In love with a guy with a girlfriend

What to do? i know deep down that he has at least some feelings of love for his girl but he cheats on her constantly, even has cheated on her with me. i have fallen in love. i know he has some feelings for me to, but how do i get over this and just move on because i dont want to disrupt things really i dont. how do you ignore the fact that you love someone that is simply impossible to show it to?

Ok, Think to yourself "Do I really want to be in love with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend constantly?" because if you're in love with him and you two end up getting together some day he'll probably do the same thing to you which will then hurt twice as bad as if you just ended everything now..

If he has cheated once he will cheat again. I mean he constantly cheats on her. Red flag there! And can you really be that sort of person who is okay with being with a guy who is already dating a girl?

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Kissing someone hardly counts.

When I was in first grade.. I had 7 girlfriends.

UH OH. I'MA CHEATER.

First grade, it doesnt matter. high school? it would matter^

if a guy will cheat on one girl, he'll do it to any girl.
same goes for ladies.

He cheats on her constantly? Do you really wanna be with a guy like tht yourself. Cuz chances are if he goes out with you, that he'll do the same thing to you. He'll cheat on you too. He sounds like a real jerk, dont let yourself get into someone like tht.

Yeah thats pretty slack, if someone is cheating on someone, it kinda proves that he has no respect for that person...WAKE UP, guys like that dont deserve any decent girl

Personally I don't believe that once a cheater always a cheater..

Though if this guy is cheating on her with you it is obvious he hasn't grown up enough yet to get out of the stage of being a cheater. Who's to say he won't cheat on you with her?

This guy don't deserve you.
he can cheat once, but it doesn't mean he won't cheat the second time.

What makes you think that he wouldn't cheat on you???? ask yourself that. Sometimes once a cheater always one but not all the time because some guys might regret it and never so it again

"if a guy will cheat on one girl, he'll do it to any girl.
same goes for ladies."

Gimme a break, once a cheater always a cheater is a load of bull!
When you love someone truely, you won't cheat simple as that. I was like Britt when i was younger yet now i feel sick if i think of cheating on Marcus.

Yes this boy sounds like a nasty piece of work and he would probably cheat again. But he's a BOY, he's not in love and probably won't be until he's much older. You're best of moving on and finding someone mature enough to appreciate having a girlfriend.

Good Luck
*Gem*

Actually, it is easier said then done. But it is in the best interest for everyone if you just walk away now.

I used to think that it was possible to remain friends with a person that you are in love with, but sadly it ends up hurting more in the long run for everybody than it would if you just walk away.

Knowing that this guy has cheated multiple times dhould be enough for you to realize that even though a piece of you may love him; he is no good for you and you do deserve better.

The bottom line comes down to how much pain you are willing to endure and inflict upon others. The decision lies with you and you have to be strong enough to say enough is enough and walk away.

When you have come to a point where you realize that the praying, waiting, crying, hurting, anger, confusion, and disbelief is not how you want to spend the rest of you time then that is when you will pick up the pieces and move on.

You have to come to that point first; ;otherwise, it does no good for anyone to give you advice. You will be sitting there going yes, what this person is saying is correct, but I do not think that I am strong enough.

Well, you are strong enough. You just have to get tired of being played like a fiddle first.

Best of luck

~~Sher

Ok i think i need to elaborate more. its so completely complicated. i have gotten him to stop touching other girls (except me) because i told him all of the things said here about his cheating -- once one always one -- he must not care that much -- things like that and he has stopped. i made him promise me he wouldnt cheat on her and he said he would and then i asked him to promise he wouldn't touch me anymore but he wouldn't promise me that one. its so odd, like he really listens to me because he cares about my opinion. the last time he has cheated on her (with someone besides me because i had been the only other girl for a while) was about 2 months ago and for him that is a big step. i mean i urged him to stop forceful though, i told him id stab him if he keeps hurting his girl like that. I am helping him get his life back together though now. he dropped out of high school but i got him a job and i am helping him stop cheating. i have sort of made up my mind though. i am just going to continue being his friend and just get over him like that. now easier said than done but i am going to do it the best way i can, because we were best friends before that started. and THANKS FOR ALL THE FEEDBACK. much appriciated!

Dont date him what ever you do this happened to me to only the guy who went out with me lied to me he dumped his gf and we went out and he was cheating on both of us then he dumped her and then he cheated on me with my best mate who isnt my best mate now and then he cheated on her with 2 guys and 1 girl over the internet. Trust me nothing hurts more then having someone u love, love someone else because if you go out with him u may love him so much that u wouldnt want to leave him n he will keep doing these things and then he will be controling you. Also if you date him your making yourself look like an easy target. This girl he is going out with must really love him and if you come into the picture then you arent going to be very popular because she will tell her friends and her friends will tell other people and alot of people wont trust you especially around there man and you may get called a slut for it because it would be like you stole him from her. Please dont make the same mistake as me you will really regret it it took me 2 years to get everyones trust back and some of those ppl still dont like me for it. Not only that your going to make yourself look very silly because he will leave you soon and also u will be classed as an easy target and other guys will think they can easily take advantage of you. I want you to have a think about the advice i gave you

Cheers

You told him you'd stab him?!?!?
a cheater and a girl who stabs people.

... i'll stay out of this one.
or rather, i ought to.

Nothing in this post sounds like anything resembling love.

To give you a fresh perspective on the cheating:

If he doesn't respect you enough to say no while he's involved with someone else he won't respect you enough in life whether he cheats on you or not.

Like bob said, I see a severe case of doormat syndrome coming on.

Right right all right. ^^ thanks whoever you are, that made things alot mor clear for me in those words. ok ok. so what then, just stop talking to him, or remain friends or what? ((p.s. when i said id stab him it wasn't literal, it was saying that i'd be very upset.))

Doormat is Bob's thing today.

This is going to sound mean but if i was in your situation i would avoid him and if he kept following i would tell him that i wouldnt want anything ot do with him.

Cheers

I think that you should tell him that you cant be with someone htats going to put you through that. if he hasnt already broken up with her, he probably didnt plan to but was just using you. and even if he did, no girl should date a guy that has cheated, especially if its an ongoing thing. because more than likely if hes doing it now, its probably not going to change.