Babies having Babies

Has anyone else noticed all these kids having babies? Seriously people, have some control!

Just because you've been with the guy for all of 6 months and he says he loves you means nothing!

PLUS, if you're 'so sure he loves you' and just 'have to do it', for godsakes, USE A CONDOM! Go on BIRTHCONTROL, do something! Making babies and having nothing to support them only makes their lives hell.

BUT COME ON! WAIT! Sex is sex. Just cause you're friend is apparently doing it, doesn't mean anything. Sex will always be there, it won't go out of style.

Yea, I agree with you, on most points. I think people should just wait for sex, but if youre not going to wait, then practice some control. Its not fair for a baby to be born to a girl (or young woman) who isnt married.

It doesnt matter if there married or not the whole point is if you dont wanna fall pregnant its not hard to get condoms jeez havnt they eva herd of stds and that

Or the fact that most babies are born into poorer eviorments or have more of a chance of being born with physical and mental defects because teen mothers, not all but a good percentage, fail to even get accurate prenatal care. I think it's becaue they are ashamed or afraid to tell their parents. That these teenagers have a higher percentage of having delievery complications if their diet or emotional state during pregnancy is not taken care of and let's face it teenagers are full of changing hormones that the effects of pregnancy could take it's toll on a person that young and even older.

I'm not condining teen pregnancy, but my friend was on the pill and used condom's and still fell pregnant.
And what about those who are raped?

Have some compassion and don't lump all teen mothers in the same catagory. At least many of them face up to their actions and don't abort.

GEM - I am not lashing out at all teen mothers! I know a lot of friends who had kids young and they are better than most moms! I'm just saying for those who don't have protection, to use it! Plus, some girls think getting pregnant will up their status at school and end up suffering for that!

I just think kids are having sex WAY to early! Like 3mma, your cousin at 13! That is way to young! I'm sure she is an amazing mother, but poor girl won't have many chances to experience that much!

The girls who are on the pill and/or used a condom are fine, it WASN'T there fault, but people who aren't are just stupid!

I'm not dissing people that choose to have sex before marriage (cuz I did)
But dont just jump to conclusions that because they got pregnant that they weren't trying to be safe..
Like when I got pregnant at 16, we had used a condom.. Like we have everytime we've had sex.. But it just happened to be that this time it slipped off or something..
Are you saying that because I got pregnant that I need to be more careful?

I dont think you should be jumping to conclusions like that.. You didn't have to lash out and state your point right away saying that anyone that disagrees is wrong.
you could have just said that you dont understand how it is that teens get pregnant, how they can be so careless.. and ask people what they think about it.
Don't say "well this is what i think, and its right, cuz I'm always right"
I know those weren't your exact words, but its how it seemed to me.
Sorry If I understood what you were trying to say wrong.. But thats how i thought you meant.
no disrespect to anyone.
Just voicing my opinion, I have free right to that.
THanks.
xoxo
--Chelsey

3mma, 3 kids? so her first was at 11 and she had like, no time afterwards to get knocked up but still managed?

kind of finding it hard to believe that. yet nonetheless, whether she's a good parent or not doesn't come into it. if you're underage and pregnant, it's your own fault. i don't feel sorry for anyone who had underage sex and then is upset about having to either give their baby up for adoption or aborting it. you reap what you sew.

Im not for teen pregnancy because its half not fair on the kid whos going to be brought up expecially if its been brought into a poorer family, also it isnt easy on the mother, she could still be in school and not all parents of the new teen mother want to help. Its a confusing and harsh bussiness getting a baby at a young age, i dont see why some people dont wait a while have a life for a few years then have the little terrors.

I agree with alot of people on here... don't group the teen mothers together... i was on birthcontrol when i fell pregnant... we also used a condom.. and to tell you the truth.. i'm 15 i have had my life the way i want it and it SUCKS... till the part that i learned i was pregnant from my pregnancy my life just got better... not worse better.. i'm not looking for petty or people to feel sorry for me... but my pregnancy got me to quiet smoking and cutting... i stopped drinking underage and i have stopped alot of others things that prolly would have lead me to an early grave.. now that i'm pregnant i look back and i see how "stupid" i was... and mind you i'm only 15 and i can say my life was great till i got to the age of nine and i started to get mental abused by mom's xboyfriend which lived with us... so why not THINK before you just amuse... children aren't all bad... and in some cases having them is a good thing.... and i'm KEEPING mine.. and most parents that kick there teen out are scared that they would be a 'bad' parent or seen as a 'bad' parent for letting that teen stay with them... look at the world and how many homeless chirldren there are... not all of them are from teen mommies... they are people that couldn't afford them no matter what age they are.... or were when having the child...

