A 13 yr old in love keep dreaming

I dont no how 13 and 14 yr olds can say there in love there only like 13 and they dont really no what love is..........

i have one friend she is 13 and everytime this guy walks past its like billy i love u she doesnt love him she loves the idea of being with him becuz he is hott....

can anyone add to this

If u agree say so

or if u dont i wuld like to no y

I can honestly agree with this statement for the most part.
but again, as with all aspects of life in every age group, there are exceptions.
and i'm sure some of you are going to come back with, 'of course you're going to say that, you're 15!'
that's your opinion, fine.. frankly, it doesn't alter my love life, so it doesn't matter to me.
but i'm proud to say that i am one of the people my age who actually have the mental capacity to be in love.
and just as a side note, i don't think any age group has the right to decide whether or not a different age group's feeling are valid.
nor are any of us actually knowledgeable enough on what the true definition of "love" is to go around doing such.

just my two cents... :]

^^adding to the other cultures thing, dont they get married MUCH younger than americans? like, 13,14?
sheesh, if we all got married at that age...
i'd cry. lol.

I agree 100%.

13 and 14 year old know how to love a parent or friends, but not in a romantic way! I met my boyfriend when I was 13, and I could of swore on anything that I loved him. I would of cut my left hand off to prove it. Thinking back, I know now that I didn't love him, I loved the idea of him! I can say honestly the first time I realized honestly that I loved him, was when I was 17.

For all you 13-14 year olds, you may think intense that you're in love, but I can garentee that you'll feel the difference in years to come. AND just because someone says they love you, doesn't mean it's true! So, don't put yourself in situations you'll regret!

I can understand how you think that about 13 year olds, but honestly it's all true. I believe that age is just a number, it's not important in your feelings. Yes, many people at age 13 say "Oh, I love this person so much!" when they in fact don't but that is different than real love. Most relationships at that age last about 2 weeks, because they're just little things. It's true that most 13 year olds aren't in love, but you're making a very large generalization.

It's the idea of being in love and being in a grown up relationship thats appealing to them

And lmao at Angelina, lol

Do you think so? a person with that age can feel a strong affection like that...but i respect your opinions...actually, i already fell in love but i was only hurt in the end...

Hi i am totaly 100% against all your points im 13 and im telling you i think all your points may seem real to you but think ur 15 so u just think me and all the other 1's just 2 years younger than you are mabie just kids but im hear to put my points across and i do know that boys are like a pack of cards the dealer has to do a great shuffle to make sure you get a mixture in your hand basicly in the real world it means you'll have a bunch of parteners and only sum of them mean allot to you so then next time you think of how we dont know how to love or what love means think of the definition:
love:
when sum1 cherishes and likes sum1 so much that they concider them as a lover or sum1 they love dearly.
this shows that we can love sum1 or sumthing as much as you can.

Not narrow minded, just realistic. Apart from one case with my best friend. Find me a 13 year old that was in love at the age and it lasted longer into thier college year?

My cousin was 13 when she started dating her ex. It lasted 5 years...

They aren't together anymore, but i lasted all through high school and into the start of her first year of college and they were in love, and i know they still are.

but..falling "in love" at 13. I really don't think it's possible. Maybe starting out as puppy love and then turning into love after a few years, yeah. Another example would be my friend Dani and her b/f Nate. They started going out at 13 or 14 and will have been going out for 3 years this December. It started it out as puppy love...

Exactly. It starts as puppy love. Real love is when you make a commitment to each other. When it's real and true. When you know for a fact it's going to last the difference and you aren't concentrating on getting an education, which is what should be the priority at that age.

So don't get an attitude with me and don't call me honey please. I find it patronising from someone younger than me. No offense.

Well done to you for getting past the puppy love years. Many people find that hard and i now know of two cases. But the majority, not all, the MAJORITY is puppy love. Sheesh.

