Cant get over him..

Ok.. My bf broke up with me about a month ago.. Well i found out he was cheating on me.. His best friend told me everything and right after he told me i spoke to my ex and he said his best friend was lying.. I was stupid enough to believe him but a few days later he broke up with me but he said that he didnt move on and he still loves me more than anything and no one will ever take up the space i took up in his heart and that he broke up with me coz we barely ever see each other and that kind of stuff.. We still talk but he cant stop talking about Sarah (his new gf) so obviously he lied to me.. But the other night he phoned me and started to cry, he couldnt stop saying sorry for hurting me and that wasnt his intentions.. I still love him so much and i just cant move on!!! I told him to leave me alone for a while to get over him but i cant.. I cry alot!! How long does it actually take to get over the person you love with your whole heart?

Sorry for the long post but i duno what to do.. Plz give me some advice.. I go out every weekend and i spend every minute i can with my friends but i still feel lonely.. And i put all his pics in a box and gave it to my mom to put it away so idk where it is.. Plz help.. thanx =[

He's playing around with your heart. Forget about him.

If you really like or 'love' him then, it will take a bit to forget about him. You just have to keep yourself busy, don't talk to him on the phone anymore (block the number) and every time you catch yourself thinking about him, quickly think about something else.

He's a jerk. And the fact that he called you up crying just shows that he's weak. Go for confidence, not a baby boy. He's lying to you, why do you want a liar to have your heart? He's still with another girl, and he's talking about her to you, and also saying that he still loves you. That's not fair to you. Don't talk to him anymore, you deserve way better.

He changed alot since he broke up with me.. He got piercings and tattoos and his best friend told me he's using drugs.. All because his friends said so.. Not his best friend though.. But i just cant believe he is throwing away his life coz of his friends =(
I met some other guys but they are like brothers to me.. How can i just forget about what happened and move on?? *sigh*

Breakups are always hard, nobody ever said they were easy.
Noone will be able to tell how long it takes to get over someone, sometimes youll never ever get over that someone and try so many things to get over them, but it all happens naturally. I cried over my ex for six months and i think that was the stupidist thing ever. Check out some of my older poems and you`ll be able to tell how emotional it gets. your not the only one. but he seems like a total jerk and if i where you i wouldnt get involved in his lovee games again.

Just dont give up, enjoy yoruself and its okay to feel sad and lonely, sometimes its good to confide in one of your friends and tell them how u feel. One day you`ll meet someone amazing and you`ll get over your ex. I PROMISE it happens ! :) they`ll blow you away, or could even be someone you least expect.

but dont sit around everyday crying about him !
becos you never know wen God may take you away. Just add him to the list of jerks you will come across in your life and becareful in your next relationship.

Jess.

He is playing you sweety. He just wants someone to be there to listen to him talk about his bitch ass girlfriend. Don't let no one hurt you like that. Move on, you don't need him. Learn from this mistake.

Like i always say falling in love is like falling off a building, it doesn't hurt til the end.

I'm sorry, but I have to say it. There's really nothing for anyone else beside you to do to get over someone that treated you like dirt (intentionally or not) at the last moments. That happened to me and the world didn't end. It just hurts a little. Well, a little more than a little but still, I'm here typing this aren't I?

and going out with your friends every weekend...let me ask you, do you have fun while you're with them? If you don't, then I suggest just spending time with yourself, eat chocolate, watch old movies, scarf down a hamburger, actually, don't do that, but you know, just spend time with yourself. Have you ever thought that hanging with people while you're down will only bring them down? I know that's mean but still, I have to say it. no hate mails please. and if you do have fun while with your friends, then girl, just keep doing what you're doing.

BUT cut out the tears. Cut out all thoughts of him. If you don't have his email(s) and number(s) memorized by heart, delete them. or else change your number so he can't call you.

and uuhhhh...he cheated on you. does that ring a bell?? and then he says he didn't mean to hurt you! let's put it this way, he has no right to say he didn't mean to hurt you cuz ummm you know, he did it anyways...and yah, he lied to you? if you do get back with him hundreds of years from now, how can you ever be happy knowing that you can't trully trust him without a hint or suspicion?

maybe if you think about everything that has happened, you might see through the overflowing tears that he's not worth it and you might open up a chance for a new guy, and if you're not ready for that, then you can just be your normal happy self

:) sorry for the long post, but I had to say it. and...hope you do get over him.

I still cant get over my ex...it takes time...i guess =/

Yea...it's almost two years for my little sister since her and her boyfriend broke up and she still hasn't gotten over him and i mean sometimes i even catch her thinking about him and crying, but she knew that he's not the one for her and that she needs to get on with her life...i mean if he's going to cheat on you once he's going to do it again.
i mean when my lil sis found out the love of her life had cheathed on her and that he got her best-friend pregnant it killed her. she cryed for like the longest and also after they broke up he treated her like shit.
it's just that, i seen how much my sis heart was broken and if you don't leave him alone, don't call him, don't answer when he calls ect. you'll get over him. maybe not wright alway but soon enuff you will and you'll realize that it was the wright thing.
let me shut up..i feel like a old person telling you all of this and i'm probaly your age...but i mean it just takes time and for me it took time and somebody else to make me fall out of love with my ex and i'm thankful everyday for it...GOD!!!!! I FEEL OLD!!!!!!!! just give it time sweety...just give it time.

Hmmmm yeah.
breakups, they hurt.
i've had many a breakup where i felt the way you describe yourself feeling.
i'm still alive though.
i've been down in the dumps and i've had good times as well.
as it is with everyone.
all you can do is move on.
i mean, someday you will meet the one who is right for you...
but it's not going to work out very well if you're still hung up over this loser.

Hahaha TPAM ya, thats true.. =)

Dealing with a breakup. Well, there isn't a concrete answer on what to do to get over a breakup. No one can really tell you a formula or give you a manual. It's an individual struggle. What I mean is every body has their own way.

Things that help are surely your friends. That always works for me. Doing things you love to do, keeping busy in any way you can. Writting, music, sports. Also learning something new sort of works..it makes you feel better about yourself and give you an achivement..since most people think low of themselves after a breakup.

You have to know that the world goes on..no matter how slow it seems like it's moving right now. And yes, you must give it time. Our hearts don't heal that quickly, especially if you deeply cared about the person. I pretty much gurantee though that in some time you'll find someone much better and forget about your ex. In the mean time, make do, stay positive and know that you are worth much more than what he had to offer.

Hope this helped in some way! Stay strong. =]
--Viola