How early is too early?

  • DeathsRose
    17 years ago

    One of my friends was over my house yesterday and so was my b/f. Well my friend got a call on his cell from his g/f and right before they hung up he said "I love you" my b/f asked them how long they had been going out and my friend said about 6 months. My b/f told me later on that he thought that was a little soon to be saying thet, but I told him I thought it was cute...I was also kind of hinting that I wanted him to start sying it to me...(although we have only been going out for almost 2 months). I don't want to push things with my wonderful b/f and scare him off or anything...and even though he doesn'tsay it I know from the things he does that he loves me...but I just want to hear him say it...I was just wondering when other people thought it was appropriate to stary saying "I love you" in a relationship.

  • Jaime
    17 years ago

    You say it when you feel it. He'll say it when he's ready, do not push him. It shouldn't have any sort of time limit on it.

  • Independence Forever
    17 years ago

    I think anything other than marriage or engagement is too early to say i love you.

    on the basis that until you've weathered the storms together, until you know for a fact that this is not some infatuation then you don't know what love is

  • Prophecies In Kodak
    17 years ago

    I didnt say "I love you" aside from a playful way till almost one year into a two and a half year relationship.

    Till I knew everything was going to work out and that she'd stand with me through the fire.

    Too soon is till you feel it. And till you know.

  • Beauty In The Breaking
    17 years ago

    Like everyone else has said, it's the right time when you feel it ^_^ My first *and last* relationship lasted 3 months and I think I said "I love you" way to soon =P He said it to me after dating me for a week and I looked in his eyes and said it back but...I don't think I actually really loved him at the time but came to love him slowly after saying and with each time he said it and I said it back I loved him a little more. Take your time and don't rush into saying it =P Theres no rush and make sure you actually feel it first because otherwise it hurts really bad when you find out the person that says they love you doesn't =P

  • OMGdanielle
    17 years ago

    I think i said it too soon to my boyfriend, but i lucked out because over time my feelings did evole to love.

  • Jamie Lorraine
    17 years ago

    I don't think there is a limit on it. if you both feel the same and you know the person then say it when you feel like you do love the person.

  • Amanda Frost
    17 years ago

    He'll say it when he knows he feels it!

  • Gem
    17 years ago

    I think people say it when they feel it and have to let you know

    Marcus said it to me three weeks into going out. He must have meant it because two years later, we're moving in together and are enagaged, lol

  • Helen
    17 years ago

    Its totally up to the couple :) if you feel that deep about them then scream it out... 6 months is still a long time if you think about it maybe not compeard to 3 or 4 years but its still a long time.

  • olive oyl
    17 years ago

    I used to agree with atticus that before marriage it was too early to say i love you, and as cliche as it sounds my bf told me he love me the first day. yeah i know people would say crap but i felt the same way and it meant something cuz its been 2.4 years and we never go a day with out an i love you

  • dezie
    17 years ago

    I know how u feel the man of my dreams would tell me he loved me even when i was dateing other guys we were frineds at the time and now that we are together ever chance he gets he tells me he loves me even the first day we began dateing now he tells me or he waits for me to say it i have said it back buts it because im so much in love with him but was it to early to tell him i loved him him to i mean i have always loved him and he told me he loves me so deep wiht in his soul if he ever losted me he dont knwo what he would do i mean i thinks its cute and all but im so scared that some thing is going to happen what do i do

  • OMGdanielle
    17 years ago

    ^ you appreciate life, and stop being scared. thats what i had to do. love fully....

  • ABrookeD
    17 years ago

    Ahhh...personally i think that it is too soon. I believe if a couple has made it a year or more and they know in their heart that it's love, that's the appropriate time to say it. Too many teenagers use that word more than once..i'm talking 6 times or more and it's just wrong. I have never said i love you, other than a time when i was pressured into it. Love takes time to develope, it's not something you should rush into saying. Although...there are some acceptions. If a person is mature enough to understand love and know that it's there...then i guess 6 months isn't too soon, but it all depends on the person. Now, 3 months or sooner...that's too early. When he's ready, he'll say it. Don't pressure him.