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I just got a divorice. I told him I wanted one that I didn't feel the same. But all It was is that he still wanted the single life. I mean he went out every nite nearly and I was at home with the kids. We were married eight years
and have 3 kids together. Well after we split up I started talking to this other guy who was perfect. But the problem my ex was always on my mind I still Love him. Well neways I stopped talking to this guy because I was still in love with my ex well my ex has a new girlfriend but is telling me he wants to be with me and he is going to end it with her but he hasn't. So my question is should i try to make it work with my ex or give up. No matter how much it hurts. All he tells me is he don't know how to end it with his new girl because she has not done anything wrong and I have. Help me I'm so confused!!

All i can tell you is, whatever you do, do it for your kids. this is hurting them just as much or more as it is you.

I agree, you have kids, don't play games, you are either going to be together and make it work or you have to go your separate ways and move on. Going back and forth wont do any of you any good.

If he loved you, he wouldn't be with this other woman, and if he knew he had the chance of getting you back, he would have left her in an instant..people do not change. our personalities always stay the same, and if you want a relationship to change, YOU have to change, you can't make the other person change...alright? who is to say that the relationship will not become what it became, all over again? that can be negatively, or positively...so if you decide to get back together, be aware of that..and do think of your children. they should have a stable home, not a home with parents who are together one second and in other romantic relationships the next. how old are your kids?

My kids r 3,5,and 7. they r the only ones holding me together right now. I am trying my best but it is like every turn I make is wrong. I don't know where to go.

"...his new girl because she has not done anything wrong and I have..."

What did you do wrong? He is the one who was always out and not there for you and the kids. Honestly, as terribly as this sounds, I'm not sure about your ex. If he was always out, never around, what makes you think he'll change. I know in ways it could be better going back to your ex for the kids, but if he isn't going to be there for you, nor them, don't do it! He needs to prove to you that he can change and be there! He might also just be playing around with your heart, maybe this new girl friends doesn't do something that you normally did for him. Don't make rash decisions, talk to your ex and see if he really wants to get back together. Eight years is a long time, but just because you love him doesn't mean he'll love you just as much!

I hope you still talk to his other guys, if you think he is perfect, than maybe he is just what you and the kids need.

Hey thank you all for your advice. You helped me decide. It is time I move on. I still have my 3 beautiful boys and they love me it is all that matters. I am moving out of town and going to start a new life just me and my kids. I am tired of crying and hurting. It is my time to be happy. Check out my new poem and you will understand what I'm talking about. Again Thanks everyone you really helped me realize what is important.

Good decision. Wish you the best.

Good job! I'm so happy for you! =D