Is This Normal?

My boyfriend and i recently just got married. to be exact it was August 7,2007. Things are going wonderful he is the man i always wanted, and yes we are very young but i just wanted to know is it normal to still want to ahve time to yourself, to not always want to be around him even though i just married him. Sometims when we are talking i can hear in his voice that something isn't right and i start jumping to conclusions about certain things. Am i just thinking to hard and im just scared about what's in it for us in the future or what? Please help i need someone who can relate or understands!!! HELP

Yes i feel you on that one buti don't know i think you might be right that it was way too fast but i wouldn't change anything for the world i really do love him to death. but thanks for the advice.

You know what I think you should do is just be his friend as well as his wife. Being freinds is key. Talk out everything that needs to be talked out. Yes, go have time to yourself. But tell him why and what you'll do. Don't jump to conclusions-- Be totally honest. If there are no lies, only he can make his own mind go whack. And if that happens (that he goes whacky against you) then well...... I wont go there. As long as he still adds that extra beat to your heart, he is right for you. Just remember: Honesty and Independence-- for you and him. Rock out \m/

And just so you know, I don't think you got married too fast. you knew what you wanted. I mean, you love him right? What's there to be wrong about?

Well i was 17 when i got married (now 19) and I still liked time to myself and still do wait until your pregnant

Well I think that an age on marrige is personal and no one can really say.... My opinion...

U r scared of the future..

I agree with anglenia

What everyone seems to be missing is this.

Everyone needs time to themselves. My parents have been married years and years and they still need to have time to themselves! My dad goes fishing all day saturday by himself and my stepmom goes out with her mates shopping to have a break.
Me and my fiance have it as well, he'll go play playstation on his own while i have a spell of internet time or reading on my own.

Every couple needs time apart for a few hours a day, it's what makes the rest of the time together so sweet.
So don't worry about your feelings, just take some time out for you. Go shopping or have a really long bath. Just be on your own for a bit.

*Gem*

"he is the man i always wanted"

How can he be? You're 16 - exactly how much experience have you obtained to make such a direct and definite statement?

"i start jumping to conclusions about certain things"

Well I think you jumped to a conclusion about your marriage, kiddo.

"what's in it for us in the future"

The above states your naivety and very little understanding of what you've got yourself in to. Marriage is the communion of two individuals who are in utter respect ready to commit themselves to one another. Of course, as Gem and others have already claimed, everyone needs a little time to themselves - but remember, it's not always going to be about 'you' like it was for the last 16 years. There WILL be times where you'll have to put yourself after your husband, after his parents - and eventually, after your kids. My humble opinion is that you rushed into wedlock too quick. Your understanding of marriage and its consequences have not yet developed - which is fine, you're still young. But now that you've got yourself in a married state, I'd say just do the best you can to make your significant other happy and yourself. Give time to the both of you, tell him when you need to be alone; but if he can't comprehend that then he clearly isn't the person for you.

^^ Said everything that needs to be said basically

Sorry to say this. I'm agreeing with Angelina. To tell you the truth, every single person I know that got married at a young age such as yourself wound up in divorce.

What you want now at 17 is not what you want when your 30. Both of you will change, I think you got married too fast.

It's perfectly fine to want time to yourself.

I mean i don't think we got married to fast i knew what i wanted and im happy i did what i did. i mean im in now and there's no turning back. i will always be connected to him no matter what now tht im pregnant. we were going to wait on having kids but um...well that didn't work so i mean it is what is now. im worried about putting my child first and my husband and things will be fine. i have no choice

Good luck. Everyone does need there space, you'll get sick of each other if you're always breathing down each others backs.

I didn't... i have always been an independent person my whole life. im not gonna lie i have had a freaked up life so maybe that had an impact on the decision making that i made. but hey life gives you what it gives you and i wouldnt change anything like i've said. i can't wait to have my baby and im gonna love every minute of being a mother and a wife.

Congratulations, i hope things work out for you =)

Well thanx gem i hope so to :)

Im just wishing you luck with everything, and im not going to tell you it was the right choice or the wrong choice to be married so early. im just going to ask a question of was the baby the real reason you all got married so soon?

Ive been with my boyfriend since i was 14 im 18 now and we moved in together when i was 17. until now everything is going great...yeah i know i was young but we are in love and love is love no matter the age...we made our decision and we are happy. Answering your question everyone needs time to themselves no matter what the age is...yeah i love him to death but that doesnt mean i dont get tired of being with the same person all day everyday. When I start feeling that way i sit down and talk to him tell him i need some space and tonight is girls night out...I call my friends and we all get together to have some fun.

No the baby was not the real reason we got married. i just found out i was pregnant after we did. i guess you could say our "honeymoon" i conceived it. but i know what i wanted and this is how it's going to be. my life is going to change drastically and i'm ready for what lies ahead.

Wow
well good luck with the baby and ur husband.
and if u take peoples advice for a girls night out dont drink. alcohol and pregnancy dont mix =)

"my life is going to change drastically and i'm ready for what lies ahead."

In that case, good luck!