Scared to fall in love

Do u think its normal to b afraid to fall in love w/ some one? or just what r ur thoughts?
b/c i have a hard time trusting poeople and (that will not change for a while) i think its b/c i don't like disapointment and feeling uncared about and if i trust the wrong person w/ too much and they let me down ~oh~that hurts and i dont want that and i'm afriad of trusting people b/c i have been let down b4 and it hurts
i know i shouldn't trust no one but how do i know who i can and can't (please don't say friends and family give a reason y i should trust who ever)

I have had/still have that problem ever since I was fourteen years old. I used to be one of the most trusting people in the world and then somebody broke that trust and messed me up. Since then when I feel uncomfortble I autmatically think that I'm fourteen or in that mindset and that I can't trust anyone even with my now boyfriend holding me close and making me feel better. Even when he says that he loves me all I can do is pull him close for a hug because I am Damn scared of falling in love yet here I find myself falling slowly.

People will break your trust. Hopefully you'll get some advice and so will I.

I also have or had that problem.
I have been let down and hurt so many times in life, that I can not trust people.
Yes, I am sort of young.
But, I met my boyfriend of almost 11 months and fell in love for the first time.
I tell him everything, I trust him.
That was really hard to say, but it's true.
As the person above me said, I was damn scared to fall in love.
But I slowly but surely after about 6 or 7 months started opening up and let myself fall in love.
It's hard to trust people, but once you find that certain someone. It will change everything.

I too have a hard time trusting people. i miean i cant even trust my own family. you should let your guard down and i im not sayin you wont get hurt but with every fall you find who you are. stop putting walls up and maybe then you might find trust in someone and yourself. :)

Thanks every buddy
i know i should let myself trust and i do tell a few people (mostly 1 guy) alot about me but my close girl friends hardly know alot about the real me
-like why i feel the way i do about stuff- and alot of my friends think they do know almost every thing about me
but
i dont really like girls as super good friends much any way they talk to much crap(yah know what i mean)(thats y guys r great)but then again u don't want them to know too much info and trust them w/ ur secrets b/c thats hard to do if they don't love u enought not to ever use it against u
by the way i don't trust my mom at all shes lied to many times and my dad idk but i dont trust him either

Nope not weird at all. In my experience though. No matter how hard you try and no matter how afraid you are of being hurt... you will fall in love anyways. It's inevitable no matter what. You don't control it. You can't. That's like saying you wanna control the weather, it's impossible.

I feel the same way, but yeah u have to live a little, and learn from mistakes and falling in love has its downsides but also brings alot of good.

It's not weird at all.. in fact it is definately normal.. it's something you'll come out of eventually but for now focus on who your friends on and who you really trust, and if you're lucky you'll only have to try twice for true love =p

Im not scared to fall in love....
.... im afraid to be bitch-slapped into reality AFTER falling in love.

I'm not scared of falling IN love, I'm scared of falling OUT of love.

Thank u all so much u all helped i really like what the last two of u said... :)

guess what do u all think i can really b "in love" at 14? do u think age matters (i dont mean differences in ages)?

Every one is going to be afraid to fall in love at first and then it gets easy and you don't even know it and then you realize you are in love.

You shouldn't be afraid at all. if you are afraid, and it hasn't happened yet, then it wasn't supposed to happen yet. you can't go looking for it. it's like those stupid curbs where the side walk and the street come together. one day, even though you know its there, you'll forget for a moment and fall on your butt. that's how love is. when you are not thinking about it, thats when you'll be down on your butt! :)

I had a really really hard time trusting guys for a while, and i still do, but. i think it can be normal to be afriad because you are afraid of putting ur feelings on the line you know. trust me, i put my feelings on the line before and wound up with it broken, but you have to remember all guys are not the same so you cant base one thing of off a nother. : ) dont be afriad because you will miss a lot of great things if you spend your whole life being afraid to get hurt.

^i found that guy too
his profile name on here is vanilla yum yums and i hope he doesn't care i just told u all that

and hes the first person i've told so much about me and its really easy to tell him stuff too

thanks everyone 4 ur thoughts

Yeah, it's normal. But if you're scared then your most likely not ready for a relationship. You should focus on the question "Why are you afraid?"

Im not afraid any more
b4 i was scared i would end up finding out it was all just a lie and that he didn't really care about me that he just pretended too
but i know he wouldn't

I think everyone has the fear of getting their heartborken but you can live in fear cuz then you wont ever know wat it even feels like to fall in love and you dont want that...

My grandama told me one day
"If you think too much about the days you have left living...then you dont do too much living..."