Advice? anyone?

HELP!!! i'm all mixed up...

i have a boyfriend and he's still in contact with his ex... which is fine because i still talk to mine too.

the difference is, I actually broke up with my ex. whereas he and his ex are only separated because he had to leave the country.

(he was working in Ireland for 4 years and they met and started going out over there. 3 year relationship i think).

anyway, they broke up because he had to come back to Australia, and that was 2 years ago.

We are together now, but his ex is coming to Australia soon, and she keeps calling him and stuff.

He's obviously wants to meet up with her while she's here and that's fine with me. I'd want to do the same if i were in his position.

But should i trust him?

I know she'll only be here for about 2 months and then she'll be gone... so it's not like they're going to get back together or anything but i don't want to be 'in the way'. i don't want him to resent me for being his girlfriend.

what should i do?
what would you do?
i've tried to put myself in his position... but it's not very accurate because he's 5 years older than me... and he's a 'he'...

(Being a guy) I hope that I will be able to help you.
Firstly, you can't naturally assume that because he is a "guy" that he will automatically do the wrong thing.
What you have to do is TALK to HIM. You have to ask him about what he feels about her coming to Australia and the effects that will have on "us" (you and him).
Don't sound demanding, or resentful, or emotional either... just ask and talk to him about what this means.

If I am wrong, someone else post the right answer...

^^ Actually I really agree with Alex. It is better to talk to him about the situation and definitely trust him because relationships are built on trust.

Hmmm..... it's not that i think he'll 'do the wrong thing'... i'm just afriad he'll want to be with her again while she's here... and end up resenting me for 'holding him back'.

if i were him, and i broke up with my gf only because i had to leave the country, i'd want to get back with her the next time i was her.
i think that when he see's her, he'll realise this, and then not want me to be around. :(

is that a fair assumption?

Well the best thing you could do is talk to him and tell him what your thinking because it's always better to talk to him then assume.
I wish you all the luck in the world. ^_^

Yeah.. everybody if basically saying the same thing so there you have it.

Who cares why they broke up? The point is that he is with -you- now. He cares about you. So, as normal as it is to feel the way you do, you need to trust that he loves you. If you don't trust him, then you shouldn't be dating him.

And like people said, talk to him. It will make you feel better, and he will probably make it a point to include you and show you that what they have is nothing more than friendship.

Do you love him? because love comes with trust

Thanks people, you're all being very helpful...

i have trust issues... and i'm wary of 'love'... he's never said he loves me... and i've never said it to him...

I've talked to him... and i've said it's fine... i don't want to get in the way, but it still hurts.

anyhow, i'll see what happens. she arrives in 2 days.
thanks again everyone!

Well alot of things can happen in two months all i can say is be careful...protect whats yours.