Did I do the right thing?

Last week I told my b/f that I had slept with my friends brother. I was 17 and he was 13. My b/f had to practically drag the info out of me though because I didn\'t want to tell him because I thought he\'d break up with me. (I slept with him last yr while I was going out with my ex not my current b/f). My b/f did get mad at me but he told me that he\'d give me one strike to do something bad before he even considered dumping me. Then he gave me a big hug as I cried on his shoulder. He said since it was before we were going out he\'d forget about it, but I still feel like crap. He\'s forgotten about it but I haven\'t. I wish I never told him because I don\'t want him to change his mind and dump me even though he seems like he won\'t (you never know). Did I do the right thing telling him? He says I did, but I still don\'t know. And should I still be beating myself up over this? He tells me not to, but I just can\'t hlp it because I feel so bad about what I did.

I know...I've already been b****ed out for it, and I don't plan on ever repeating that esp since I am 18 but even if I wasn't.

13???? what the heck? why did you do THAT!?

Lack of judgement (sp?) on my part deff. other than that I don't know what I was thinking.

But you Did do the right thing by telling your bf by the by

I don't know how my b/f knew there was something between my friends brother and me in the past but he knew and so I kind of felt like he should know since it was in the past...But although we do love each other to death...I was woried he'd dump me because he is friends with my friends brother (well he was) and I was used to my ex being stupid and stuff and my ex would have said horrible things and dumped me on the spot...but I have to realize my new b/f is not like my ex and he is very understanding. He was trying to help me feel better about being stupid even though he told me I was very stupid and I never should have done it...but since it was in the past he let it go.

That's illegal and probably paedophilic. next.

I totally agree with brit :]

I find the thoughts of a thirteen year old quite repulsive. Seventeen...thirteen...was he even old enough to understand WHAT he was doing? And why on EARTH did you sleep with the child while dating someone else?

Yucky.

Before I begin, this is where I started the 'Babies having babies' topic. Sex at 13 is TO YOUNG!

Anyways, personally, I don't think it matters. If it was before you two were together, it woulnd't matter anyway. I think you put a lot of trust in him for telling him. If anything, I would think this would make you two stronger.

Don't beat yourself up about it.

I think you did bcuz honesty is the best policy

Hey off topic,how do you post a pic on ur profile?

"I find the thoughts of a thirteen year old quite repulsive. Seventeen...thirteen...was he even old enough to understand WHAT he was doing? And why on EARTH did you sleep with the child while dating someone else?

Yucky."

It's not your place to judge her. You don't even know her or the guy she slept with. So back off.

I agree with the advice Britt said, she was spot on.

I think that if you are in a sexual relationship with your current boyfriend, you did the right thing because it is best to talk about all previous partners.

Agreed with Roadandtheradio!

Gem.

Hum. Just think about it dear. I never said you are a "beeping beeper beep."

I said that what she did is pretty disgusting.

"Hum. Just think about it dear. I never said you are a "beeping beeper beep.""

I never said you said that so whats your point?

I agree with Britt. if your Bf is going to dump you for the past then he is not worth the time. because the past is the past and you can't change it. he shouldn't care about it because it was before him but if did happen while you were with your current bf then yeah he should be pissed. and why on earth would you do that with a 13 year old????? no offense but you must have not have loved your bf that you did cheat on with a 13 yr old. why would you do that? why would anybody do that he was barely a kid.

I'm with Gem and Britt.

Britt with the advice, it's good advice and you should take that. Road and Radio also has avery good point as well. And I'm with Gem with the fact you were rude and it isn't your place to pass judgement on a person for their past mistakes. If she even considers it that.

Mostly, there isnt really anything else to say in this post other than what the three lovely ladies above said.

So let it go.

I was afraid that he'd care even though it was before him because that is just how I am used to people being...but he didn't. He was pretty cool about it...(well as much as he could be). He forgave me because it was before I was with him. And I did not love my last ex and so I guess I just didn't love myself either because of things going on between me and my ex so that's why I think I did it.
Even so I know there is no excuse for it.

Everyone. GET OVER IT.
It already happened.
Don't be so judgemental.

So because it's already happened it's perfectly acceptable and therefore not open for judgement? that's not how it works at all. you can't judge the future, as though it was somehow predicted, and then once it's happened not be able to judge it. she did something illegal, disgusting, and at the age of 17 you'd definitely expect her to be mature enough to see it was wrong and out of order. if i was the boy's parent i'd see her as a sick human being, because that's the only normal way for a parent to act in a situation like that.

Hey **** happens life goes on

Its not that bad everybody. Its just a 4 year difference, i do understand that she cheated on her ex and thats wrong but that was her choice and she has to live with it. As for the whole telling her b/f about it, I agree with that. honesty is the best way to go. Its good to tell him but he shouldnt judge you because it was in your past

"That's illegal and probably paedophilic."

...mildly on the twisted side, too. |:

But heck. What's done is done and you cannot change what happened.
Only feel bad about it if you willingly, and without any convincing slept with the boy.

You have a very caring boyfriend. Because if I were him, I personally wouldn't know if I could trust or stay with you. Sorry.

And to the individual above: It's not a matter of her being four years older than him. Rather, it's the fact that the boy was just 13. He is literally a child, engaging in sexual contact with a growing girl of 17, who should really know better. Perhaps if she'd slept with him when he was 18 and she was 22, things would be much more different.

I guess you're right. The 4 year age difference isnt that bad but it is the fact that he is 13. So, I have a question for you. I just recently turned 17 and im dating a guy who is 15 soon to be 16....do you see that as wrong?