My boyfriend says that if i dont live with him....

If i dont live with him he says hes going to leave me
xx

Do you want to live with him?

Uhh, that`s a little demanding. That`s rushing it and you don`t need to do that. If you don`t want to move in with him, then that`s your choice, not his..

Plus, you`re 14; how old is he?

You need to concentrate more on school and other things besides boys for now, you are way too young to do that especially if it`s a "move in or else" situation...can`t you just spend time over there with him without moving in..

Plus, your boyfriend is on crack...as in the other thread...honey, open your eyes...he is bad news for someone as young as you...

Dear, I think you're getting yourself into trouble.
He shouldn't be pressuring you, about this, or doing crack, or anything for that matter. You're free to make your own decisions which in this case should probably be staying home with your parents (where you have things provided for you i'm assuming) and concentrating on school. Boys come and go..don't throw your life away on him.

He seems to be a jerk...because if he ever loved you,he wouldn't threaten you for anything
So just let go of him..and find someone that REALLY deserves you

If thats his reason to leave you then let him go. No guy has the right to pressure you like that. Your only 14, you still have your whole life ahead of you. Don't let him tell you stuff like that and get inside your head. It's not worth it. You just need to stay home when you have the things you need and don't worry so much about your boyfriend. He doesn't sound to promising.

Again if a guy is pressuring you and you are afraid of losing him, get some respect for yourself and realize a relationship is about compromise and not a give or take only kind of things.

Let him leave you then. And laugh at his pathetic butt as walks out the door.

I think you should break up with him if he's trying to force you to do something your better off without him

I am very confused....Where are you parents/guardians during all this? What parent would let their 14 year old MOVE IN with someone else? Someone said up above, forgive me I don't recall who it was as of now, but they stated that 14 year olds shouldn't even be dating at that age. I know that once you get older you start thinking, gosh why would anyone date at THAT age? But in all reality that's probably not what you were feeling at the age of 14....Telling youth they shouldn't be allowed to date will only lead to them rebelling all the more....possibly going out with a pothead guy or to the extreme having sex to prove that they are 'mature'. I know it sounds like the dumbest thing in the whole world....AND IT IS!!!! But that's not how you're thinking at that age and when people tell you your not old enough to follow your emotions...such as dating...they'll go to extreme stupid measures to prove that they are! Even though what they do to prove themselves sounds VERY naive and dumb to us.... they don't think that. They try and mimic what adult relationships are like, which includes the sex of course. It also doesn't help that the media is slapping it in our faces. Have you ever heard of the singer JoJo? She is a very talented young lady....but at the age of 13 she was singing songs about cheating/breaking up/ love/ and boyfriends. There are countless examples of this. Our youth have many problems, and most of it comes from inadequate roll models and the trash they throw on the TV/Radio/ect. Maybe parents could pull their heads out of their butts for a minute to pay attention to what the heck their children are doing. For a semester I went and talked around my state to pregnant girls, and more than half of them more or less said "My parents never really cared what I did. I had no firm role modal in my life. I had sex with men that I hardly knew to feel like someone cared. I'd come home and my parents wouldn't even ask where I was/who I was dating/ect." All of these girls I interviewed were from the age group 14-16 and they all had similar answers. Sorry I think I've gone of topic a bit, but I'm just stating that before you tell them that they shouldn't be dating at 14, That they're young and naive, EVEN though they ARE they don't believe it and will still go to extreme cases to prove that they aren't young anymore. These young women and mens' parents need to wake up and realize their child's age!! Youth has started to do more adult type things before they're mature enough emotionally to handle it, and parents need to realize it and take better charge.

Don't by his gilt trip....That is not a good thing to do all it will do is make life for you worse.....If you by his gilt trip then he will use a gilt trip all the time just to get his way. PM me and I will tell you more I have seen my mom go through it before.

My boyfriend said the same thing you know what i said no i like my name and my bills in my name if i wanna threw him out i can because its my house well anyway about 30 mins later he called and said baby can i move in with you and a year later we got married everything is in my name so i can still threw him out but i rather keep him around he's a good cook and plus i need him to be the father to his child so yeah thats where i stand

Moving in together is a big commitment, it involves seriousness & maturity. It better be for all the right reasons & when the two of you are ready. (It's also smart to not let him sign his name for everything; bills, bank account, etc. You two can have one together but you might want your own or your own all to yourself. Just in case, especially if you two haven't been together that long... I know a young couple who were dating only a year & had talked about moving out into their own place [at 16 her her & 19 for him] together & getting jobs & dropping school, & set up an account together... Well, the guy liked his whores, smokes, drugs & alcohol so he cleared out everything in the account, ditched her & spent all their money on... you know.)

You're 14, leave him! All he wants is to sleep with you! If he really loves you, he wouldn't force you to do that. That's like saying, 'if you don't have sex with me, I'll leave you.' It's pathetic and immature. If he feels that way, leave him, he isn't anything special!