Afraid of love?

Has anyone ever fallen in love, but was afraid to admit it because maybe your not sure the other person feels the same. Or maybe you are just plain afraid to fall in love because you could wind up heartbroken?
Just curious. If you have stories feel free to share them :).

Yes, i used to date alot but now i'm sort of timid because so many bad things have happened to me in past relationships, so someone could like me but i'd be too timid to ask her out

I'm afraid. i say it to my g/f now, but i still am in my "shell" you could say. I'm not fully letting myself go with her. I can't for some reason. We just got into a fight today cause i lied about the stupidest thing. but yeah.. i am and i feel a part of me will always hold back. unfortunately.

Yes, but my reason for being afraid is because i dont want other people to beable to control how i feel but i've kinda come to terms withit and hopefully soon enough beable to deal with it .

No, I've never been afraid to be in love (as I've only felt that feeling once & currently still) or to admit; to myself, the love of my life or anyone else who should be informed, that I am in love. Sure, I knew everything that there was to be involved with being in love that a lot of people are afraid of, but I wasn't one of them.

I have high morals for and of myself, especially when it comes to things as serious as love, relationships, sex & more. Before my love & I started dating; when we were still "friends", I had told him my view on love (as a whole). I told him I believed love arises; grows and develops, gradually from something rather than nothing with time. I told him I believe that you should only say, ''I love you.'' to someone if you really mean it, and if you don't mean it; at all or at the time, or even if you are confused; second guess yourself, then don't say it... My boyfriends the only one I've said, "I love you." to (& I've only dated 2 guys previously before him). Etc.

My first boyfriend (who I hate to even refer to as that as our relationship was mediocre) had told me he loved me. I told him that I couldn't return that gesture in return because we'd just started dating and I was just getting to know him, making a decision such as ''love'' is more difficult than that. He understood, but unfortunately, I guess, he understood all too well... meaning that he finally figured out I wasn't the type of girl to just throw it all away; give myself away. So he cheated on me. And I let him go without a second thought... We weren't serious or committed enough, not to mention steady or mature, for the break-up to actually mean anything. I'm sure if we'd given it time, and of course if he had stayed loyal to me and didn't turn out to be a wh***, that our relationship could have turned into something more. But I'm glad that it didn't because I have found that one person I want to spend the rest of my life with; who I love.

I have high morals for and of myself, especially when it comes to things as serious as love, relationships, sex & more. Before my love & I started dating; when we were still "friends", I had told him my view on love (as a whole). I told him I believed love arises; grows and develops, gradually from something rather than nothing with time. I told him I believe that you should only say, ''I love you.'' to someone if you really mean it, and if you don't mean it; at all or at the time, or even if you are confused; second guess yourself, then don't say it... My boyfriends the only one I've said, "I love you." to (& I've only dated 2 guys previously before him). Etc.

^^ You know i have the same feelings when it comes to this sort of thing. You have a lot of knowledge and i respect you for that.

It's been interesting reading everyones responses so far...especially Bob's. It's the only one that confused me :P.

^Thank you very much for the respect. It's greatly appreciate. :)

No I have not...I think that no matter what they think that I still am going to love them...But I got lucky I fell in love and he loves me too. So you shouldn't really be afraind of love.

YESSSSSS!! All my life!! but its not because im afraid of being heartbroken, Im just afraid of breaking their hearts. Im a veeery confusing and unsure and crazy person. They may just go crazy trying to figure me out and I dont want them to waste their time on me when they could be with someone they actually understand.

^^ I completely agree. Eventually you will find a guy who can "figure you out". A guy who will love you for you. A guy who accepts you flaws and all. That is what love is about. Being able to accept eachothers flaws.

I dont fall in love easily... so I've never realy said it to anyone ^_^ I'm not afraid or anything, just the time aint there.

Aww you guys!! you guys made my eyes water!! thats beautiful you too!! thanks! Thanks so much!! Ill try to open up more...thanks.

Ya i sure am... i guess its do to alot of things but the worst part of it is that b/c i am i push away those that love me. My father is an asshole and used to tell me he loved me and made me promises he wouldn't keep my ex b/f told me forever and always and he loved me we were together 1 1/2 yrs and he cheated on me and now im with this amazing guy but i had to try to explain to him why if i was so happy and he could say i love you i couldnt say it back. It probably doesn't help that i still hang out with my ex but i can be in love but being able to say it merans putting yourselfd out there and being vulnerable and thats what scares me the fear of being hurt again but you may miss out on something good if you live your life in fear ...right?!?

Yeah, I'm defiantly one of the people who are afraid to fall in love. I'm even afraid to start dating. Kind of pathetic, I know.

LOVE was a wonderful gift that everyone needs to feel it.....show it....its just a matter of give and take relationship...and remember this,there's no such a happy ending in this world so dont expect that you will get everything you want.
all you have to do is make the most out of it while you're in love,so there will be no "IFS" & "BUTS" someday.if you get hurt,just learn to let go and move on.......and love again!

