Me, Him, and Her... Help!!

Okay... I really need some advice here!! Some reassurance, anything!! Here's what's going on...

Me and my boyfriend Tyler have been dating for about 2 weeks now. He moved here about a month ago and we never really talked much, but him and this girl named Heather ALWAYS talked. Apparently she really really liked him and was trying her hardest to get to him. He didn't really like her, or so I heard, he just dealt with her because he didn't want to tell her to back off. Well.. I went to the fair and Tyler was there and we hung out. We had a great time and he totally ditched Heather for me. He asked me if I wanted to hold hands with him and kept me company while I was waiting for my mom =) It was perfect. Well.. we talked a lot after that and at the next football game he asked me out. Things have been great. We talk on the phone whenever he has money on it, we hug and kiss at school and are always together. Nothing seemed to be wrong...

Apparently something is though. My brother's friend Matt told me yesterday that Heather told him that she was going to break up with her boyfriend and Tyler was going to break up with me and they were going to start going out. I asked her boyfriend about it and he confronted Heather. She told him she had no idea what it was about and Tyler wasn't going to break up with me and she wasn't going to break up with him. Today at school he was acting normal, nothing seemed wrong, so I didn't ask him about it. Then I got a call from my cousin.. he told me that he thought Tyler was cheating on me with Heather. He said that everyday he sees them hanging off each other like they're dating and just always sees them together. He told me that he asked Heather if he was going to start going out with him, and she just smiled big and the bell rang.

I have no idea what to do.. my friend Samantha has lunch with both of them and she told me she keeps an eye on Tyler and NEVER sees them together!! She said that they don't even speak to each other. I told her what I've heard and she said she doesn't believe it and doesn't think they have anything going on.

Soo... what should I do? I want to confront Tyler about it, tell him what I've heard, and ask him what's going on.. but I'm not sure... so, anything?? Anything at all?? Please?? I really need something!! Thank you!

Well. I have something kinda like this going on, or I did before. And well, confront him, I mean dont be all mean about it, just tell him what you heard and tell him to tell you the truth. Then maybe talk to Heather and get her side. I'm sure everything will work out for you. I really hope the best for you. Just talk to him, and if something seems suspicious, then maybe think about dumping him.

Maybe those people who are saying shit just want to make you guys fight and break up, so dont think to much of it.

I hope I helped and good luck. =]

*Aleesha*

Relationships are based on trust. If you trust him, you should be comfortable. But three weeks is not much time to develop that trust. Honestly, you should just ask him. Rumors and lies and stories behind eachother's backs are just so childish and don't get anybody anywhere. Just tell him what you heard, but don't make it seem like you are accusing him. Find out the truth straight from the source.

The he-said she-said game is so aggrivating...

You've only been dating for two weeks. It'll be alright. Just break it off with him, you don't need that kind of BS in the beginning of a relationship! If this stuff is going on now, think about what'll happen in a few months!

Find someone better. Because obviously, he has his sites on someone else.

You hardly know him, anyway.

Sense you've only been 'dating' for 2 weeks, you shouldn't get to worried over it. Just be a women and stand up to him. Tell him what you've heard and you want to know straight out if it's true or not. He doesn't need to know where your source came from either! And if he admits or denies it, you might want to ask him straight if he is serious about you two. (That is if of course you want to be in it for the long run) Either way, this thing won't work without trust! If you don't trust him, it WON'T work out!

Talk to your boyfriend!!

Why are you relying on what other people are saying? Thats how rumours start and how couples break up over nothing.

He;s your boyfriend, you're meant to talk to him and trust him. Go talk to him right now! lol. Only he can tell you whats really going on, and while your at it, go talk to this heather and ask her outright what little game she seems to be playing.

Oh to be young and have these problems again, lol

Thanks everybody =) Whenever Tyler gets to school, I'm going to take him off to the side and talk to him about it. I'll tell him what I've heard, I won't give any names, and I'll ask him what's going on and if it's true or not. I'm not going to say anything to Heather because I'll seriously go all psycho bit** on her because I've never liked her, but I'll get her boyfriend to do it for me. He is wanting to know what's up too and she'd probably give us both the same answer anyways.

If things work out fine, I won't have to worry about Heather anymore anyways in about a month. Tyler is moving in with his brother, kind of far from here, but he's still going to talk to me everyday on the phone and come visit at least twice every month.