The truth hurts

Would you tell someone the truth even if it hurts?
see i have a prob telling someone that i no longer have the same feelings for him but he has already said he would committee suicide if i leave him im afride that ill leave him and he will kill himself and i still love him but i don't want to lose him as a friend help please

Man thats a tough situation..im sorry that ur in this position..but...YOU HAVE to tell him the truth..i had this bf that begged me not to leave him and told me to stay with him so he wouldnt be hurting but i had to do it!he went into depression and anger but there was nothing i could do about it..the truth hurts sometimes..but you cant lie to yourself about the way you feel..if I WASNT happy with him i wouldnt force myself to stay with him just FOR HIM because i first have to take care of myself..MY HEART IS MY #1 PRIORITY..and so is YOUR heart..if he LOVES YOU then he will have to understand although its SOOOO hard to do that! but thats when REAL love shines through..sometimes loving someone is loving them enough to let them go..tell him how u feel and tell him that u still care for him and that you want him to be happy..and tell him that u want him to b with someone that is going to TRULY LOVE LOVE LOVE HIM..no matter what happens u have to let him know that u will still be there for him and that he WILL find that SOMEONE but that he has to stay strong..i really dont know what else to say at this point..but i really hope the best for you..be strong and take care..

I would tell someone the truth even if it hurts.

I agree with the other two people. You should really tell him the truth.

I also think that he might just be lying about committing suicide just so that you would stay with him. I've done it in the past...long ago though. And if you don't have the same feelings for him anymore then you should definitely let it go because it's like you are trying to hold on to something that's not even there and you could be missing out on someone else. Also, if you explain to him that you still love him and just don't want to be with him then maybe he'd understand and if he wants to be a jerk about it and want to stop being your friend then you'll just have to move on because you would of done the right thing.

Well I hope that helps. :)

I would most definitely, & do, tell people the truth even if it hurts! Even if the truth I have to tell them is insensitive, insulting, criticizing, ridiculing, exploiting, harsh or worse!

The question it comes down to is-- The truth that draws a tear or a lie that draws a smile?

Well I think that truth always comes out eventually. We can hide it for a while but it does come out. And the thing is, don't you think it would hurt more later? I think you should spare him even more heratache and tell him now..cause you're just waisting your time as it is.
About the suicide, well the way i look at it is-- won't he want to commit suicide even more if he finds out his wife (which i think you are) has been with him for all these years just because she was afarid to tell him otherwise and break his heart, but really all this time she didn't really WANT to be with him?? I mean THAT would just hurt me even more, if i was in the position.
So I say you tell him the truth now, hard as it may be.

--Viola

So he makes a threat so you cope down and stay afraid and unhappy the rest of your life? do you really want to be with this guy 10 years from now? do u really want to see him in your future? from the looks of it after saying you don't really like him ...no. you can't live your life unhappy just because someone else is stupid. he's acting immature about the whole thing and he shouldn't put the pressure on u. he needs help if thats all he's been doing in life.
You need to make the choice, if u want to be happy, b/u with him but let him know u still want to be in his life but as friends.

What h appends if there is a child involved if i would have known my feelings weren't as strong as i thought they were for this man i would not had had her with him im afride that if i leave and he does go threw with his threat that my child may hate me for life and i just don't think i would be able to handle it :(

^i agree with britt.