Parents. . . . what to do, . . . what to do.

My parents are devorced and both remarried and both live about 50 or more miles away from me, so i live with my grandparents. my dad HATES my mom and he is always telling me that i am just like her, and he is always gettin mad at me, all he does anymore is make me get really upset, b/c there are times i feel worthless, and sometimes when i get really upset i cut myself, it helps, for me. and when i do things wrong or to upset him he says that i am going to be sent to my moms house, and i cant go there b/c my step dad does things to me, and noone knows. i hate my mom and her stupid husband! is there anyone out there that is going through the same things as me, or anyone that can give some advice to help out a bit? any advice or stroies would be pretty cool.

Well, obviously Britt is right. Lol

Well, the whole thing with your father hating your mother, and then saying you're just like her.. Well, my dad does that a lot. When he actually calls. Lol.

And, don't even think about staying with anyone but your grandparents. You need to tell someone about your step- father, as Britt stated. Because, then things between your mother and you would most likely be better. And, maybe at some point you could move back in with her, and establish a good relationship.

Your father, Don't push him away, accept him for who he is. I know it hurts, more than words can explain. And, most of the time it's better not to have someone like that than to have them. But, the rest of the time, you're missing them constantly. So, don't push him away. I wouldn't go visit him very often, but I'd stay in contact as best as possible.

And, if you ever need someone to talk to darling, just let me know. I'd be glad to talk. It might help with those emotions. Lol.

You are 16 years old, be honest about everything, your step father has no right to put his hands on you in any manner. Sadly the fact could be that for your father, you a reminder of the relationship he has with your mother, when you dont know what to say or do it is easy to just cut someone down and say "hey you're just like your mother" Be honest and tell him what you think of the things that he says to you. All in all it sounds like you should be living with your grandparents, but I would definetely speak up on all respects, especially your step father, it is hard enough to carry on in life after someone violates you but to have to keep it a secret as well makes living life an impossible task sometimes, believe me.