Back- with need of advice.

Ok i have been with my boyfriend for a while now. not a HUGE while, but a pretty big one, and i need some advice.

when we first started dating he had told me he previously smoked. and a little while later, i was informed he was smoking again. i hate smokers. DESPISE THEM. and he didnt deny it or anything, and i talked to him about it and he said he was quitting. and like a week later he said he had given it up for good.
now i know quitting is hard, and i knew he'll probably mess up more. but ok:
*tick tock tick tock* let like 4 months pass

i was gone for 12 days, and when i came home a few days later his brother, told me that he was smoking again. so i called and asked. and he didnt say anyhting. i am not so mad at the smoking part as i am with the 1. Lying. 2. Not Telling Me. 3. Not Talking to me about it. and now he's saying that he hasnt done anything wrong.

do you dis/agree with me? and do you have any advice as to what i should say to him.

what should i do?

advice?

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Lola

As a smoker i can sympathise with your b/f, i read it somewhere that if you take it solely on the addictiveness of it - nicotine is more addictive than herion. I think its America's leading expert on addiction Jack Henningfield that said that.
Now just going on the fact that he is trying to pack the cigs in .. shows that he's head over heals for you. You are trying to change something not only about him - but within him. With regards to him not telling you, and lying to you .. maybe he just felt a bit embarrassed. I know that when i try to give up, the most annoying part of it all is admitting you failed. No man wants to admit to their partner that they are a failure. He should keep you in the loop granted, but so long as he is still trying to pack them in - my best advice would be to give him support and just let him keep trying.

Thanks pete. hes confused im on the phone and im like: hold on im reading about you. "about what" :dont worry its in your favor: haha

Just doin' ma job ma'am.

Hey, i got the almost exact same problem
but, when i ask my boy to stop
he kind of.. tells me
he doesn't want someone taking somethign liek that away from him. like me
he smokes because it actually relaxes him
which is sort of bad
because he's past the.. light headed and you know smokin with your buds at school type thing
he just does it when hes under stress
and having me, his girlfriend nagging at him to stop
doesn't help
i kind of try to cope with it as much as possible.
i do try to get him to slow down
..just trying to relate