I'm a senior in high school in NC and I feel deaply in love with a girl that goes to my school. I finally worked up the courage to tell her how I felt about her and she told me that she didn't want to comprimise our friendship, which I can understand. She's told me that she has the same feelings for me that I have for her, but she's been hurt to many times in the past and she doesn't want to get hurt again. She told me one day that she doesn't think that she is worth anyone waisting thier time on her...that hurt me deaply, because i love her soooo much. She also told me that I should just let her go and stop waisting my time on her. I told her that I can't, won't and refuse to let her go and that when she is ready for "us" that I'll be waiting.

Really. I don't believe in love . Love is just something that someone thinks that is true . It's just a feeling that has a word for it . It dosen't make sence to me, becuase every time i think i feel that feeling for a guy they always take it back and don't feel the same.
That can be just me , but then again I know (everyone knows) they have been though i at less one time . And for what ever reason anyone has in the world they keep trying to feel that feeling that everyone wants to feel .

Even today in class. Someone said that love is lust, but is lust just a sexual feeling you for someone that it , and love is some feeling were you want that person sexual but even more them that feeling before.
Everyone that i know that i tell this too dosen't understand what i am saying or thinking . Which is fine but if you really think about it . Love is not true . It's just a feeling that you think is ture.
To love someone you have to be happy with that person. You don't love them if they don't make you happy . Becuase happieness is something that comes to that feeling that everyone calls love.
To find happieness you have to understand it and you have to know that you don't have to try when you are with that person . And sadly i have to say i know what that it . Being happy and not even trying, and i know this is really stupid for me to say but its true. I don't want to be this happy becuase of this one guy becuase he has already broken my heart but when i see him or look at him i get this smile on my face for no reason . Don't get me wrong its not that i dont want to be happy . I do but i know becuase i'm happy when i think and look at this person I know at one day if i know him for the time i need to know him . I'm going to feel that feeling that everyone calls love.

I am other going around and around and saying the same thing . Or just keep going on with that i have to prove. Which is .... Love is just a feeling that someone what to think is something that hints is which is love. and believe me you dont really love someone if they dont make you happy . and the person dosen't even have to try to make you happy becuase there persions its all you need. no words, no smiles, no kisses, or sex just them ... just looking at them makes you happy . they dont even have to try.

I wasn't afraid to love, I was just not ready for real love. I didn't love myself and I'm a firm believer that you have to love yourself before you can begin to love someone else. And a few years ago, I didn't love myself. I would constantly put myself down and find defects about my personality and body. But, once I began to truly love who I had become, I was able to show that love and eventually, I found love.

Alright well the man im with right now isnt the type to get into his emotions and he told me that from the start and i started falling for him really fast like 3 or 4 months into our relationship and now i really do love him more then anything in the world he is like my best friend and i tell him everything, sometimes i feel like he is the only thing right in my life...but anyway...We have been together now for 6 months and he just told me that he is falling for me..now what you need to understand is that he was with someone for 8 months and didnt love her because he isnt the type to fall in love according to him but now he is and it makes me feel good but at the same time im scared because i have had my heartbroken before and since im leaving for the navy in june i dont want to be the one breaking his heart...I would just hate to be the one who is his first love and first heartbreak...But either way..love is a beautiful thing and im happy that i have found it...theres nothing to be afraid of...i would rather love and get my heartbroken then never know what love really is.

Before i met Marcus, i'd been used by the guy i'd been crushing on in High School for two years and was very wary of ever falling for someone again although looking back, it was never love to begin with!
When i met Marcus, he was in an unhappy relationship but i didn't know when i started crushing on him from afar.
When we became friends and started upping the flirting, i was devastated when i found out he was taken and he told me we couldn't like each other that way. I tried to distance myself from him and forget about him.
But we couldn't. We continued as friends and he told me one day he couldn't be without me. Sarah continously cheated on him and beat him up and after being to afraid to leave her, he found the courage to end it for me.
We're happily engaged now and spend every minute together we can. Six days a week, i stay at his parents with him, lol.
When you find true true love, it's nothing to be scared of, you just have to take the plunge =)
*Gem*

Everyone is afraid of being hurt, but the oppertunity to state how you feel will not be there forever.

Pain is a part of life that we all have to gamble on and endure. It may hurt like hell, but the truth is that every moment of true happiness is well worth a lifetime of pain.

It is very hard to overcome this so-called fear, but when both parties in the relationship put the whole heart into it and work together it makes every risk worth the take.

~~Sher

Im just scared to talk to guys i like full stop o.O i think the only time iv ever talked to a guy i like more then just mates is in drama....
i supose when your not sure wheither they like you to makes it even worse because you dont really want to make a fool of your self and get hurt...

I think im scared to fall in love becuz i dont want to be hurt, i dont want to feel happy and then be crushed, but i also dont want to break the guys heart if i fall OUT of love..so yeah its tough..but i think that once i find a guy that I KNOW beyong reasonable thought is a wonderful partner, then i think i wont be scared, i will feel sooo happy