I wanted to be… For whatever reason. :S I also knew that beauty took time, that some people went to extreme lengths to become beautiful & that some people who were already beautiful abused their beauty; drank & did drugs, starved themselves or make themselves regurgitate, cut their flesh, etc. I didn’t want to be like any of those people…

So I waited, till one day I suddenly couldn’t remain patient anymore. I thought to myself, “I’ve been waiting too long for my beauty to arise,” & I decided it was time to do something about it. I told myself that I would work; earn, my beauty... And in time I eventually did earn my beauty as well as learned to appreciate it in all it’s forms, shapes & degrees; physical, emotional, intellectual & spiritual, etc.

When I say I’m going to do something about it; that I earned my beauty, etc., I didn’t mean going to a plastic surgeon & getting my nose, boobs or boobs done, or anything extreme like that. I knew that my view towards my body; my physical self, was dew to lack of self-esteem, so I set out to help rejuvenate that. I started to work out; for body, mind & soul, running, lifting weights & continuing in all my sports & sports-related activities. I also began to eat right; limiting my portions so that they were not to little or too large of portions, eating at appropriate times like breakfast, lunch and supper, & also eating healthier food, etc.

The worst thing aobut being ugly for me is...i make myself uglyer every time i put food into my mouth

"The worst thing aobut being ugly for me is...i make myself uglyer every time i put food into my mouth"

Ignorance and insecurity are a horrible combination. Get help if you want to feel better, you're on a dangerous road.

^I agree. This might lead to an eating disorder.
Oh goodness! Hun, take care of yourself!

First off, I have no idea how many people I am repeating because I just read your post, dear.

Second off this is what I think;;
" I hate it, I hate being inferior and seeing the beautiful people on tv, and knowing I'm never going to be enough"
^^ That sweetheart is partially untrue. I know the feeling, but you're going to be enough if you make it enough.

The rest, I agree with you 100%. Not that you're ugly, I don't know what you look like. But, that now-a-days it doesn't matter. But, to some it does, and you must realize that. And, to others, most others, it will down the road. I have no idea how old you are. But, in teens and early adult hood there are MANY people who are too judgemental over looks, but as they grow up and realize what lives about, they notice other things and look beyond that. Some dont, but most do. And, the ones who realize it when they're young, I believe are the best people out there.
Now-a-days a lot of people who realize it are the people who feel that way though, and others don't because they've not walked those shoes.
Which still does NOT give them a right to judge due to looks and such, but in a way it makes them less 'dependent' on their thoughts. Because, they have no clue what's going on.
Those who havea clue and carry on with the non-sense, well that's just ... stupid. Honestly, they have no right to do so.

I hope you realize though, that there's nothing to be ashamed of, and no reason to compare yourself to others. Because, those others may have beauty that only goes skin deep.. but I'm sure you have beauty that goes much further than that.
I'm sure you've heard it a thousand times, though.
But, that's what truly counts..
And, one day you'll realize that.. that kind of stuff does not matter at all.
And, so will everyone else.

I don't believe your shallow.
AT ALL.
btw. (: Lol.