WhEn do yOu cOnsder that its over??

I have this 4 years on and off relationship...
we been on and off like 8 times for the past 4yrs...
is it normal? the worst off time we got is , he left me for 6months with out a single word. no goodbye, like he just disappear...

advice pls.
plss..
plsss...

Have this 4 years on and off relationship...
we been on and off like 8 times for the past 4yrs...

It's normal to have on & off relationships, 8 times isn't that harsh for 4 years. When did he leave you for 6 months, is this recent? If he would just leave you without a notice, i would consider that it's over, especially after a month+

I consider it over.. when im bored.

I consider it over when someone says it`s over? Or else when things that you do get harder to do...like talking and smiling and laughing and what not.

I take that if he left you without notice, you should move on. But, it`s up to you on what to do. It is normal to have an on again/off again relationship, but it`s not healthy really. Maybe you need something more than he can give, or vice verca.

I would say if you really love each other just keep on trying, but if he just left at one point for 6 months, I would end it finally. I would hurt to do it, but what if you guys keep this up for another 10 years, it will just be harder to finish it.

If you love this person, then you will fight to the end. My relationship in the first year was on and off like a millions times I can't count it was that many. Personally I think he was scared. Scared to commit incase of hurt and betrayal, so he ran away constantly thinking it would make it better. I grew closer yet to him and we began to talk about these things, he told me he was just a kid and wanted fun. I was more leniant and let him go out with friends without phoning to check he was ok every 2 minutes lol. We are really happy together now couldn't be happier with the man he has become. xxx alex xxx

Actually i consider all those things already...
but since that person left without a single word, i wont be inpeace unless i get an answer..

you are all guys absolutely correct, he created so much pain for the past years...

im still afraid of losing him totally, despite of this chaotic relationship we got =(

This is may sound a little different, but my friend and i were having a deep coversation about a similiar issue,he bends over backwards to try to pleae his partner and has come to a crossroad.. and i simply asked him to name 5 good truly positive things about their relationship, or 5 good things that his partner has done for him?
he coudn't come up with a single one....

need i say more?

Ill try to do that thing too...
just give me a secs and ill try to think of it and ill share it with ya

I have been in a relationship for over a year. I love him with all my heart and I think he loves me but I also think he plays games. Im not sure but things just get weird and sometimes he is too controling. I don't want it to be over but I don't know what to do. Can things be fixed?

Hey uuhhmmss isnt ur secs aLready up??
kidding
=)

Sorry guys and gals for the delay.
his best part:
1. his older and mature
2. he pursue me to get a job

Thats only two.

It's not mature at all to run off for 6 months without a word. I would say that since he did do this, he isn't in love with you. This isn't a healthy relationship. I think you should end it.

Uhhmmmmmm.........

his too mature that he knows how to play around =( really hurt. omg i know ending it is the best option but how? dont have enough courage.

This is just my suggestion....ignore it for what its worth, it don't sound healthy to me, run like the wind sister....

To answer the headline : When all is lost. That is when it is over.

His too mature that he knows how to play around

^ Playing around isn't mature.

As far as I can tell, you are constantly stressing and hurting over this whole relationship, right? That doesn't mean it's over right now. But it means that it's up to you to decide if you want it to be.

Honestly... is he really worth all that effort that you are putting in? I mean, he went six months without contact... He isn't putting any effort into the relationship.

You deserve much better. And there IS someone better out there. My advice is to look for that guy, instead of wasting your time on someone who isn't worth it.

Actually he says, he left me for 6mons to test our relationship, if he can live without me or if i can live with out him...

to be honest i dunno im stupid or what but when i heared his voice after 6mos of waiting for him, i was happy. i never even nag nor angry..

i try live my life with out him but he can always got a track of me.. actually we are miles away from each other

Okay. why the hell are you even asking any of this? if he can take of for six months without a word or giving you a reason he clearly doesn't care about your so called relationship. he's playing you. and you're just letting him do it like a pushover. you've been on and off for four years? yet he's caused you a lot of pain? he doesn't give a rats ass about how he makes you feel. Move on.

Leaving you for an ex. Hell no let it go! It'll be hard but that's not love. Seems like this guy thinks he can come and go when he pleases. Stay strong and slowly get away from him, if he does it once he'll do it again.

OK! its simply goes this way,i guess your ex bf was trying to escape fm your relationship,leaving you w/o any notice or even the word goodbye for awhile it only proves he's not loving you that much anymore.

so why dont you move on and live your life in normal.just remember if you let go of someone and he comes back to you,it means you meant for each other but if he doesnt comes back, he's not meant for you.

go w/ your life,dont make the rain to ruin your life...coz there's a rainbow after this rain! open your eyes and same w/ your heart,who knows someones waiting for you to love you even more than you expect! ok?