Please talk to me

Sitting here crying whilst typing is starting to get me down anyone online?

How do i deal with a death?

One day at a time sweetie.... cry, yell, scream, laugh, write. Remember them as they were not as they are now, celebrate their life.

Everyone deals with it differently, some get through it quicker and easier than others.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Its so unfair.... People shouldn't have to feel like this

Death is truly a mystery, until you find it out but of course by then it is too late

when a person sees their end they want to know whether they made an impact on this world

The poor woman didn't have a chance too. It came as a massive shock. At least i remember what she done for me x

I think that's what makes it harder is when its so unexpected. But you do have your memories, treasure them. Just take it day by day.... if it gets too hard for you to handle, talk to someone, they do have groups that you can join to help you.

I guess, i just feel helpless and guilty when i think of something to cheer me up.

Hey there is no harm in being cheered up, no reason why you can't laugh. When my uncle passed away, yeah, I cried a lot, but I also laughed, laughed about some of the crazy things he did in his life, how silly he was, what a wonderful man he was. The family all told stories about him. Its all part of the grieving process.... so laugh sweetie, go out and have some fun.

I know you feel for the family and you feel guilty because she is no longer there for them, but it was her time to go. Don't feel guilty and all you can do is be there for the family, thats not being helpless, thats being helpful.

And no reason to feel guilty because you found humor in something.

Hey, your right. I love her so much as i love the one who is dealing with it the worst. I cant bare to see my boyfriend in this state i cant see him cry like this.

I know its hard to watch those we love grieve this way, but he will heal as well, just be there for him, hug him and let him cry or talk or whatever it is he wants.... just let him know that you love him and are there for him.

Well, I gotta get going home, hope I've helped even if in some small way. If you'd like to chat some more please feel free to PM me anytime.

And again, I am deeply sorry for your loss.

I'm feeling so much better today :D a new day a new challenge I'm ready to take this on now i think. Thanks everyone who helped me xxxxxxxx

You're welcome and I'm glad you're feeling better. Just remember, its ok to laugh through the tears!

Take care.

Wow my day is exactly the words you typed. I have had the worst day alive sittinghere with tears streaming down my face and all b/c students in my school dont know that my mom has cancer and they think its unfair that i can leave class and my teachers dont care but its my life and i dont feel a need for them to know. You find a close friend and work through things one step ata time for now just hold your head up and breathe!!!!!

You need to remember dont forget but she wouldnt want you to be sad she would want to see you being happy and helping her memory live on. PM me if you want someone to talk to.

The funeral is Friday, I've got to be so strong for the hubbys sake. He has this pad where he puts all his passwords on for his computer and i had a glance this morning and it had loads of xxxxx round the words R.I.P nan. It was so sad, but i know shes watching us, because i was talking to him last night about her and all of a sudden bubble wrap fell from the top bunk bed. I said to him 'there she goes again tring to protect you' lol.

He's carrying her coffin and looks really nice in his black suit, she'd be proud xxx

She is always with you and I'm sure she is very proud, of both of you! You don't have to be strong, you don't have to hide your feelings or anything like that.... I'm sure he knows you're hurting just as much as anyone else and doesn't expect you to be strong, just be there for him, but don't forget to express yourself as well.... again, I'm sorry for your loss and may she RIP.

U have lots of feelings for this person n so u shed ur tears for shure this person has been a great human being n " every sole shall face its death " but if the person is nice she goes to heaven directly u should be happy for her as she is free from all her sorrows n pain n she lives happily in gods heaven where not the smallest sorrow or pain can touch her. MAY HER SOLE REST IN PEACE, amin

Thank you xx