Hes in jail how do i deal

My new bf is in jail wat do i do im so helpless im scared that he wont be released but idk help?

Slap on that paint persona.

The advice given is actually very good advice. He is your new boyfriend. You will be able to move on.

How long have you two been together? What did he do to be placed under arrest?

Baby doll, there is a whole world out there and one man is not worth all the drama; especially for a 16 year old.

You need to find someone who will respect himself and you enough not to get into this type of situation.

Anything less than that is not what I consider a real man, but instead a young boy that needs some serious redirection in life and growing up.

Best of luck to you... I do recommend from experience that you move on and leave him behind.

--Sher

You don't deal with it..you move on.
He's not worth waisting your life over or being dragged down by..which probably is what will happen if you stay with him and try helping him. You can definitely do better. Move on. Leave him behind. You have your whole life ahead of you.

Agreed with Painted Persona 100%!!

Bob, baby... it is not that I do not give inmates respect.... by all means I do and I know that many can change... the difference is that she is 16 and has her whole life in front of her...

This situation is different. But I do agree that many people feel that once you have been convicted of a crime then you are doomed for life.

I know a young man who was convicted and sentenced to 5 years in prison for drugs in 2003. He was realeased early with time served and today he is one of the hardest workers and stays out of trouble. An addict yes, but he no longer caves to his cravings and is a stand up citizen that I am proud to call my little brother.

--Sher

I was facing this problem recently.
the situation was different, though, we'd been dating a while and he was sentanced a week. [long story]
i stayed with him due to these circumstances because i believe we have a future together.
a new boyfriend?
honey, free yourself up unless he's only there a few days.
if he's a decent guy, maybe think about getting back together after he gets out.

Leave him, now. Think of yourself and your future... Where do you see yourself in a few years? With a guy who's in jail, doing bad things. Get out of that kind of relationship. Find a good man.

The thing is he didnt do anything wrong it was his friends fault he was just in his car his friend was the one doing the wrong and hes inoccent and i dont wanna leave him cause hes the greatest thing that has ever happened to me hes helped me straighten my life out majorly but he was released after a week and now he had to go to court today and he might get 6 months and im scared half to death cause i dont wanna lose him

Jail changes people, btw.
sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.
decide if he's worth it.

Girl think about your future what happends if he gets outta jail you get pregnant do you really think he is gonna stay outta trouble because being a single mother sucks!

Maybe to you but for me it'll feel like a life time it was hard enoughy a week when he was in for onl

No one can tell you what to do...If you love him stay with him and see what happens but don't close all your options.

My friends b/f went into jail almost 2 months ago. (His mother framed him and 3 people know she did)...but anyways...My friend and him were only going out for like 3 months before he got arrested, but they still write letters to each other and send annaversary cards and stuff. He doesn't know how long he is going to be in jail yet but there is a maximum of 18 yrs for what he was said to have done, my friend said she'd wait because she loved him just that much, and they both promised to get married the next time they see each other...

So everyone's situation is diffrent...Do what you feel is best for you.

Ive been in the same position, actually he was the love of my life!!! i thought i would die lol but just take it day by day, it makes you look at your realtionship closer and experience some true pain, a couple days you'll cry, but all i can say is find something or somebody that will make you happy

Yea u will lol well hes out and on house arrest for 2 months but he could end up going back for 5 months it sucks i love him so much it just hurts so bad

Lol.

he may not have done anything, but he's guilty by association.
my brother gets in trouble all the time for things his friends do.

obviously your boyfriend can't choose good friends. therefore, what makes you think he can choose a good future?

i don't believe he's the best thing that's happened to you either, darling.
i mean, seriously, he's causing a lot of stress on you. you sit back and worry all the time, while he sits in jail because of his friends.

sometimes good things come from the imagination because we want them so badly.

Hmm.. i may have a biased opinion, but i think alot of the people here are judging him too harshly.
then again, i dont know him either, so they could be completely right.
it's up to you dear..
is he worth the heartache?

Hmmm... sweetie i was you for so long and as much as i have nothing against this guy and i completely believe in second chances this guy isnt worth you. you owe it to yourself to find someone better because my ex b/f was in and out of jeuvy 3 times involved in a gang and stabbed 13 times in the past 7 years. You only end up hurting yourself and you may think its love it may even be love but no love is worth putting yourself in danger. good luck but take a deeper look at the situation.