I agree i think that a 13 year old can fall in love.....but what you described i don't think your friend is really in love. i am 13 and i have been i love before. yes i have lost it but i defitnaly know it was love. :, (

A 13 year old in love? I don't believe it. This very rare, VERY..and hardly even possible. But as it was described previosuly it can very well start out as puppy love at that age and develop to real love in years to come. Yes, some couples that have gotten together at the age of 13 or 14 have stayed together and gotten married even..still I don't think they truly loved each other the first few years. Love comes with maturity and many other things. When you get older you learn the difference between those feeling of 'love' at 13 and the feelings of love you experience in your final teenage years.

^ exactly. Someone with a head on their shoulders =)

It's not that a 13 year old can't love somebody, if you ask me. I just think that they'll find in the years to come that what they felt at that age is only a portion of what they will come to feel as they get older.

I only say it from experiencing; I was 'in love' at 13 or 14, but now I don't even know who I was trying to kid.

I agree. people my age (yes, i am almost 15) try growing up as quick as possible so that they can try to experience things they cant at that moment. there are the exceptions, but generally love doesnt happen that young.

i read something though and thought it was kind of interesting. basically, it was saying that if you can love a family member, a friend, anyone close to you at a young age, why couldnt you love a boyfriend/girlfriend?
i think, yes in a way we can love, but as in 'caring deeply' for someone else, not romantically.

WEll im am 14, and yea 13 and 14 year olds just throw around the words i love you, like a lost toy, but some of us 13 and 14 year olds that say they love someone and really mean, and you are up there saying that 13 and 14 year olds dont wat love means or wat love is, well hate to break it to you, NO ONE knows what love truly is, just like no one really knows the meaning of life, love can be taken in many ways, it depends on the person and/ or there beliefs

just my 2 cents

Well love doesn't have an age and that is my belief sex does on the other hand, but there is never an age on love

Look i am 15 so i dunno if u r sayin i cant b in love or wat bcoz im not 13 or 14 but honestly i think love can be felt at anyage. for gods sake i wenk out wit a guy frm 5yrs old to last yr!!! i know at 5 i was not in love but i sure as hell was y da time i was 13. the way people patronize young people on this site who say they r in love is disgraceful and the dude who said its narrow minded is completely right. think about wat ur sayin.....if u belive love has an age limit then maybe u dont realise just how strong it is....maYBE you DONT UNDERSTAND LOVE
who do u tbhink u r 2 say sum1 cant b in love no matter wat the situation if they're 13? just bcoz the relationship dosent last till college dosent mean its not love relationships fall apart 4 all sorts or reasons regardless of weather it is/was love or not.
i think people who are putting an age limit on lopve need to get a life and im sayin that in the nicest way i can think off, its pathetic and shallow and narrow minded and just i dunno im really mad after reading all this and i am very glad that sum people are sticking up 4 young teenagers. love at 13 can be just as strong as love at 20 or love at 10 its LOVE its not sex, or driving, or drinking or anything like that theres no way it can do sum1 harm in those ways unless it is challenged did u stop to think that by saying these thing u might be causing people to belive they should test their love?
would u like it if a 10 12 13 yr old went out and lost their virginity bcoz they thaught their feelings were being underapreciated by a bunch of snobs on this site?
its pathetic and u need to think about wat u right/
u could cause a lot of young girls or guys to compromise their feelings bcoz u have told them their not real or worse to go and try 2 proove themselves.,
so thanks 4 corrupting lots of young teens and kids mate very appreciated and you should tghink about weather u r emotionally developed enough 2 b in love if u think it can be measured in age....
ok im gonna shut up now
bye bye
frm kida xoxo

"for gods sake i wenk out wit a guy frm 5yrs old to last yr!!"

dude.
you were FIVE.
do i really have to even say anything to that?!?!?!?!?!??!?!

