Why Girls are Funny...the Aftermath

So I admit, I wrote that last post in a time of bitterness. I think I was feeling upset because I had just come back from visiting a special someone in another city and I was moody about having to leave her. Anyway, when I get bitter, it usually doesn't last too long. So I thought I would share this humorous and yes, true, story (and write it in a new thread so I wouldn't be bumping a post that was ticking everyone off):

So last night, I am at the club, having fun with friends, dancin' the night away and of course, flirting with girls. Anyway, at one point, I was flirting with this one girl when out of nowhere, a very intoxicated and apparently jealous guy comes from behind and clocks me a good one in the head. At first, I was so confused and just stunned because that has never happened to me in my entire life. And then he clocks me again and I was furious, but my buddy is the club manager so at least the guy ended up in a cop car by the end of the night.

Anyway, I woke up this morning and was like "Ouch, my head!" and then I thought about what everyone said to me on this forum about Karma coming back to kick my ass and it totally did. I feel there was a lot of negative energy directed towards me in response to my last post, as if a bunch of people wanted to reach through teh internets and, well, clock me in the head. I feel the universe has somehow provided you all with the means to do so and it made me laugh. I mean, the VERY DAY everyone said something bad was going to happen to me, it does, lol. Ironically, I feel cheered up as well. Shrug. I suppose girls aren't really that funny, life just is.

PS I apologize in advance for all those that get upset about inadvertently cheering up a "player". If it makes you feel better, my head still hurts.

PS I apologize in advance for all those that get upset about inadvertently cheering up a "player". If it makes you feel better, my head still hurts.

That ruined the apology. Read it. You're right.. It isn't girls, it's life.
Or maybe your morals.

Hope you find dedication, mate.

x

I won't lie, you're probably right Britt. I'll admit it's not like a switch you can just turn off. As for the female "player" story, sounds familiar, I believe that's how this all started actually. But I will take your offering of sorta lika kinda good luck, and do what I can.

Wow, that's some impressive typing analysis. It's true, I'm scared to stop the cycle. "Playing" is kinda like bullying in that sense. Guys do it to compensate for a lack of esteem, hurt in the past or whatever cliche reason. Or sometimes just cause they listen to the wrong head (the one down below) too often. The one girl in the other city right now, she's the closest I've come to a one-on-one, dedicated relationship in a long time. And ya, that scares me. My immediate gut reaction tells me to go fool around with some other girl, to protect myself, in a sense. Of course I have some good friends who have been encouraging me to focus and smack me upside the head (gently, not like some random oaf). I wish all the time that I could just let myself be super dedicated and that a girl would like me like that. But that has never ever worked for me in the past, so how am I supposed to believe it ever will?

"Guys do it to compensate for a lack of esteem, hurt in the past or whatever cliche reason. "
Bull. That is bull. And that is an excuse you're trying to make for yourself to excuse your actions in some way shape or form.

"Or sometimes just cause they listen to the wrong head (the one down below) too often." No. YOU do. If a man loves woman.. He stays dedicated to her. You're obviously quite naive, and I'm sorry it has to be that way for you.
If you love someone, if you'd jump in front of a bullet for them.. you would never hurt them. And you would never go to someone else to protect yourself. Your view on love is very skewed. Don't bring other men into this.

There you go, Britt. I'm a little less "calm"

You're right, ME, I, MYSELF. I didn't mean to imply men in general at all. I was talking about so-called "players". My view on love IS very skewed, it got skewed as life went on. I know my views are not typical and I do not claim them to be right or moral or better. You're right, loving someone, you shouldn't want to hurt them. My love is obviously not perfect. I honestly don't like hurting people. This is why to this day, believe it or not, I am friends with ALL of my exes and former flings except one and would take bullets for all of them.

Funny thing is, before, when I was alone all the time, (and let me tell you, it SUCKED and was much worse than any pain or remorse I feel now), people used to tell me I was naive by thinking being completely nice to girls would win over their hearts. I stayed dedicated to a girl for two years, and then she said she needed a break, and then she slept with my friend, and then she asked for me back. I didn't have the guts to forgive her back then. The female "player" that won me over years later left me for someone else as well when I dedicated myself to her. Call it bull if you want, but it can have lasting effects on someone when something like that happens. Maybe I've gone from one step of naivety to another, and maybe eventually I'll reach some middle ground between too nice and jerkface that isn't naive someday. Til then, all I can say is, I hurt less now than I did before, and I know the differences in choices I've made to come to that point.

I think Britto and Issac have covered my opinion on this quite nicely.

x

Being a "player" will come back to bit you in the ass. Some girl will end up hurting you and you will get a dose of your own medicine. If a girl can't except you for who you are without you being a "player" then you obviously aren't around the right girls.

Good to have you back around, Esham. (:

It's good to be back :).