Which breakup would you prefer?

Assuming you were in a real relationship here, not a two-week middle school 'relationship', okay?

one where you knew it was coming for a period of time prior to the actual breakup,

or

a sudden one where one day everything is peachy and the next day it's all gone

i myself can't decide, yet... ill get back to ya..

I think the first one. The shock of the sudden ones is too much sometimes.

I would definitely prefer the first one! Having a shock like that would kill me!

I would have to say the first one. Just because then i could prepaire myself for it.

Plus.. being happy one day and the next its over would be a hard thing to take in.

I say the first one...

I say the first one... it is better to know then not to because first off if everything is fine then why the breakup.

I think i'd pick the first one too, but i've been in both situations... neither are pretty. =[

The first one.. been through both of them and the second one just hurts so damn much

Yeah.. I'd say the first one too. If you know it's coming, then you have time to prepare for it and it won't hit you as hard. If it comes up suddenly, you'll be devistated and yeah.. it really really sucks.

The first one but i too have been through both of them

I dont think i could handle a sudden break up..so definately i would rather have a break up that i knew was coming..that way i wont feel sooo hurt..or at least not as much..

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^ AH!! Such a cute picture!! Lol I like your response too Mike.. but I don't think that was one of the answers XD

Well, considering that when it is unexpected it hurts more, but when you know it's going to happen you would probably live in that worry everyday and not get to close to that person because you know it is going to end. So I am not sure, either choice has it's pro's and it's con's.
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Amber

The first one...the second one is WAY too painfully =-''''(

The second one is painful, but if the relationship was strong before maybe there was just a misunderstanding so you can get back together. The first one, there's no hope.

I wouldn't know which one to be worse.

Ummmm wow thats hard i think the second one honestly because i mean i couldnt stand it if i knew we were falling apart and there was nothing i could do man that could drive me crazy u know!!!???

The first one definitely, I can handle that. Not the second one; that's deadly.

The first one. sudden break ups are usually the end of a short-term relationship..immature relationships end abruptly. that's the way it works. even if you want to end a relationship with someone, you do NOT break up with them suddenly, impulsively. that's cruel. if you want to break up with someone, the final cut should be made after you have contemplated for several weeks, and shown some signs that you are falling out of love. if the relationship was long and serious, chances are you actually loved that person or perhaps still do. why make things harder than they need to be? be nice and respectful, don't ever randomly say, "i don't ever want to see you again. we're over."

i believe ending on the best terms possible is always a good idea.

Mature, serious & committed people, not to mention people who're in a steady relationship as such, know when something is not right in their relationship. The won't admit or at least like to admit that they may be on the verge of a break-up. Usually, they try to prolong their relationship. They're in love and their willing to work--Hard!--for that relationship and the person they're in love with. And if the relationship ends, even after countless and strenuous attempts, they respectfully accept that it is over.

Whereas some people who're not mature, serious or committed, who are in a rocky relationship much the same, may experience the more likely chance of an abrupt break-up and will allow for it to happen as they were not as deeply involved in their relationship or with their partner for the break-up to be of that much importance for them to fight for. They will not admit or least like to admit to being in that relationship with that person.

I'd personally choose a break-up that I'd been expecting, as well as willing to accept if needed (not only because I'm in a steady, mature, serious & committed relationship with a man who is as such), over an abrupt break-up anyday!

I Preffer the first one. im kinda going thorugh that right now i know its gonna happen soon but im basically just waiting for her to leave me cause i dont have the balls to leave her idk i love her alot though.

^^ if you love her, work for her!!!!!! me and my boyfriend have gone through many rocky times and each time we come out stronger its all about how bad you want it!!!!

I would def. perfer the first one. this we you have time to get ready for the worst

I would deff. prefer the second one. It wouild kill me just knowing it was going to end but if it just ended suddenly I wouldn't have to think about it and ruin the last of our time together freaking about when he was going to leave me.

Hopeless Romantic, well said.

I'm thinking I'd go with the first one because then at least you have the chance to peice it all back together

If it was definitely going to be lost, then the second one. I don't want a slow painful process that ends in nothing good.

1 thath apns staright away.
dont like slow prcess .
hurts like hell for too long
you dont wnanab e wif me
simple tel me straight out dont make it difficult

I think that I'd rather know it in advance, so that I can break up with him before he dumps me . . . I think it'd be hard either way though. . .

I would prefer the first one... i'd like to know what was coming before it happened...

my ex chose to do the second way though... he pretended everything was alright wen he was around me... then one day... he just did it....
i never saw it coming... and thts what hurt the most...
he never talked to me about it, or tried to work it out... no... he just decided it was over...

god... sorry... im not over it... and it'll be a year on nov. 3... AAAHHHHHHHH

It depends on how i felt. if i wanted to end it anyways, i want the second one.

I would say the first one, too.

I choose...my love!

But seriously, the second would hurt so much worse. Both would kill me/

The first one!!! I would never be able to handle the second too emtional.

First one trust me..

The second one happened to me and it really hurt..

I would prefer the first one because the second one just happened and im confused and giving up and its really hard. deff. when you loved him/ that person

Majority wins!the first one lol

The second one.

Either one is going to hurt just as much, I'd rather not dwell on that pain. If she's leaving... I wouldn't want any opportunity to beg for her back.
If she left, she wasnt happy. It wouldnt be my place to beg her to stay, and I would in that state of mind. The feeling of need.

The sudden way is the way to give them what they want, and to save the fake attempts to "make everything better" when it's bound to happen anyway.

Good topic, Danielle.

The first one it wouldnt hurt as much

The first one, you see it coming. it won't take you by surprise, which will hurt a heck of a lot more