Ok, so i didn't really read all this but i did want to say somthing to the orgional poster....love isn't defined as an age.....we know we love our parents and relatives as young as 2 we start saying this, and its true love. I know its not the same as being 'in love', but saying that you can be 'in' love at 13 or 14 or even 15 is like saying that you cant 'love' your parents/relatives when your 2 or 3....besides how is being 'in' love at 13 14 15 any different then being 'in' love at 16 17 or 18....many people fall in love in highschool adn get married adn live logn years married, very happly....so how does age effect love?....you are only 15 your self...so what is the difference of 14isha nd 15? nothing but a few days.......love is a feeling, and it means somthing different to every one. There is no way to put an age on love. Its just not possible. And im not saying that there is much difference between being 14ish and being 17 (as i am) but i have been 'in' love, it just hasn't been the love that lasted... But i dont go around telling every guy i date that i love them...casue its not true....i think it should only be said when its real......just my thoughts
<3
Bianca

You find love in the most unsual places, and when you find it, hold it, and never let it go, no matter wat age u r , IT DOESNT MATTER, age IS just a number, if u truly love someone then you do, and it doesnt matter if ur underage and there overage, i kno there is the whole legal part of that, but if its real love u will go through everything and everything just to be with them =]

Well for me, I have fallen in love for the very first time and im 15. It may be sort of true because your still young but any one can be fooled by love...or what they think is love. My cousin who is 23 has had so many boyfriends i cant believe and she has said she loved so many of them only to be with some one else the next month! While her brother, married a girl he had been with since the second year of high school...lol love is a funny thing i really dont think it can have an age limit on it, maybe we might regognise the signs of love as we mature but any one can fall in love and any one can be fooled by love.

Wait a minute...wait a minute......i felll in-love when i was 14....his name was J.R. and ever to this day i still love him...i mean it's different for everybody..i mean like for my little niece she hasn't had the chance to fall in-love and she 13...yea i wish she would wait because heck i wish i would have but still it doesn't mean that you can't fall in-love when your 13 and 14....no it will never be TRUE LOVE but you can love em'....and also if your that young and you say that you have to honstly know them...not just like them for there looks or what they have or give to you...ask your mom and all she's tell you.

^ again this kinda goes back to Angelina's point of
"there's a difference between love and romantic love."

Yes, it's possible to love someone at any age. We love our friends and family. You can love people for the person they are, even people of the opposite gender. But there's a difference between that and the romantic love you have with a partner.

They get love confused with infatuation. They'll grow out of it.

"^^adding to the other cultures thing, dont they get married MUCH younger than americans? like, 13,14?
sheesh, if we all got married at that age...
i'd cry. lol."

^ Not in all foreign cultures. In Germany people get married at all ages (above eighteen) however they hold off on kids until around 28-35.

No...I know 40 year olds who still aren't capable of love. I'm not saying you have to be a certain age...but love is a tricky thing and I think very few people can experience its true nature.

that sad, I don't believe I am one of them. And I certainly don't believe some 12 year old boy who's balls just dropped and some 13 year old who just stopped playing with Barbie a few years back can either.

Ok, 13 and 14 year olds do have a taste of what love is! read my poetry and you will see.

Please don't just say that i'm just some kid with outrageous dreams. We don't only care about looks, all of my crushes in the past didn't have the best looks, but i saw their beauty because they were such wonderful people! They enlightened my spirit, and their happiness was more important to me than mine. And i've had my heart broken a few times.

Tell me how you can be so sure that you know what love is? Gosh! people just think that they know what everything is just because they're older

Age is merely a number, maturity can tell much more about a person. I am very offended. but please don't take this personaly, i understand about those kinds of teens, i just think that you should consider more people's points of view than just your friend's.

i'd appriciate it if you would take this into consideration.

I hate it when my opinions are discarded like that.
how would you feel if someone said that to you?
(to post above mine.....if that was to me)

One more thing. don't you have something better to do with your time than going on these disscussion boards and telling everyone that they're wrong. Have some empathy!

