Did he just break it off?

Hey guys.. some of you may know of my relationship with my boyfriend Ray. I was having some problems with him because for awhile he wasn't ever answering my phone calls, but I caught him on AIM today, and he told me that he had gotten his phone taken away because he got into a physical fight with his brother. He was acting bored while "we" talked.. giving me short responses like "?" and "ok" and I finally told him I had a serious question.. and I asked if he still wanted to be with me, because it seems like he doesn't.. he just put "......" and said if I wanna move on, then that's cool. He also said right now would be the right time to do it since he was already fighting with his brother. I said I don't want us to break up and that it sounds like he wants me to break up with him. And he told me,"Yeah, that's what I want." I said I dunno.. and he told me he was leaving, bbl, cya. And he got off AIM..

I'm just freaking out so much right now, I have no idea what's going on or what I should do.. I love this guy too death, I truly do. I have created so many love poems and read a lot and he was the only one on my mind the entire time. After I got off the pc, I called two of my closest friends and bailed my eyes out.. I'm just afraid this is the end and I really don't want it to be.

Please, please, please, please... what do you guys think, any advice? I desperately need it!

I'm not trying to force him into anything. It's just that if you're in a relationship, you're supposed to talk to each other.. he hardly ever talks to me though, how are you supposed to be in a relationship like that? At first we talked all of the time but now.. we don't =( I asked him that question because he just seems to brush me off everytime I try to talk to him.. It just seems like he's just putting up with me and I don't want that. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who's just putting up with me and I don't want him to have to do that in the first place.

That is such a idiotic thing to do kayla. he could have atleast talked to you about breaking up, but i cannot believe that. but if he does something like that to you then obviously he doesn't deserve you.
i really don't think you will be able to get back with him though since this has happened, hun.
i'm so sorry since i know you love him alot but you need to find a better guy for you.
*hugs her*
i can't believe that someone would be so cruel.
hope your okay.

Hehe

Well... whether he broke up with me or not, I just ended it if he didn't. He came back on AIM and I sent him a message asking if he'd just talk to me but he wouldn't.. so I said

"Well.. It seems like you really don't want to be with me anymore, so fine.. I'll leave you alone then, I'm sorry I couldn't be a better girlfriend to you."

You should beat him up kayla, the issue is not you being a better girlfriend to him, it's him being a bad boyfriend to you. no one should ever break up with their boy/girl friend like that. ever.

I agree completely
he never deserved you kayla.

Breaking up with him was the right thing to do. You can't force someone to be with you if the feelings aren't mutual.

*Hugs Kayla*

Hun I know this is really hard, and it may be devastating.
But if thats what he did, and thats how he wanted to break up, then he doesn't deserve a sweet and caring girl like you.

If I where in that situation. I would ask him if he was ok, If there was a problem or a situation. I would have confessed all my feeling's, how deeply I loved him, and tell him that I would always be there.

And then my next move would depend on the answer...

I would Either have asked him if he still wanted to be together.

Or take him in my arm's, let him know I care, and tell him he can always confide in me....

Im not sure this will help, and Im sorry if Im too late.. Seeing as, you say you already broke it off..

Im really sorry dear.
My shoulder is here for you too cry on...
--Elly.

I just went through that.. seriously. the entire summer everything was fine then school starts and he started blowing me off (just so sum it up). so it was ended and stuff and we haven't talked since. im sorry that u went through that too

I think hes acting like a serious ass hole. he didnt have the courage to talk to you in person? thats a gutsy man right there! you deserve so much better kayler, and i know youll find someone great because you are always too much fun!

You guys are too sweet to me.. Yeah, I know Ray is an a-hole and I know he's a jerk, but I loved him so much that I didn't want to believe it. Mainly he's just a tough guy and doesn't like people seeing his soft side. He's stubborn, didn't talk to me as much as I'd like, but when we did talk he made me feel so amazing.. Ah well.. it doesn't matter anymore. I just need to get past this and move on =) Thanks for everything sweeties.

You can do better hun. it's tough right now, i know, but you'll be fine. hang on to your friends and everything else. you did the right thing. you'll be fine. =]

I really hope I did.. thanks a lot =) I really apperciate your kind words, and that goes for everyone else here who has helped me out. It means so much to me.. I'll be fine, like like you guys said, just needs time.