What do you do

When you have really strong feelings for someone and you have asked them out, ages ago, but they said no. And eventhough it has been months you still cant get them out of your head. And your friend says that you need to get over them but you have tried so hard to do that, but it has never worked.

i really dont know what to do. i have tried to concentrate on school work and other things but i cant get him out of my head. no matter how hard i try to stop thinking about him and concentrate on other things he keeps popping up in my mind.

I dont know what to do anymore. I need some advice bad.

Kalee

Are you still talking to him? seeing him?

I have made that mistake..the best way to get over him is to remove him from your life (hard as it may be). Hun, you have to realise that you're waisting your life on him right now..on someone who doesn't even care most likely..you're 16! You're young, have your life ahead of you. There are so many guys out there. Don't just limit yourself to this one.
I don't know excatly how you're supposed to get over him..cause that really depends on you, but i know enough to tell you that you NEED to move on. Do yourself a favour. This is most likely hurting you than doing anything else. Move on. You'll be glad you did.

all the best! =]
--Viola

Well I loved someone once but in all honesty it tore me apart because I knew he would never feel the same.

All I can say is this- Some people will say "move on" but it doesn't work like that. The only thing that worked for me was going cold turkey. When I left school I didnt see him for months and that was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I kept busy, I went out with friends lots and I started to take interest in other guys (though I've never fallen for anyone else) It's been over a year now and although I see him from time to time-he's changed somehow, he's not the man I loved for so long. I have also changed and although I think of him from time to time I have my life and my sanity back.

Part of me will always love who he was, but as he is not around me anymore, I am not forced to wallow in it.

It's not a matter of simply moving on it's a matter of staying away and trying to be happy in your every day life as much as pos. No one says the feelings have to go away, u simply have to learn to live with them and hopefully in time you won't think of them...or him anymore.

You're only sixteen and you say strong feelings not "love" so hopefully u should manage it. But then again-does he go to school with you? Cause if so then the whole staying away from him thing may be earier said than done...

gd luck anyway
xx

Yeah we do go to the same school and we are in the same year. so i see him every day at school. it is hard to walk past him every day. i know that after 16 november it will get easier as we finish on that day and i might never see him again after that as we are both in yr 12.

If i liked him and he didnt like me then it wasnt ment to be

Think about him, think about him day and night don't stop, write about him, draw about him, talk about him, you can't tell yourself not to think of something, that's like me saying "don't think about chocolate cake" bet your thinking baout chocolate cake now huh? so if you keep thinking baout him in theroy you will get tired of thinking about something that is never going to be and think about something more acheivable, know what I mean.

I do know what you mean. In theory if you think about something for so long, that after a while you get tired of thinking about that thing.

But the thing is, i have liked him since the beginning of last year and i finally had the guts to ask him out at the beginning of this year. and even though he said no, because he wants to concentrate on school work for this year, i always keep hopeing that at the end of this year that he will change his mind about not going out with me. I know it is just wishful thinking. i know that no matter how much i wish and hope that his feelings have changed, it is up to him to decide if he likes me or not.

Kalee