HAHAHA "it won't go out of style"

wow...that made me laugh...

Chelsey - That's right, I DID NOT SAY "Well this is what I think, and its right, cuz I'm always right." So don't go putting words in my mouth!

If you read my other posts, you would of saw that I meant for the teens not using protection. Hell, I know sometimes condoms break and birthcontrol doesn't always do it! I just FEEL and THINK that kids are having sex way to young. It's like right when they hit puberty, WHAM, they're becoming adults, Parents. It just isn't on!

Childhood just seems to be getting shorter and shorter!

^^ i do agree with what your saying, they shouldn't be having sex in the first place. But those that do and do it properly, well accidents can happen.

I don't really care about the facts, 3mma. i don't think your story is really fitting to the subject either. forced sex leading to pregnancy isn't the same as an immature teenager who had sex and their condom broke, now is it?

sure, you've got it SO hard, you were using a condom or were on the pill and it still didn't stop you getting pregnant.
-stop whinging-, it was your own choice to have sex, and whether you've had to abort the baby, or you lost it, or you even had it, is your own fault. i'm not saying 'fault' as though it's a curse- but it's unnatural. it's as unnatural as a 60 or older woman having a baby, because you're still a child. children's bodies are not yet fully capable of making another human, so therefore it's unhealthy for your own sake. stop pitying yourselves, you're being paired into a group because you did the EXACT SAME THING. you had ILLEGAL, UNDERAGE sex, and just because you were being "safe". "SAFE", what a load of. you shouldn't be having sex at that age no matter how mature you think you are. you're not worthy of breaking the law. we have to stick to the rules. underage sex is like littering, or stealing money, it's illegal. and the fact that some of these mothers get benefits for their child is disgusting. they take tax money off people who have to pay taxes each year to buy a few nappies. you aren't supposed to have a child until you are well off enough to, and your body has developed enough to. it's illegal for a reason, and called "underage" for a reason. learn it.

3mma. I hope her dad is in prison! Cause no child should ever go through that. PLEASE OH PLEASE tell me he is in prison!

I understand everyone has the right to their opinion, EVERYONE!
and Im giving everyone thier opinion, But I'm also voicing mine.. and we are disagreeing, its no big deal. I'm not lashing out at anyone, intentionally at least.
I even stated that, that wasn't what you said, I just said that that was the way you were making it seem.
again it was my opinion, just like your opinion was that I was putting words in your mouth.

Well I think it's crazy to be honest. Wherever I go I see pregnant high school girls, and most of them have problems with their baby's daddy. It's one thing to be rapped, I'm not talking about that. And I'm not saying that kids are a curse or even a mistake, because I love them and to the girl whose child saved her life, I'm happy for you.

But it's so true that childhood is getting shorter, and not just with teenage pregnancy, but with the violence too.

Anyway, when you're that young having kids, even if the condom did break, you can miss out on so much. You can no longer put yourself first because the baby comes before you. That baby needs comes first. You can't usually go out with your friends and stay out late or whatever like you would if you didn't have that responsibility.

I know a girl who is about 16 and had already had at LEAST two abortions (which I personally can't agree with) by the time she was at least in the 10th grade. She knew didn't want a baby and couldn't take care of one at that age but she keeps going in that cycle. I know another girl who got pregnant on purpose and I know for a fact that she's going to have a hard time because she's going to find out that it wasn't much of a fairy tale like she thought. She only just turned 16 (15 when she got pregnant) and the father is apparently 13.

I'm just saying... maybe people should wait and live their life for themselves for as long as they can.

3mma - I am happy to hear she isn't living with that anymore. I can't believe her mother let her! I hope she came forward and said something. I know how hard that would be, but he should pay the price for that.

I don't find it necessary to have this thread really, but anyways.

Do I agree with teen pregnancy? No.
Do I think it's always the mother's fault? No.
People sometimes make it seem like such a catastrophy, which I suppose it can be, but then also it is a learning experience from a mistake.

I know this girl in my class who has a two year old child I believe. She moved in with her boyfriend and is now five months pregnanat again. The girl I would estimate is 17, because I'm quite sure she's older than me. But yeah..if you make a habit out of having kids at a young age then I think that's bad.

--Viola

"Frenchboy- The story is fitting to the subject because she is a child having another child...thats what this whole topic is about isint it...?
babies having babies...?"

no, 3mma, it isn't. there's a difference between non consensual sex, aka rape, and a teenage girl choosing to have sex and getting pregnant. basically forceful incestual sex isn't a casual conversation, whereas underage girls having sex could be seen as one. kay? thanks.

