Who is hurt and why?

Im really hurt cuz my relationship with my lover is going crazy... and he is turning real mean. he doesnt trust me and thinks i'll leave him when i wont. he has said hurtful things and acts like he doesnt care about me anymore... he cant even be there for me anymore when im so hurt and need him to make me feel better...

so.. whats ur story?

A 2 friends of mine where over yesterday.. and one was a boy and my xbf... well we kissed and that so i thought he liked me... well i asked him about it today.. and he said he was sorry he did that but he doesn't like me at all...

Not me. I'm for once quite happy.

Hunny, i no how you feel my boy is doing exzactly the same thjing and because i love him i cant leave him but he is hurting me so bad </3

Well i am sad b/c i went out w/ my guy bff and then we broke up and it hasnt been the same and we broke up for a stupid reason!

Me... i got hurt... in some reason...

I love my best friend.
yeah, typical but,
he is my best friend for a reason

we just go together.
and of course, he likes
some shallow, skinny girl
that treats him like CRAP.

ugggggh!!

Must you remind me of the reasons i'm hurt..goodness, there's just so many.
anyways, i prefer not to dwell on the negative (it's a bad habit).

Im hurt because some guys need to realize that the word 'stop' does NOT mean do as you please with my body, and act as if i never even protested.

LSSAl Brandon

how many kids do u know stay devoted to a 3 1/2 yr relationship? especially when he is ur 1st bf, 1st person u fall in love with. when in over time the relationship has become long distance. if my man was 3hrs away that would still be heaven, but when he's living in another country, and he's waiting for u, and ur waiting for him thats whole different story. its like no other. what couple has it perfect? none thats y many cant stay with each other for too long, but when u know the love is real and u know who u want in ur life and that same person feels the same way, its not a story of a little kid. being engaged means ur with a person who ur gonna marry.. which is not a kiddy little thing. but like i said this is long distance and is one of the most difficult to deal with. me and my man r loyal to 1 another but when u cant see each other when u both fight it get frustrating as h*ll. fights occur without a doubt, every couple does. if ur relationship is strong u can overcome that.
im 18 and not a high school student but college. my relationship cannot be handle by a little kid... now i dont understand how that makes a little kid?...

well its too much to even explain...

MysmilesAreLies

Honestly, ur letting the girl sorta slip far far away from urself. if u love her u wouldnt give up that quick. but i guess if u really love her, ur lettiner uself be hurt, by letting her be happy, (if she really is) u can really help this chick, and get her back if she is with a trashy guy. after all she was ur girl and u do love her. now cuz of dumb little reason.. u broke up with her, can u treat her better... u think there will be another chance? ... perhaps she'll forgive u?... from how u said.. about the guy shoving his tounge in her mouth.. i bet it makes u sick to ur gut thinking that.. can u really stand that? think about it. u want that girl who was urs and she's with somebody else. either find another chick to love or get her back somehow, even if u have to be her good for now.

Him being mean is 1 thing, but him changing as in for his love cannot be.. only cuz i know him too well for his love to change, he may change over time in certain ways and so will i. change is apart of life, but when it comes to love changing, that wont happen like that.
and yea the things he has said were hurtful.... to a point where i wanted to leave him, but our love is pure, it feels like we're already married. i know how he can be.. but i needed to mend those hurted feelings, lolz.
and w/e u say about me being a "kid" im still learning and will never stop...............
and for the 3 loves... well no matter what it may happen within, but then again he is *the one*.

Im not starting anything either.. = )
lolz

but, truth is i don't have much in my control and neither does he, because of the distance. the only thing we can control is ourselves from doing anything with some1 else, and even though its hard, our gut wont let us, only cuz we both dont want any1 else.

leaving him, it took a thought, and if he is willing to change for the better, i can give him a chance. its hardddddddd lolz. but i wanna be there for him, our story is crazy and i feel like me n him r meant to be. too much comes in between us, just wayyy too much let alone the distance. but i think there r very few guys out there who can put a rock on their chest and wait for 1 chick.
the worst thing to me is

cheating
beating
dealing with drugs
or being violent all the time

but after everything that happens between me n him like he always comes back to me, after the most craziest fights. i guess u can say im sorta getting too fed up with the fights, maybe soon he'll stop? ...this distance may be causing this frustration, from what i think.

Ur right, relationships r about having fun and not always stressing over etc etc..
im tryin from my side, and only expecting he cares enough to do the same. cuz a relationship involves 2 to continue....... if he can understand that while doing the same, progress will take its role. other than that. thank you.

And if u wanna share anything.. feel free. message me up. peace.

