Dont know what to do

I know my best friend's bf is lieing to her about hating this other girls guts, but i dont know if i should tell her. I know she has the right to know, but i know that she wont beleive me. If i tell her i know that she will have a panic attack because she will be so worked up about if her bf is lieing to her. I know that he is because i have seen them together and so has my brother.

Please help me with some ideas on what to do.
I really need the help.

Thanks
Kalee

You need to be an honest person. no matter how it pans out, you need to tell her. if she really is your best friend, you need to act like a best friend. whether she wants to hear it or not, you need to tell her.

do you want her to find out some other way? don't you think she would be furious with you if she finds out later that you knew the whole time and you didn't tell her?

it's more important to tell her the truth. she may be mad, upset, frusterated, and confused if she has to deal with cheating and lying or whatever, but in the long run, i bet she'd be glad she had a friend like you to tell her what was up.

:)

The thing is I am worried that if i tell her about what he has been getting up to that she wont talk to me again because i dont trust her bf. we didnt talk to eachother for about 8 months a couple years ago and i really dont want a repeat of that year.

i know she wont beleive me if i told her because another person saw her bf and that other girl a short time ago and she told my friend. of course my friend asked her bf if it was true and he said no. he made out like the other girl was lieing.

I am just worried that if i do tell her that she will beleive her bf over me and she has known me longer then she has known her bf.

i know that he loves her and she loves him and i really dont want to be the one to break them up.

I am torn between telling my friend the truth about her bf and possibly loosing her as a friend and letting her find out from someone else and then her finding out that i knew all along.

I really dont know what to do. please help me

Kalee

Don't be afraid of telling her the truth. If she doesn't believe it, that's her problem. i know that may sound harsh, but you have to be the bigger person. if you don't stand up for what you believe you will fall for anything. Tell her whats going on. If she chooses not to believe you and gets mad, then thats where it becomes her problem. If she wont believe you and she wont question it herself or try to figure out the truth, than she would just be acting naive' and that wont be your problem.

honestly, myself, i rather hear it from you, my best friend, than to hear it from 20 other people who don't know me. if i don't believe you, then thats my fault later when things get shitty. if i push you away because i think you are trying to mess up what i have, then i am the one with the problems.

does that make any sense?

It does make sense. thanks for your advice. it has helped. i have written a letter to my friend. i think that i will give it to her on monday after school. so then she would be able to ask her bf that night and she can make up her own mind then.

Thanks again

Kalee

No problem... let me know what i can do to help.. i'm here!

No problem... let me know what i can do to help.. i'm here!

You have to do it! it would be wrong not to!