*HACKS UP*

but we were having so much fun.

fair enough, 3mma. but you really didn't need to WASTE a post like that for something so NON-RELEVANT to the topic.

In all honesty, if i were to fall pregnant at 15, i wouldnt keep it. adoption, abortion, something, but i know i couldnt offer that baby a good enough life.

Wow Daniellexcore, I have so much respect for you! The fact that you know you couldn't give it a good life, at least not now and you would do that! Respect!!!

Daniellexcore.. if you fall pregnant at any age and don't think you are able to take care of the child you will still go through the medical and all the worries.. i thought about adoption when i first found out i was pregnant then i seen him in an ultarsound then i found out the sex and now i just don't see myself never being able to hold my baby and going through this 9 months and all that pain of labor... if you do adoption to a baby they will not let you hold the baby they just take it away clean the child up and send it to the adoption place... if no problems are there...

I agree with the girl two people above me.
I would never keep a kid knowing that I couldn't take care of it properly.
I would rather the kid live happily with someone that isn't their real parents, then have him or her live in my world and struggle.

Oh trust me, i know it would kill me, kill me to give away my baby, as im sure it does everyone.. but i'd love that baby enough to give up MY happiness [keeping my baby] to ensure my child's well-being [being with prepared parents]

Yeah exactly.
It may not make me happy but my kid will live a good life and that atleast makes me feel like I did the right thing.

True but no one is prepared to become a parent to any child at any age... but some people like myself can take care of their own child but i will have to go without the buying new cloths when i want too and getting what i want instead of what i need.... and i know that the baby will be first

Yea but no matter what age a baby can make alot of people mad when they wont stop crying.. it isn't just teen moms that have there babies die for a reason or SIDS happen.. shaken baby syndome can happen to a child no matter how old the parents are or how long they have been married

Not always.. anyone can become annoyed of a child that is cring or something when they aren't feeling well or when they are down... mothers of all ages can have depression or be mad at the child it isn't just 15 year olds or the teen moms it is everyone that is around the baby that can harm them.. no matter how old they are or if they are ''matured' or not.. and no i don't think that baby cring is the problem.. so people get upset or angry when a young child keeps cring or has a problem to where they just cry babies dont' talk so they cry and most people just get upset and don't know what to do... it doesn't have to do with age or how mature you are... a babysitter can get upsit at a child and harm them.. anyone can

You really don't get it, do you.

Britt no one is ever ready to become a mother or a father no matter what there age was... my aunt was 24 when she had her first and she was scared to death and was financially and emotionally stable but she wasn't ready... no one is ready.. its the fact that the baby comes first at any age that is scary to put someones other life first and to give yours up

My orthodonist assistant said "Did you know they have daycares at the schools now!?" my reply "Yeahhh and I feel so outta place cause I dont have one, its in style!"

lmfao
course i was sarcastic. seriously there are so many teen pregnancies and in my eyes its sad and a cry for help. and the excuse for most is....they think no one loves them so the baby will. pffft...pathetic. [no offense to anyone, half of my friends have them so no big deal lol]

There is actual daycares at school!

I think thats a good idea so they can finish there school, but there is a part of me that thinks it might be influencing to others.

There are also parenting classes, at my school at least, that thay have you take if youre pregnant..
i can understand the thing about how a baby will love them cause noone else will.. during my worst times, emotionally, i felt that i should have a baby, to have someone to love me... luckily i have enough logic to ont have let that feeling influence my actions.. that was a few years ago.

Its stupid and its foolish, the mothers n fathers are ruining the childs life and should be punished,

- I use to think living with guilt was enough,
But I realised that it wasnt,
I need to be punished more

Hey it happens get over i......4 of my friend are having kids and there happy

Edited due to language..

"Its stupid and its foolish, the mothers n fathers are ruining the childs life and should be punished,"

Oh calm down, accidents happen, no matter how many precautions people take, (as i mentioned before, my friend was on the pill and using a condom but still managed to pregnant)

And she has far from ruined the childs life.

Lmao I love people like you... Seriously. Sometimes your better off just not voicing your opinion. Lashing mothers that are young like you know what it feels like. So what if some people don't use condoms. Thats their choice.Or maybe they did use condoms but it didnt work for them... What do you really care about what they do any way?. You act like your everyones mother its sickening... If I offended you I'm slightly sorry. I just dont think sex is a fashion statement lmao and I dont think you should concern yourself with the affairs of others.