Im thinking u want her some how in ur life... which is y u'll even be some where in the shadows. be her friend and let her know ur there for her. its gonna hurt u in the long run... its real hard to be in this sort of situation. every night u prob go through thinking about a certain some1 who is wanting another... i kinda went through that at 1 point in my life. but when i felt i couldn't take it anymore my heart said its time to just go on in life, cuz there's nothing u can do to get that person back... it could be up to fate, if u get back with this girl and if its not meant to be, u'll find the right person for urself. good luck.

My boyfriend and i have been together (officially) for a little over 7 months and he just left for college ... i'm leaving in two days for school and we're going to school 4 hours apart. we're both extremely committed to eachother, but ever since he left, he hasn't been making time for me. he only talks to me when he's bored or has nothing better to do. he's always with my best friend(s) because they go to the same school and their dorms are close to eachother. it's really hard because i feel like i should be there, and i'm not. i won't see him for 6 weeks and we're used to seeing eachother every day. we have a talking relationship where we tell eachother everything and nothing all at the same time (while still being intimate), but lately i feel like i don't know him. it's hard because i haven't gone to school yet so he doesn't know what it's like to not know much about his new lifestyle. it's sad, it hurts like hell ... and i've started having panic attacks. i've tried to tell him, but he doesn't have time to listen ...

^^^wow =/

wellll I saw my ex with his newborn, which means he was cheating on me...so uhmmm yeahhh its hurts a little im not gonna lie. but what can i say? everything happens for a reason. Guess i forgot to mention the chick who had his kid was a best friend of mine. Key word WAS. My trust for people is totally going downhill. pffft oh well...

I have been hurt before from a friend and my ex, because people are hard to trust. and it took me a long ass time to realize that. My (then) bestfriend hooked up with my (then) boyfriend and it just killed me. It helped me with a lot of my writing. i dunt know. i realized though when i met my new boyfriend that peopel are all different.

^" Dont want to throw this lovely topic off course, but you said you were engaged to your lover in another post, dont you think your a little young to be engaged, especially with the stability of your relationship? Call me a jerk or whatever but you need to wake up and realize your still a kid."

Dido, jerk! :P

^ "I'm hurt because my bf died about a month ago now i think. i dunno. i lost track of the days. i've written a few poems about it and it's helped a little but i don't think i'll ever get over it."

And you shouldn't get over it, especially if you love him. You can't just fall in love one day then another fall back out, no matter what happened to make you feel like you wish you'd never had fallen in love in the first place. You can still love him--Even in death!--& move on, say, to another person & share your love; past, present & future, with that them. Nothing has to necessarily get better, all the matters is that it doesn't get worse, & you can stop that. And besides it's not like you'll always be alone, or ever will be, in this world. There are plenty of other people out there to meet & love, & receive that love from them in return.

^ "MySmilesAreLies. If I was you, Id help that girl out, no matter how much pain she put you through or how hard is it to talk to her. Maybe shed appreciate you a little more if you showed her you still cared. And I think maybe shes just dating that guy to try and get over you, or maybe shes just miserable with him and wishing youd help her get out of the relationship. If its as bad as you made it sound, I think she wouldnt be very happy right now either."

MySmilesAreLies, be her knight in shinning armor & rescue her! If you love her as much as you say you do, not only will you prove it to yourself but to her as well! If you can confess to that love with a bunch of strangers but not the girl herself there's something seriously screwed up with that (that or it's true what they say about guys...)! If you can confess your love to a bunch of strangers you should be able to confess to the girl you love because it is her reaction (& action) that should be the only thing that stirs you!

Yeah he broke up with me when the baby was born. Three weeks later I saw him and her. Its funny how he broke up with me then, obviously he knew I'd find out. I'm over it now though. No worries =]]

Wow Brandon, you're giving some excellent advice. No joke. Good job.

Hm..... how do u just get over something so heartbreaking.... for me it would take a life time........ (who's bf died.)

id be dead inside if god forbid anything happend to my loved one. and of course any1 to try n harm my lover... would be hurt real badly.. maybe even in the grave. mhhmm...lolz...

Im hearybroken because i dumped my bf of 5 months yesterday becuz i culdnt trust him proply even though he swears the rumours arnt tru but im 2 afraid to give him a second chance.....

my mum thinks he doesnt deserve one

wat do u ppl think?

Well it really depends on y u think he is not worthy of ur trust... like if u give him a chance the only way u'll know is through time.

I "was" hurt. Because the one I had to part
from the one I truly loved. Now I see it as a blessing. I'm glad he was a part of my life.
I thank him with my whole heart and mostly
GOD for making it all happen.

Hm........ aint nobody controlling nobody lolz. but ey if u gotta mend ur feelings some how... u should.

I was 17 when i got married age was just a number to me now it just gets in the way because he is almost 7 years older then me and doesn't believe in fun well now im kinda doughting ill ever get married once we get divorced