Hello to Father?

My father and I were REALLY close back in the day. He meant EVERYTHING to me! Than basically he remarried and he got so distant. On my 16th birthday he called me up, and made up all this stuff about I'm using him for his money bull-shit. I know it came from the wife, she always tried to get him against me. Every year sense than (3 years) I call him up and try and get things going again. He always says he wants a relationship and that he'll call me and never does.

My questions is, would you try this year?

I miss my father but have learned to be okay without him. I don't know what to do. I'm just worried I would regret it one day.

Well I personally wouldn't call him.
I mean you said tht you miss him but you have learned to be okay with out him.
Well when you call and he breaks a promise doesn't that hurt your feelings?
I mean if he's hurting your feelings and you know you can leave without him why would you call him.?
I personally would save the heartache for someone that really deserves it.
If he isn't going to want to be around you at your worst, then he doesn't deserve you at your best.
he needs to be there but if he's not then its his fault not yours.
Don't cry over spilled milk, just get a rag and wipe it up, then get over it.

Me and my father went 16 years not talking. He almost died and I felt a deep sorrow a regret that I have never felt in life before.

We are now very close (with alot of work and discussions) and if he was to pass away today it would hurt, yes, but I would have no regrets and be happy with the time we have spent together.

You need to keep pressing and keep trying. Press for that breakthrough and refuse to breakdown and give up.

You will always love your father and wonder what if, so keep pressing and keep praying. I think it is great that you have been mature enough to realize that no matter what has happened in the past you still love him.

Kuddo's Kiddo...

--Sher

I haven't literally seen my father in 3 almost 4 years. I live in Canada and he moves around all the time in the states. So, it's not like I can just meet him anywhere. It would be a phone conversation. I heard he was living in a hotel for a while because he had to relocate and they didn't have time to pack up anything. So, even if I did call him, it would be private.

I see both of your guys views and everything, and both make perfect sense. I just don't know what to do in the end.

I've been told by many people to just move on. I'm over it and am happy without him. It's like I never even had a father.

But then I think about the future. If I were to get married, or have a baby, what than? I wouldn't call him, but my grandparents would obviously tell him. I just worry if he'd show up. I wouldn't know what to do, or how'd I feel.

Plus, when I called him the last time (ironically last Father's day) it was weird. I talked to him and it felt like I was talking to a stranger.

We did have many good times, and I do love my father. But I think I'm sick of taking the steps. I find myself having days were I want to see where I actually stand, and days where I don't care.

His new family (wife and 2 boys 16 & 18 - not his kids) are horrible. The boys are stoners, and perverts and the wife hates me. I've talked to him before about just having a relationship with him, but he refuses it. He says either we all are a family, or not at all.

With that said, I think I should just move on.

I wish I didnt know my father, I wish I didnt have a father, I wish he wasnt my father, I wish I wasnt born.

My father is a selfish jerk who abuses me, abuses and my mother, mind powers my lil sis, harrases everyone, im constantly under a phycologist cause I have so much hate towards him which has eaten my soul.

- A knife might fall into my hands,
And when that day comes,
God help me