^^ that was for the person commenting my comments. And thank you to all the people who think teens can be in love at 13

When I was 14 I met my boyfriend. I am 18 now and we are still together. So I guess it is part true, sometimes people fall in love when they are that age and sometimes it is just a big joke. I never told my boyfriend that I loved him until 4 months later. So I agree with you and then I don't, I do see your points though.

LoveBird- Whether you like it or not, you're going to realize in a few years that what you feel now is only a portion of what you are going to come to feel. Trust me, we were all 14, we were all in love, and we were all wrong. In a few years, you'll be laughing at yourself for ever thinking the way you think now.

Midnitestars- Congratulations. :) Really. Not many people can pull off something like that- although out of curiousity, did the feelings intensify a few years after you started dating and had matured a little bit? I imagine it would be harder for you to tell in this situation, since you've been with the same person for that long.

Honestly i think the whole love thing is bull shit.! its the dumbest thing i've ever heard of in my life. how can you serioulsy say your happy with one person and you love them soo much while you charting on them.. it makes no sense.. it all a bunch of lies and you deff dont love soemone when your 7 or even 17 its the dumbest thing ohh lets sayy we love them soo we can have sex and then have no baby daddy cause pretty much whats it all about... grow up serioulsy theres no such thing as love its called lust.. dont get the two confused cause im sick of hearing how people are with other when they hooking up witth some ones it a wasted emotion and its OVER RATED the way i look it as a wise girl kisses but DOESNT love;; listens but doesnt believe and leaves before she is left.!

All I'm going to say is, there's way of expressing your thoughts and opinions without getting mad, rude, incosiderate, offensive, or harsh..which is what some people are doing on this thread. THAT does not show any maturity either. Don't lash out on somebody just because you don't like their way of thinking. (and this is not directed towards anyone in particular.)

I agree-seriously THIRTEEN! OMG yeah its the idea of it, and the physical attraction... I mean sure Romeo and Juliet were like 14 or something but times have changed life is not a story and people live past the ending

I agree to disagree.

I don't believe there is an age limit for someone to be in love. But sadly, age, simply, DOES matter; age determines your maturity level, in this case to determine & distinguish love as well as handle it. But, for example, if you are mature for your age that still doesn't mean that you're old enough for love. You've got to be smart--and not smart as in ''intelligent'' but as in you have good morals and values, hold your expectations of yourself and of your partner high. You've, as well as your relationship, have got to steady, serious and committed. Love is not really love if you’re in a relationship where you rarely see each other, when the two of you live far away, are broken up more than you are together, if you've only been dating for 2-4 weeks, when you or you know that the other person is sleeping around, she/he was just a one night stand, etc., etc.

I believe some young teens (13 & 14) can fall in love because some teens are mature for their age; maybe not the smartest but maturest. You know when you're in love and only you (and your counterpart); it's like an instinct, no one can tell you otherwise. When you tell others this; that you are in love, some believe you and believe it, some doubt you, doubt it and want it to be proven (the party poopers). But the thing is ''love'' can't be seen or heard (certainly not smelled or tasted); if you think that seeing is believing then you're too far behind, ''love'' can only be felt. You can presume a couple is in love; call 'em like you seem 'em or over hear it, but you will never know for sure and probably never will if you haven't felt it yourself. Even if you already are a firm believer that ''love'' is real you still will never truly know until the day you find it.

Heck, I know people 17 and older who still aren't mature enough to be in love... For obvious reasons!

It's not that we don't believe the young can't experience true love, it's just that they can't handle true love... That and we keep getting proven wrong, or right... Hey, can't argue with statistics!

I'm very sorry for being so rude and abrupt, i tend to let my emotions conrol me, and my sense of right and wrong. I'm dealing with alot, and i am progeting my fears and upset on others. I realize that now, and you're all right, i don't know what i'll feel in 5 years, or even next year, i'm really not all that mature, and people who are older than me have more experience than I do and definately something i can learn from. I really do need to improve on my thought patterns and emotional drama. Thanks for helping me to realize that.

Thank you.