Everytime I see him. Bam!

I watched this little boy grow up and I grew up as well. From tots to teenagers. We started to flirt in 5th grade with each other like every other fifth grader did with their crush. I developed a crush in seventh grade. Man did my infatuation hit me! I drooled and sung about him in the shower. The drooling thing, not literally. I got the flu one day. I come to school in a chipper mood and learn he is going out with Claire. His best friend. My chipper mood quickly soured. I was not in love with him. What is love at 14? That did not stop me from being terminally deppressed. At the school carnival my mates and I walked between the couple. My heart headed for a downward spiral because of his prescence. Then they held hands. I felt woozy and was depressed the rest of the night. After he broke up with Claire 8 months later. I no longer was infatuated with him. In the beggining of the school year I was quickly ga ga ga over him. We flirted and I was convinced that he liked me. He asked out Ashley. I was deppressed again! At one point he tried to touch me, he turned his flirt way up, and asked for a hug. I said no. I like Ashley. So after that episode I was sick of him. Months passed and we no longer saw each other as frequently.. He texted me and said to come outside, He is my next door neighbor so it is a hella hard to ignore him. I saw him and Bam! He looked at me and laughed. we joke around. He is begginning to call a lot more now. And he will not tell me if he and Ashley broke up. what does that mean? Should I finnally tell him that I have been infatuated with him and maybe even love him? Should I take the risk? Is he afraid of what we would become. He is quiet and I am well, loud puts it mildly. We are polar opposites but when we are around each other everything just clicks. So tell me. Should I dare tell him my feelings?

Sometimes, it might confuse things. If you think it would confuse things, and that there isn't a chance...it probably wouldn't be a good idea to just tell him. But if you really do like him, then let him know! You never know what would become of it. But he sounds awful...wishy-washy, I guess would be the word I'm looking for. He doesn't much sound like he knows what he wants, and if he's not even going to tell you whether or not he's dating this girl...that's not right. He sounds like he needs to grow up a bit. But you can't help who you like. Something might come out of it if you tell him! Good luck...

I am going to wait till I know if he broke up with Ashley. And if he does I am not going to jump on him like an overwhelming shark, I will give him a few weeks. I will tell him through. Suprisingly I am probably making him sound like a immature guy. Truth is he is really nice and probably one of the most mature guys I know. He is a 4.00 student and his relationships are an 8 month thing. I make him out as the bad guy but I flirt a lot.

I'm going through a really similar thing with a guy right now. I have been in love with him for a long time and he knows it, but he has never asked me out. However he flirts with me and I have even slept in his bed before. He still flirts with other girls though and it confuses me.
Guys can be like that, not quite ever making up their minds. maybe you should talk to him, tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there...
sorry I can't be of more help.

No. I just told him a second ago. And he did not say anything. He is still going strong with that girl. I knew he rejected me. I didn't say that let's go out. I told him that when I saw him I began to love him again. I felt the icy chill of rejection. I get it. I will find another guy. That lights up my World. All the heart ache will only be a memory. The feeling is bitter sweet right now. Bitter because he did not hopp in like a hero and say he returns the feelings I have for him. Sweet because I feel like I have a lot less baggage. At least now he knows he has another option. I am not sure that I know what love is. I am young. How can at 14 you say you know what love is. I can be a little overdramatic but that is just part of my charm.

Well i definitely don't think you should say you love him, because it's quite clear in your post that you don't. you just have a crush or LIKE him but i really doubt it's anything more than that. but still, i think you should ask him why he's giving you mixed signals (well not even mixed, HAS HE BROKEN UP WITH HER YET?) and see where it goes from there. if he is, then yeah, say how you feel. if not, well, you know the rest.

Hey...in these situations normally the other person feels the same way. i reckon you should tell him, mainly because of what could of been if you never tell him...and if he doesnt feel the same way back and tells ur an idiot wateva, you know that its the best thing, and you will laugh about further down the track..most likely! and if you've been like best friends for this long, its not like its really gonna ruin it all, everything will work out alright. but go with wat u feel. you dont wanna regret something you never did, than feel embarrassed for something you did do for only a little while!! good luck .... britt xx

My problem is everytime i see him with another girl i freak out and i dont understand if he said he didnt have time for me then why is he with her and holding her hand it really messes up my head and i dont understand and he wonders why im mad all the time because he lied to me again